There is also a mistake in loving someone, and the mistake is that you love too much and make people unable to breathe.
Maybe it's the inferiority complex in his bones, but after getting love, he loves each other even harder. As everyone knows, this love is too heavy for his lover, so that he suffocates it.
I don't have my own social circle, and the only friends I make are not around. There is no one to confide in, and there is no choice but to pin this emotion that I think is attached to my lover.
When I first fell in love, it was out of the love of acquaintance, so I would play ** every day, and I would talk until late when I chatted, and even in the middle of the night, I still chatted, and I was reluctant to hang **. Couples in love are in this state, reluctant to be separated for a minute.
During the love period, we are each other's dependence, and there will always be endless words. We've been in this state for a long time, but one day we'll get tired of it.
After a long time, it is impossible to keep talking about the topic. Gradually, there was a gap between us, and problems arose.
Although they love each other, they also want to have their own private space, and they don't want to stick together for more than ten hours a day.
That's why he often advises me: have your own social circle, live your own life, and don't focus on him.
However, it is very cruel to me, love him so much, why does he still not understand me so much?At this time, I still didn't understand the problem, and I still loved as always.
Later, we achieved positive results and ended the seven-year itch.
After marriage, I am still very clingy, waiting for his messages anytime and anywhere. As long as I see his news, my heart is happy. (I summarized it as **, deformed love) at that time
And he showed that a normal person should have emotions, hated the way I behaved, he couldn't stand it. The hand was his tantrum at me, and I accepted all his emotions and slowly tried to change my communicative behavior. However, it was in vain, and after being scolded by him for a while, he still forgot what he emphasized.
Later, because after giving birth, I focused on my children and didn't have a lot of time.
Communicate and share with him. He was completely liberated by me, and I got used to living without him.
I am busy living my own little life every day, and I am very fulfilling.
In this pleasant atmosphere, we had another heart-to-heart exchange. It was only then that I truly realized that my love for my husband was a mistake. He confided in me that he had always lived in my shadow and had no free space. I have to get it back when I see a text message, or I'll lose my temper again.
Later, when I thought about it, I didn't feel that it was really painful to be a party at the time. The quilt on his body made him unable to breathe, and my love was really too heavy.
When we love someone, we have to learn to let go and learn to respect each other. Let this love be pleasant instead of shackling and binding each other firmly. Love is about being free-spirited, and at the same time, it needs trust in each other.
To love someone is to always think about each other, not to blindly tie each other, he is not your product, he is a living person. Being able to give each other some personal space is also a way of love.
I also want to say to my husband: thank you for your tolerance, thank you for your understanding, thank you for your preference for me, let me meet you in my life, and having your company is my greatest happiness.