When my nephew got married, my aunt's gift was 88,000, and when I left, my sister-in-law gave me 110,000
In our rural hometown, there is a traditional Xi: when a nephew gets married, the aunt who marries outside usually sends a red envelope of about 5,000 yuan. When the foreign marriage leaves, the mother's family will prepare a table of sumptuous dishes and send them to the in-laws' family, symbolizing the wealth and prosperity of life.
When the eldest brother's son was about to get married, I scraped together a sum of money and finally hesitated to give a red envelope of 8,000 yuan. I thought I would receive a table of dishes to take back to my mother-in-law's house when I left, but in fact, my sister-in-law only gave me a bag of leftover pork and chicken.
Although I felt a little embarrassed, I couldn't come up with anything, so I had to take the leftovers home.
I am Mr. Liu, and I am currently working as a teacher in a middle school in the county. Since I was a child, I have shown good academic performance, but my parents' generation did not think that girls should be of much use in studying. After graduating from junior high school, they didn't want me to continue to go to school, but wanted me to go out with the villagers to work and earn money to support my family.
Fortunately, when my eldest brother learned about this, he returned to his rural hometown from the big city where he worked. He handed over the remaining 3,000 yuan to his parents, and said that in the future, he would be responsible for my education, and my parents would no longer have to worry about expenses.
The eldest brother is a stubborn person, and once he makes a decision, he refuses to back down like a stubborn bull. Therefore, my parents knew that they could not dissuade him, so they had to agree to let me continue my education.
With the support of my eldest brother, I got my wish to enter a normal school in the city.
The eldest brother was not at ease to hand over the money to my parents, so he took me to the bank to apply for a bank card. Every month, he gave me 300 yuan out of his only 800 yuan salary every month as living expenses.
At that time, at the beginning of each semester, my eldest brother would give me 2,000 yuan as promised, and he never delayed my tuition.
I understand that all this money was saved by the eldest brother's frugality and hard work. In order to save money, he didn't even dare to fall in love, and his peers in the village had already entered the stage of marriage and childbirth.
As a result, my parents always nagged in my ear, saying that if it wasn't for my insistence on going to school, they would have welcomed their grandchildren a long time ago.
Therefore, they have always instilled in me the idea that I owe too much to my eldest brother and must repay it in double the future.
After graduating from secondary school, I was sent to teach at a primary school in a neighboring town. At that time, the monthly salary was 1,000 yuan, and I only spent 300 yuan, and the remaining 700 yuan was saved.
In the past two years, with various perks, I have managed to save 20,000 yuan. On the day my eldest brother got married, I didn't hesitate to give him the money.
However, the eldest brother did not accept my money and advised me to keep it as a dowry for the future.
After learning about this, my sister-in-law took the money straightforwardly and expressed her gratitude to me. At that time, my eldest brother was a little angry and wanted to give me back the money, but I resolutely stopped him.
I said to my eldest brother that this is my heart, and he doesn't accept it and makes me feel guilty.
If it weren't for my eldest brother, I might be busy taking care of the children and household chores at my in-laws' house right now, and I wouldn't have the opportunity to teach the children in the classroom.
My eldest brother couldn't convince me, so I had to ask my sister-in-law to accept the money.
Subsequently, the family built a new house, and I contributed 50,000 yuan for my eldest brother. I also bear most of the cost of household items.
I think I've repaid my eldest brother's kindness to me.
Therefore, I decided not to use my salary to fund my family expenses, but to save the money as my dowry.
When I got married, my parents asked for a bride price of 80,000 yuan, but they used the money to buy a new car for my eldest brother, and they didn't have any dowry for me.
I felt quite angry, but my husband told me that he and his parents didn't care, as long as I could marry into his family.
On the day of the wedding, my sister-in-law handed me a bank card with the password for my birthday. She said that this was a part of her and her brother's heart, and hoped that I would not tell my parents.
I guessed that Kari probably didn't have a lot of money, but out of respect for my brother and sister-in-law, I accepted it. This is the dowry they gave me, and I want to show a strong side in my mother's family.
Growing up, my parents didn't care about me, but I had a big brother who loved me. Now, there is another sister-in-law who cares for me.
This touched me very much, and my brother and sister-in-law have always treated me like a relative.
After I got married, I rarely went back to my parents' home. Because every time I go back, my parents always find various reasons to ask me for money.
They always think that my husband and I work in the unit and the income must be very high. However, they only see the surface and do not understand how much we are spending.
As a teacher, I don't get paid much and I have to raise a child.
The physical condition of the parents-in-law is also not good, and they need to take medicine for a long time, which is also a big expense.
My husband is working hard, and our income is just enough to support our family of five.
To be honest, I don't really have any extra money to fund my mother's family.
For many years, my parents would always ask me for money, and when they refused, they would reproach me for forgetting my roots and ignoring them for their good lives. As a result of this frequent situation, I gradually lost interest in my mother's home. Even on important holidays, I just pass on some money to my parents through my eldest brother.
Time flies, I have moved from the rural primary school to the county middle school, and my nephew has reached the age of marriage. The eldest brother told me that relatives introduced a partner to his nephew, and the two had a hot fight and were ready to get married at the end of the year. Subsequently, my parents called me and asked me to prepare 20,000 yuan for my nephew to protect their face in the village.
Although my family's income is not bad, my family's savings are not much due to my mother-in-law's illness and hospitalization. I also have to face the expenses of going to school, so I really can't give 20,000 yuan to my nephew. After discussing with my husband, we could only make do with 8,000 yuan for our nephew.
On the day of the wedding, my husband and I took our children back to their parents' house for a wedding banquet, but my parents did not let me sit at the main table, but arranged for me to sit at the edge of the table. It was obvious that it was because I did not give my nephew 20,000 yuan as they expected.
After eating, the relatives left one after another, and I didn't get any gifts from my parents to other relatives. My sister-in-law came over and handed me a bag of leftovers and told me to take them home for my parents-in-law to eat. Although it was leftovers, I could feel my sister-in-law's intentions and my heart warmed.
When I got home, I put the bag of vegetables in the refrigerator, and at noon the next day, when my mother-in-law took it out to heat it, I found that it had 10,000 yuan in it.
I hurriedly called my sister-in-law **, only to know her hard work. My sister-in-law said that she understood my family's financial situation and deliberately put the money in a bag for me to use and return it to her when I was able. This made me burst into tears instantly, and the grievances in my heart dissipated.
My sister-in-law told me that the card she gave me when she got married had 50,000 yuan in it, so that I could take it out and use it when I needed it. And I forgot about the card until I understood the meaning.
Today, although I am still facing financial difficulties, I have stronger support in my heart. I can face this difficulty calmly, because having such an elder brother and sister-in-law is the strongest backing in my life.