Narrator: Aunt Song
I used to have a happy family, but when my son was 24 years old, they died in a car accident. This thunderbolt from the blue made me so sad and heartbroken that I wanted to go with them several times.
But I'm the only child in the family, and what will happen to my parents if I'm gone?I have suffered the loss of a child, and I cannot let them suffer the pain of losing a daughter in their last years.
After losing my husband and son, I was immersed in grief for several years and couldn't get out of it. So when someone introduces me to someone, I always refuse because I'm not in the mood at all.
Because it was a car accident, the culprit and the insurance company lost a lot of money to me, and I didn't have a problem financially.
Later, my parents passed away one after another, and I sent them away. Originally, I lived with my parents and was very busy taking care of them, so I didn't feel lonely.
But after my parents died, I felt more and more lonely, living alone every day, not knowing what I was living for. Because there is compensation, I don't have to work hard to make money, and besides, what am I doing with money?
People earn money to buy a house and a car for their children, marry a family, and help raise grandchildren, but I don't have any children. I only eat a little by myself, I can't wear much, and I have a house, so I really don't have anything to spend a lot of money on.
When my relatives saw that I was depressed every day, they advised me to find a wife!Living alone, it is not convenient to put a plaster on the back, it is better to have a wife and take care of each other.
I thought about it, so I decided to find a wife. Because I have money on hand, I won't be a burden to my wife, so I have a lot of introducers.
I first found an old man who was three years older than me, I was 57 and he was 60. His surname is Lu, I call him Lao Lu, Lao Lu is divorced, his son followed his ex-wife when he divorced, and now his son is already married.
After I dated Lao Lu for two months, Lao Lu proposed to live with me, and he said that we are both old people and we can't waste any more time.
I was right to think about it, so I lived with him. Half a year later, I proposed to get a license to get married, and I couldn't live together like this all the time. I'm looking for a wife, not "rolling and fighting", I want to be right.
Lao Lu was very happy and said, "Okay, go get the certificate immediately." But he made a request that I help his son buy a wedding house before he went to get the license. Only then did I know that Lao Lu's son was divorced, and the children and the house were given to his ex-wife, and now he lives in a rented house.
I told my relatives what Lao Lu thought, and everyone advised me not to buy it, in case I couldn't get along with Lao Lu, the house I gave away would not be recovered.
Money is still guaranteed in your own hands, don't expect to rely on your stepson to support the elderly, you can't rely on your own children these days, let alone your stepson?I thought that my relatives were right, so I rejected Lao Lu, and Lao Lu was very unhappy, so he broke up with me immediately.
After breaking up with Lao Lu, I don't have high expectations for finding a wife. I feel that others are looking for me, maybe they are trying to make my money, if I can't catch this money, I will have no children and no daughters in the future, how will I live?So my vigilance has become high.
When I was 59 years old, I was introduced to a retired cadre, six years older than me, who was widowed. He has a pension of 8,000 yuan a month, and his family's economic conditions are good, so he doesn't want my money.
His surname is Zhang, I call him Lao Zhang, Lao Zhang has a son and a daughter, and they are all married. His children supported him in remarrying, so it was smooth for me to stay with him, and there was no resistance.
After Lao Zhang and I dated for more than half a year, we thought each other was very good, and the two of us got the certificate. For me, I must get a certificate, and I am not a person who messes with the relationship between men and women, I want to have an upright and upright relationship between husband and wife.
After I got married to Lao Zhang, Lao Zhang didn't do any housework. He said that he didn't do housework before, it was all done by his ex-wife, and he married me mainly because he wanted someone to take care of his daily life.
I'm a little unhappy in my heart, but it's hard to say anything, people marry me, there is always a need. Anyway, I'll do the housework, anyway, there aren't many housework for two people.
In terms of living expenses, I am quite generous, and I feel that since I am married, I can't care too much. Besides, we all have money in hand, and we spend what we need to spend, and we can't take it in a coffin.
Because I do all the housework, such as buying vegetables, rice, daily necessities, etc., all of them are done by me, and the money is naturally spent from my hands.
When we first got married, Lao Zhang would give me 3,000 yuan a month as living expenses. But then it slowly began to drag, and it didn't give it to me, and it became all me paying.
I thought he was careless, maybe he thought that if he got married to me, he would spend the same amount of money on anyone, so he didn't pay attention to paying living expenses. But then I found out that he was not careless, but deliberate, because he was going to post his money to his children's family.
After 8 months of marriage, Lao Zhang's son's family sent two children, the eldest 9 years old and the younger 6 years old, for us to help take care of them. Lao Zhang doesn't know how to take care of the children at all, so let me take care of them, and my burden will be heavy.
Lao Zhang also has an 89-year-old mother, who has been living in a nursing home. But more than a year after I got married to Lao Zhang, Lao Zhang actually took his mother back, saying that "the tree is thousands of feet high, and the fallen leaves return to the roots", and his mother should retire in his own home.
I'm tired enough to take care of my two children, and now I have to take care of my mother-in-law who can't take care of herself, which I can't accept. I'll just ask Lao Zhang to hire a nurse!I'm also in my 60s, and I can't afford to take care of the old and the young.
Lao Zhang quarreled with me, saying that I was a daughter-in-law, how could I not take care of my mother-in-law?
After barely 4 months, I felt physically and mentally exhausted, and I was sick all over. At this time, Lao Zhang's daughter was going to study in other places, and there was no one at home to help them take care of the children, so they wanted to send their 7-year-old daughter here.
In **, Lao Zhang agreed in one bite, and I was stunned next to me!There was another child to be sent to me to take care of, and I couldn't accept it, so I quarreled with Lao Zhang.
After the quarrel, I filed for divorce from Lao Zhang. What I want is for the old couple to live together, to take care of each other and be considerate, not for me to contribute money and effort to help others be old mothers.
In the end, at my insistence, I divorced Lao Zhang. After the divorce, I felt relaxed, and I was exhausted from just two years of remarriage, so I decided never to find a wife again.
I now think that it is really difficult for the elderly to find a wife and find a suitable person.
Living alone is indeed lonely and helpless, but if you find a partner who makes you unhappy and carry a lot of burdens, it is better not to find it!
I'm 62 years old now, and I've developed some hobbies, such as raising flowers, cats, etc., so let's entertain myself!I also volunteered with the aunts in the community to help some people who were in need.
Compared to them, I'm at least financially fine, so I'm already good. As for what to do when I can't move, I don't want to do it anymore, let's live the moment!Life is impermanent, and who knows if I will suddenly die one day.
I think people have to be content, and contentment will always be happy!People are lonely after all, we must accept loneliness and learn to enjoy loneliness.