Recently, many parents have left messagesI want to choose to send childcare to my childI think it is beneficial to the healthy growth of children.
It can not only make yourself and the elderly relaxed, but also reduce many conflicts in the family about parenting issues.
But I can't make up my mind, tangled and hesitant.
For sending your baby to nursery,Inexplicably, there is a sense of "guilt" in my heart
Today, I would like to talk about my own feelings and thoughts on the emotional touch of "guilt", hoping to inspire and help parents.
I'm also a mom of twoWhen I talk about guilt, I often feel it.
For example, when you are busy with work, you can't spend time with your children;
For example, when the child wants me to play with her, I am in a meeting.
So I think every parent wants the perfect cultivation and perfect education in the process of their children's growthWhen you can't balance it a bit, feelings of guilt can be triggered
When it comes to why sending a baby to childcare triggers parents' "guilt", I think there may be the following reasons:
At the cognitive level, parents think that sending childcare is a helpless move, rather than a better option for parenting. It's pitiful to send the baby to nursery so young;
Will there be a lack of security;
Will you get sick easily;
I'm sorry for the kids and so on.
This series of negative conjectures will arise spontaneously, which may be the source of guilt for most parents.
From the perspective of the professionalism of childcare institutions and teachers, it is not enough to gain the trust of parents. The lack of relevant industry norms, standards and training makes many childcare institutions just ordinary childcare classes and small nursery classes. Even the nursery classroom has no corners, no environment, just a few empty small chairs, sitting in rows for class.
It is not a systematic parenting care system for 0-3 year olds built from the aspects of nutrition, health, safety, responsive care, and early learning and Xi opportunities.
Such a development status of the childcare industry may not make parents really trust the institution and send childcare.
Parents' own feelings of separation anxiety - Without a correct understanding of the process and coping methods of separation anxiety, it is easy to feel guilty. In fact, which parent doesn't want to give their children the best growth companionship, and which parent doesn't want to give their children the best growth environment?
Therefore, sending the baby to the nursery is not a helpless move that no one takes care of the child as many people imagine, and the child is very pitiful.
When parents see their children happy and happy in professional childcare institutions, this is a better way of parenting and care than watching TV at home, not sleeping at night, waking up in the morning, not eating well, throwing tantrums, etc.
If we look at the nursery rate of infants and toddlers aged 0-2 in some countries, it is not difficult to find that China's nursery rate is the lowest.
This is closely related to the awareness of parents and the degree of standardization of the childcare industry.
Send the baby to nursery, the baby is not pitiful,
Instead, he entered an environment that was more conducive to his growth.
Originally, I started to write this article in October, when I went to a childcare center in Qianjiang, Hubei Province, to do induction training, and as a nursery teacher, I spent a wonderful day with three babies who were less than one year old.
That day, I felt several more wrinkles on my face and at the corners of my eyes.
Because the child is so cute, he can't stop laughing.
In addition to me, the two teachers who mainly take care of the three babies, as well as a teacher who assists them in mobility, and the principal, like me, will be amused when they see the baby's casual cute expressions and movements.
In terms of the level of attachment of the children to the care teachers, I can see the kind of secure and stable connection that has been established between them.
Caregivers will also inadvertently share with me their cute moments and the new skills they have recently developed with me, as if they were showing off their own children.
And in the kindergarten, every teacher who can see them greets them with starry eyes and calls them by name affectionately.
At that time, I felt that I was in a warm, loving field, and the corners of my mouth kept rising, and I thought that these little guys should be able to feel the same people in his environment as I didExpressions of kindness and lovebar
I believe that when parents see such a happy and healthy baby, they see the environment in which their children live
I like their teachers from the bottom of my heart, the safe environment, the carefully prepared teaching aids, the carefully prepared meals, the scientifically designed daily living arrangements, and the positive responses every time.
When you see this, the guilt will disappear, and the heart will be filled with a sense of joy and accomplishment.
AbsolutelyIt is also very necessary and important for parents to carefully examine when choosing to send a childcare
Check whether the childcare institution has qualifications and endorsements;
Whether there is a systematic nurturing care system;
Whether the content of the teacher's training is comprehensive;
Whether the environment of the organization is created professionally;
Whether the manager's operational thinking has returned to the essence of education;
Whether the teacher's communication and service are professional;
Whether the area of the classroom is reasonable.
I think every parent wants to give it to their childrenOptimal growth choiceTherefore, parents need to think rationally and analyze in the matter of sending childcare, which choice is more beneficial to their children.
As long as there are all the conditions that the child needs to grow in this choice, it is the most correct choice to make for the child.
Finally, a reminder to everyone who can read this articleChildcare practitionersParents' firm trust and choice in us comes from our ownProfessional and attentive
When we feel the process of accompanying children to grow up, you will find how lucky and happy it is to be fortunate to accompany them for a period of growth.