The purpose of psychology is to help individuals overcome psychological difficulties and improve mental health, but its value is far from being limited to simple symptom relief, but also to help people establish a true and healthy self-awareness. In this article, we will discuss the relationship between psychology and an individual's self-perception, flags, and psychological shadows, and how to achieve a more authentic self and a healthier life through it.
Psychology is not about maintaining the signs.
Although the goal of the psyche is the patient, it is not utilitarian-oriented. It's not simply about helping patients maintain a variety of personas and symbols. Patients often think that once the depressive symptoms are eliminated, they will be a great daughter, a great employee, and have less low self-esteem, self-blame, and depression. Theoretically, this approach seems to be correct, but the direction of the psychological ** is not. The aim is not to trap patients in the mire of signs and false self-image.
The problem with the flag.
This practice is similar to maintaining a flag. The patient gets caught up in the sign and thinks he's okay. However, the logo is just a false self-image that masks the real problem. Like an eighty-year-old grandfather, although he sticks to the signs, when objective life setbacks break these signs, his depressive symptoms will be ** again. Signs don't solve the problem, they just hide the true self.
More realistic**.
The real ** is about breaking the signs and acknowledging that we are not great, glorious, righteous people, nor are we perfect people. We make mistakes and we behave imperfectly. When we truly break these signs, we stop blaming ourselves and don't impose all kinds of demands on ourselves. Instead of helping patients do everything well, it's about helping them break their mark, accept themselves as human beings, and face life's challenges in a more positive and healthy way.
Explore the influence of the family of origin.
Why can't we be true to ourselves?This may be related to the influence of the family of origin. Some people grow up in families where their parents have very high expectations of them but lack warmth. Such a family environment of origin will make children become unconfident, and they will strive to be good children in the eyes of their parents in order to win the love of their parents. They don't dare to show their true selves because their true selves are not loved in this environment.
The shadow of the family of origin.
After being hurt in our family of origin, we are also afraid to expose our true selves in life. We are worried that we will not be accepted by society, that we will not be accepted by others. But we can't change our family of origin, but we can change our thinking and break the psychological shadow.
Addressing the effects of the family of origin.
How to solve this situation?We need to re-examine childhood injuries with the mindset of adults. We need to be brave enough to face the hurt of our family of origin and understand that it is not our fault. We need to reconcile ourselves with ourselves and accept ourselves as wounded but strong individuals. Like a frightened child, who may initially hide under the covers and think that the branches in the window are demons. But when we grow up, we should be brave enough to get out of the bed, and treat it as just the shadow of the branch, not the terrifying demon.
Rebuild self-awareness.
*The goal is to help patients confront their childhood scars through a more mature self-awareness and truly understand that it is not their fault. It is the responsibility of adults to treat the influence of their original family on them, and to bravely face and resolve the psychological shadows. In life, we should also be bold to show our true selves, explore our own failures, selfishness, and imperfections, and see if the world can accept us and tolerate us.
Epilogue. The goal of psycho** is not only to eliminate symptoms, but more importantly to help individuals build a more authentic and healthy self-perception. At the same time, it can also help people better face the influence and psychological shadow of their original family, re-examine the scars of childhood, and look at these issues from the perspective of adults. Through **, we can rebuild our self-awareness, get rid of the signs and achieve a freer, healthier life.