Blind date is an ancient and modern way of marriage and love. In China, blind dates have a long history, from ancient matchmaking to modern blind date shows, blind dates have always been a way for many people to find love and marriage. The advantage of blind date is that it can increase the chance of meeting the opposite sex, and it can also allow both parties to have more understanding and trust under the recommendation of parents or third parties. Blind date is also a way for many parents to match their children, and they hope to help their children find a suitable partner and start a family as soon as possible through blind dates.
However, with the change of the times, more and more young people have shown an attitude of rejection and antipathy towards blind dates. They believe that blind date is a utilitarian, depressing, embarrassing, and even insulting behavior, and they are unwilling to be interfered with by parents or third parties in their feelings, nor are they willing to be bound by various conditions and standards. They prefer to be in free love, meet the opposite sex through their own social circles or online platforms, and develop relationships according to their own preferences and rhythms. Some people would even rather die alone than go on a blind date.
Why are young people so averse to blind dates?From a social and psychological perspective, this paper analyzes the reasons why young people reject blind dates and how to change this situation.
From a social point of view, an important reason why young people reject blind dates is that blind dates are out of step with the times. Blind date is a traditional way of marriage and love, which adapts to the social environment and values of the past, but in today's society, blind date no longer meets the needs and expectations of young people.
Blind date is a conservative way of marriage and love, which emphasizes the external conditions of both parties, such as matchmaking, appearance and figure, education and income, while ignoring the internal factors such as character interests, values, and lifestyles of both parties. Blind dates are often a quick, superficial, or even blind choice, which does not give both parties enough time and space to understand and adapt to each other, nor does it give both parties enough freedom and rights to choose and reject each other. It is a passive, uninteresting, and even painful process that makes both parties feel stressed and constrained, and also makes both parties lose the joy and romance of love.
Blind date is a backward way of marriage and love, which has not kept up with the development and changes of the times. In today's society, young people's concepts and ways of marriage and love have undergone great changes, they pay more attention to personal self-realization and happiness, pursue more personality expression and multiple choices, and respect the existence of differences and equal communication. Young people have more channels and ways to know the opposite sex, they can expand their social circle through a variety of social software, dating, interest groups, offline activities, etc., they can enhance their feelings through various chats, games, travel, etc., and they can find their true love through various trial and error, separation, renewal, etc. In comparison, blind dates seem too single.
First, it is stereotyped, boring, and cannot meet the diverse and personalized needs of young people.
From a psychological point of view, an important reason why young people reject blind dates is that blind dates hurt their self-esteem. Blind date is a kind of evaluation and judgment of oneself and the other person, and it often touches the sensitive and vulnerable places of the person, making people feel disrespected and unaccepted, thus hurting self-esteem.
Blind date is a kind of self-denial, which hints at one's own failure and incompetence in the marriage market. Blind date means that you have not found a suitable partner through normal means, and you need to rely on the help of parents or third parties, which makes you feel inferior and powerless. Blind dates also mean that you need to show your strengths and charms in a limited time and space to win the favor of the other person, which makes you feel nervous and depressed. Blind dates also mean that you need to accept the evaluation and judgment of the other person in order to decide whether to continue the relationship, which makes you feel uneasy and worried. The blind date made me lose my self-confidence and self, and let myself fall into a passive and negative state.
A blind date is a kind of harm to the other person, which exposes the shortcomings and inadequacies of the other person. Pickiness and screening of the other party, it often magnifies the external conditions and internal factors of the other party to judge whether the other party meets their expectations and standards. Blind date is also a kind of indifference and disregard for the other person, which tends to ignore the feelings and needs of the other person in order to meet their own interests and goals. It is also a kind of hurt and rejection of the other person, which tends to end a relationship without a beginning in a rash and casual way, making the other person feel taken advantage of and abandoned.
Therefore, blind date is a two-way self-esteem injury that makes both partners feel disrespected and not understood, leading to rejection and resentment. It is also an inefficient way of socializing, and it is difficult for both parties to truly understand and appreciate each other's inner qualities and personality traits, thus cultivating real feelings and intimacy. It is also an unnatural way of falling in love, and it is difficult for both parties to enjoy the fun and romance of love, so as to achieve self-satisfaction and self-realization.
Blind date, it not only damages personal dignity and self-confidence, but also destroys the sincerity and trust between people, and cannot meet people's yearning and pursuit of love. Therefore, young people often abandon the backward marriage and love model of blind date, feel and choose with their own hearts, and create and manage with their own actions, so as to find true happiness and joy.
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