Be "looked down upon" by the people around you, try not to sulk, keep these three points in mind, and the sky will help you
When people are angry, they often worry about themselves. This master of Chinese culture once pointed out that anger is not a simple emotion, in fact, it can detract from the luck of the individual. Why do people want to be full of resentment?Maybe it's because of an unsatisfactory encounter, or a boredom, or because of being despised by others. These circumstances spark resentment.
Take "being despised by others" as an example, because of personal self-esteem and vanity, people care about their own face. Once you lose face, anger erupts.
But as a man, it may not be too "temperamental". Anger doesn't solve the problem, it only disturbs the state of mind, prompts unwise actions, hurts the present and the future, and is not worth it.
What's more, in this materialistic world, it is not a major problem for people to be despised for themselves. Life is just you and me laughing at each other, and people are intertwined.
To practice on earth, there is no need to be deeply troubled by short-term anger. The future is full of uncertainties, and in the past 30 years, who can **?
To be despised by others, he would rather not be resentful. Leave these three thoughts in your heart, or even if God will help you, you don't know.
To survive in society, you need to adjust your mentality. Changes in the external environment often bring challenges and unpleasant things. But when we have strong emotions about some remarks or events in the outside world, it may mean that we are too psychologically vulnerable.
The so-called "fragility" is the weakness and sensitivity of the heart. Instead of having a heart as fragile as glass, let your heart be as strong as steel.
In real life, if you are in a fragile state of mind, it is difficult to face external challenges. They are not family members and will not accommodate us all the time. If you are not strong enough, how can you gain a foothold in a competitive society?
Those who were able to successfully integrate into society mostly let go of their inner fragility while cultivating a resilient mindset. We don't have to mind too much about what others say, let alone care.
No matter what others think of us, that's their point of view, not ours. As long as you live your own life, the most important thing is to do so.
As the saying goes, if you have a wide heart, you will be broad, and if you have a thick skin, you will win. Thin-skinned people are easily injured, while thick-skinned people are not easily swayed by others.
Mr. Li Zongwu once said that successful people are either thick-skinned or scheming. For the average person, learning to face it with tenacity is the best choice.
Cultivating a resilient mindset is a top priority before dealing with problems and achieving yourself.
In the journey of life, I gradually realized the simple four-word philosophy of "laughing at it".
The villain mocks, and we laugh indifferently;The people around us despise it, and we smile at it;Competitors are sarcastic, but we still laugh right. There is no fluctuation in the heart.
A smile is not only an expression, but also a state of mind. I don't care about their words and deeds, and I don't mind their evaluation. What they say, what I do, I don't care about what they think.
Some people may question that the other party is strong, can we still "laugh it off"?In fact, the strength of the other party does not seem to be related to our attitude.
Furthermore, no matter how strong the other party is, it does not mean that we need to flatter them;The wealth of the other party does not mean that we should feel inferior.
Jin Yong once said: "He is strong by him, and the breeze blows the hills;."He is crossed by him, and the bright moon shines on the river. ”
In the face of contempt for the strong, the first thing is to stay "calm", and the second is to retreat. Remember, keeping a low profile is the best choice to change your "destiny".
Many people have surpassed those who used to despise them by "keeping a low profile". "Don't bully young people into poverty", this sentence points out this principle. In this world, the strong may not always be strong, and the weak does not mean that they will always be weak, the key lies in our attitude.
When we move forward slowly, like a thin stream, the final victory belongs to the one who perseveres to the end.
There is a notion worth remembering – the pursuit of the long-lasting, not the ephemeral. It may seem powerless at the moment, but no one can predict the future variables. Therefore, only by moving forward pragmatically, keeping an eye on the future, and walking steadily, can we win more happiness.
There is a quote that touched me deeply: "The best revenge is to live better than those who have hurt you." ”
Others may look down on us and expect us to suffer more and get into deeper trouble. Their mentality is that as long as they are happy and others are unhappy, they can be at ease.
There are too many people in life who "want others to be bad". They seek inner vanity and satisfaction by striking others and weakening their fighting spirit.
In the face of these people, there is no need to confront them, let alone argue with them, but to live happier and more confident. When we become confident and happy, it is precisely the moment when they start to feel pain.
Life is a long journey, and the leader is not necessarily the ultimate winner. Only those who have the last laugh can be considered winners.
In the years to come, be a wise man who pursues a long stream of water, pursues a lasting rather than a short time, lives happily and happily, and believes that fate will also favor us.