Children will lose their temper if they don't get the results they want, or if they feel that they are not understood by their parents and cannot find the right way to solve them. Tantrums are a normal emotional manifestation of children, but often tantrums can easily develop a short-tempered and irritable personality. Therefore, when a child has a tantrum, parents should deal with it in the right way. Here are a few suggestions from the experts:
1. Find out the real reason for your child's tantrums.
Some children lose their temper because they can't express their emotions in the right language, and when they encounter problems, they don't know how to vent and can only express them with venting.
One day in the park, I saw a little boy about two years old, holding a small plastic bag, trying to put a big toy in it, but he couldn't fit it in, and he was so anxious that he cried. When the mother next to him saw it, she laughed and scolded him for being a little fool, and the bag was too small to fit in. After all, the child is not small, as if he didn't hear his mother's words, he continued to pretend while crying, and the more he pretended to cry, the louder he cried, and in the end, he was reprimanded by his mother louder. The child's purpose is to put the toy in, you let him not pretend, **willing?If the mother had found a way to find a bigger bag instead of preventing the child from loading the toys, the child would have been happy a long time ago.
2. Listen to your child's inner voice.
In the face of children's tantrums, many parents will want to let their children stop tantrums as soon as possible, so they will fight violence against violence, which is actually extremely wrong. After we were quiet, we talked to them in a gentle tone, first listening to the children talk about the reasons why they were angry, so that the children could release their dissatisfaction.
3. Find the right time for your child to express his emotions.
When your child is having a tantrum, even if you know the reason for your child's tantrum, don't rush to teach them the right thing to do, they won't listen to them at all and don't think you're right. Parents can wait and see what happens, as long as there is no excesses, do not interfere with him first. After the child is emotionally stable, talk to the child again and tell the child what he needs and can express it in the right way.
I saw a parent pick up a child from school, the child wanted to go to the commissary for snacks, the parents felt that the snacks in the commissary were unhygienic, so they did not agree, and the child also started a temper and was unwilling to go back. Parents don't want to say more, they forcibly pick up the child and leave, and the child doesn't do it, so he falls to the ground. Parents try to persuade their children to eat unhygienic and harmful to their health, but the children don't listen to them at all. In the end, the parents didn't have a rut, so they still ordered snacks.
Seeing this, do you think that this parent not only did not solve the problem, but also contributed to the child's ability to cheat?
4. Parents should lead by example and express anger in the right way.
As the saying goes: parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds will be imprinted in their children's hearts. What parents do, children will imitate. If you want your child to deal with emotions correctly, you must first do a good job yourself, and don't take your bad emotions out on others.
A friend of mine is also often angry, and when he is angry, he will lose things, and once he even broke thousands of dollars of Apple mobile phone. I once had a dinner with friends, and the table was transferred, and several of my friends' children were also there. Once when a friend's eldest son was about to pick up vegetables, it happened that the younger son was transferred, and the eldest son who didn't catch the dishes first made a big and loud sound, and then threw the chopsticks on the table: "Don't you see people picking vegetables?"This move frightened everyone present. This may be the legend that if there is a father, there must be a son.
It is normal for children to have tempers, and if you deal with your child's temper problems correctly, children will learn from their tempers again and again.