Juanjuan is my best friend, and she's been having some confusion lately. She and her boyfriendRowanThere is a small controversy between themBride priceThe problem sparked an unexpected conflict. Let's look at this from Juanjuan's point of view.
Juanjuan andRowanI've been dating for almost three years, and my relationship has always been stable. Both of them want to have a happy oneMarriagehave a common plan for the future. Juanjuan's friend Xiaofang recently got engaged, and her man gave her 200,000 yuanBride price, which made Juanjuan very envious. One day, Juanjuan andRowanEating and chatting at a barbecue restaurant. talked about Xiaofang'sBride price, Juanjuan couldn't help but askRowan, if they get married, how much his family intends to giveBride priceWhat about it?In fact, Juanjuan was just a joke at the time, and she didn't take it seriously. ButRowanBut he thought that Juanjuan was serious, and he was confused by Juanjuan's question.
When Juanjuan joked that it would cost 250,000 yuanBride pricetime,Rowanthinks Juanjuan is serious. RowanPutting down the wine glass, he looked at Juanjuan with a confused gaze, trying to see her true thoughts in her eyes. And Juanjuan is deliberately teasingRowanIn response, the two fell into a wordless eye at each other. RowanThe first one gave up looking at each other, took a big sip of wine, and then told Juanjuan seriously: "250,000 yuan."Bride priceIt's too high, our family can't afford to pay so much. Juanjuan felt aggrieved and angry after hearing this, she feltRowanThe answer is incorrect, thinkRowanUnwilling to pay enough for her.
Juanjuan said that she was just joking, andBride priceThe problem needs to be resolved through consultation between the two parties, and it is not as much as she can say. She felt that the two had been together for so longRowanIt is important to understand her character and the meaning of the jokes. However,RowanStill sticking to his point of view, he said, "Even though I love you, I have to make it clear beforehand." I can't ignore reality for the sake of feelings. It's impossible for our family to pay that much money. ”
Juanjuan felt sad and disappointed, she didn't expectRowanWould take a joke so seriously. She also sighed: "I just wanted to test your commitment, but I didn't expect you to be unable to accept this test, and you don't even have the ability to joke." If you think I'm asking too much, then we'd better break up. After Juanjuan finished speaking, she turned around and ran. Rowandidn't catch up with her, and the three-year relationship between them came to an abrupt end. Bride price's misunderstanding made the love between two people come to naught.
Juanjuan recalled this misunderstanding afterwards, and she began to reflect on her words and deeds. She realized that she might have easily misled by making a joke that she shouldn't have madeRowanunderstanding. At the same time, she realized that she was rightBride priceThe expectations are too high and do not take into account the other party's familyEconomyCondition and affordability. This experience has made Juanjuan grow a lot. She realizes that communication and understanding are crucial in a relationship. She thought she was andRowanThey already know each other well, but in fact, there are still some hidden differences and misunderstandings between them.
This breakup made Juanjuan more aware of the fragility of feelings. A joke can cause such a big conflict that the two can't let go. She began to think about how to better handle problems and communication in a relationship to avoid similar misunderstandings and hurts.
Juanjuan andRowanThe story between us tells us that in a relationship, jokes can deepen understanding and interaction between the two parties, but it can also lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. When dealing with emotional issues, we should communicate openly and carefully choose our words to avoid hurting the other person. Bride priceAsMarriageIt has cultural and traditional significance, but it should also be negotiated according to the actual situation of both families. ValuesThe difference andEconomyConsideration of the situation is a factor that needs to be taken seriously.
Finally, Juanjuan's story reminds us to cherish and love our feelings, and not to give up easily because of the impulse. When dealing with problems, reason and sincerity are the solution to difficultiesCritical。Through reflection and growth, we can better face the challenges in our relationships and achieve true happiness and mutual understanding.