Eight tricks to guard against when walking the rivers and lakes
Trick 1: Hypocrisy.
Find someone behind your back to break one of your legs, and then come forward to give you a pair of crutches, and then you will treat him as a benefactor, thinking that you can't even walk without him.
Trick 2: Kill.
Constantly praising you, praising you, making you carried away, arrogant and frivolous, when you start to float, you are not far from making a big mistake.
Trick 3: Grab the credit.
Find ways to grab your credit, attribute your credit and dedication to yourself, and always want to let yourself get for nothing.
Trick 4: Isolation.
Speak ill of you behind your back, make others hate you, don't associate with you, and cut off your interpersonal relationships with others.
Trick 5: Shake the pot.
All the dirty work and tiring work, the things that are easy to make mistakes are handed over to you, and when something goes wrong, you will be pushed out, and you will be held responsible.
Trick 6: Make a trip.
In your work business, you will be stumbling and bad, so that your project or your work cannot be carried out at all, and you cannot continue to do it.
Trick 7: Borrow a knife to kill.
Set up an enemy for you, then create misunderstandings, create contradictions, and use others to deal with you.
Trick 8: Spread rumors.
Use facts as the basis, keep telling others bad things about you, and others will believe it if you say too much, so that you have no way to solve it.
Why can't you be too nice to a person.
1. When you treat a person for a long time with kindness, if the person's level of cognition is not high and the level is small, then he may directly understand your friendliness as a kind of naturalness, or even as a kind of flattery.
2. If he really thinks so, then he will most likely understand your relationship as he is higher than you, so he will hate you because of some small things, and forget all the good you did to him before.
3. This kind of performance is also called malice of the recipient in psychology, that is, excessive help to others without boundaries will stimulate the malice in the other party's human nature.
4. Therefore, no matter how intimate the relationship is, we should be measured and try to control the good within the appropriate range.
Precipitate yourself and accumulate steadily.
1. Review your goals.
Don't forget why you set out because you've gone too far.
In the desert, people often get lost.
Because there are no markers in the desert, the terrain will change when the wind is strong.
Without a goal, people are often trapped in the desert and unable to get out.
Sailing at sea, it is difficult for ships to dock without lighthouses.
The same is true of life.
Don't forget the original intention, you have to always.
Always look at your goals and ask if your original intention is still there.
Only in this way can a person be consistent and firmly walk on the road he once had after going through the best and the wind and frost.
2. Insufficient acceptance.
No one is perfect.
Everyone has shortcomings, and that's not a bad thing.
The ancients said: If you have heard it, you will be happy.
When they heard about the shortcomings, the ancients were very happy.
Zeng Guofan even named the study "Qiu Que Zhai".
Because this is the way to perfect oneself and cultivate oneself.
There are shortcomings, people can improve.
Only by accepting the deficiency can we make up for the deficiency.
Learn to summarize. What does a person's mental maturity look at?
Some say it depends on age.
But when many people are fifty years old, they are still not as sensible as a thirty-year-old.
Some say it depends on the experience.
Some people have been through ups and downs for half their lives, and they still don't understand affairs, and their lives are a mess.
A person's maturity depends on reflection and summary.
Look at his reflection on his life experience, and look at his own summary of life experience.
People can't let the days flow on themselves in vain.
The geese have left traces. Every day that passes, there is a day of harvest.
You can't be confused, you must be good at reflection and summary.
In this way, people do not fall into the same pit too often.
In this way, the experience of life has its value and meaning.
4. Digest emotions.
The world is troubled, and everyone is unsatisfactory.
When we're emotionally upset, we've all become less like ourselves.
It's hard to control your emotions.
It is the practice of a person's life.
Emotions are useless, no matter how angry a person is, he cannot change what has happened.
The only thing we can do is change perceptions.
Use emotions as a reminder to get to know yourself on a deeper level.
Only in this way can a person slowly take control of himself and digest bad emotions.
5. Stay focused.
There are very few things that a person can do in this life.
Writer Wang Meng once lamented that he had learned too much to make decent achievements in one aspect.
Good big company like Google.
Prefer to hire someone who has 100% expertise rather than 80% expertise in all five areas.
In the general direction, focus on one area in order to make yourself better.
In small things, focus on not distracting, in order to do a thing perfectly.
Concentration is both ability and practice.
Putting aside distracting thoughts and focusing on the present, a person can have a broad future.