Introduction:
Yang Jiang once said: "A decent middle-aged woman can still maintain her kind and beautiful temperament after the smoke and fire."
A place of chicken feathers, no one needs to know, the years are quiet, and self-contained
After three years of retirement, quietly learn to do the following five things well, so that you can live freely for the rest of your life.
Learn to live minimalist and enjoy the rest of your lifeLearn to grow inward and refuse to consume yourself and your family;
Exercise more when you have nothing to do, and read more books when you have nothing to do, no longer be a "good person", control your emotions, adjust your mentality;
Let go of anxiety, don't worry about unworthy people and things, do what you like quietly, and live in the moment.
SocietyLove yourself more, be kind to your spouses, and work together to be each other's support and spiritual companionship on the way to old age.
1. Minimalist life, comfortable and happy.
People live for a lifetime, and each has his own way of livingJoy and sorrow are incompatible, and joy and sorrow are incompatibleFinding a lifestyle that suits you is the greatest blessing.
After retirement, make a break from life, cut off unnecessary social and circle, and be with comfortable and interesting people.
Give up material desires, clean up your home, and clean up your lifePlain life, happy and comfortable.
Leave behind the people and things that consume you and control your emotions, and enjoy the peace and quiet of your alone time.
Separation is not only a material division, but also a spiritual separation.
Materially reduce the inner needs, and spiritually pursue high-quality collocation.
Reading and traveling is the best way to improve cognition and broaden your horizons and horizons.
Being away from the crowd is not lonely and lonely, but in your own timeMake yourself who you are.
After three years of retirement, try not to buy things that you don't need at the moment, contact more people with the same frequency, read more, and think more.
Minimalist material enjoyment, abundant spiritual needs, in the time of solitude, facing the warm sun, comfortable and happy.
2. Refuse internal friction and grow inward.
Some people say: refusing internal friction is the best antidote to life.
There is only one kind of success in this world, and that is to live on your own terms.
After retirement, no longer consume yourself, no longer worry too much about the future, and learn to grow inward.
In the past, I was always worried about what had not happened yet, I scared myself, I couldn't sleep well, I couldn't eat, and I was uncomfortable.
Now, live a quiet life, things happen, I won't be in a hurry, I won't complain, and I won't blame anyone.
If I can solve the problems by myself, I will solve them by myself, and if I can't solve them, I will ask for help, and if I can't solve them, I will let them go.
Life is always about looking forward, not necessarily solving all problems.
I learned to change what I could change, and in the face of things I couldn't do, just let go.
In life, 90% of the problems can be solved with money, and you only need to put your own mentality well.
Internal consumption of oneself is just spending money in distress, and at the same time passing the buck to others.
Accusation is the most important way of life, dare to admit anything, dare to take responsibility.
Constantly consuming himself, he can't solve anything, and he also puts himself in a dead loop.
Grow inward, constantly improve self-awareness, and improve the ability to solve problems.
Living calmly and indifferently, without consuming oneself, is a kind of growth, but also a way to enjoy life.
3. Emotionally stable and not a "good person".
All our bad tempers are nothing more than powerless venting on ourselves.
In the past, every time I lost my temper, I always thought that everything was someone else's fault.
thinks that he has done a good job, not only wronged himself, but also endured himself, just to become a "good person" in the eyes of others.
However, it was only discovered after the yearsIf you don't be a "good person", you will live a better and more comfortable life.
If you don't be a "good person", you don't have to wronged yourself, you don't have to hide your emotions, do what you should do, and do everything else.
When we see everything through and think it through, your emotions will naturally stabilize.
Everything that should happen in the earthly world is a normal thing, even if it is unexpected, it is an accidental event.
Emotional stability allows you to think calmly and make good judgments.
In the past, as long as the people around me had demands, I would give it wholeheartedly, thinking that as long as I did a good job, I would be recognized.
Now, I've found that your voice is only useful if you're truly capable of living.
Be an emotionally stable person, provide good emotional value to others, and make yourself truly useful is a good person in the eyes of others.
4. Enjoy the moment and no longer be anxious.
Anxiety is just an excuse for us to ask for troubles, and we can enjoy life only by living the present moment.
Mu Xin once said:Life is all about not knowing what to do all the time.
In a fast-paced life and unpredictable times, being able to enjoy the present moment quietly can get you out of anxiety.
No matter what others say, don't let other people's words lead you astray from your own pursuits.
Do what you want to do, live the life you want, enjoy the best mood in the moment, and don't have to worry about the future.
During this period of time, I think Dong Yuhui gave us the best answer.
Follow your own wishes, do what you want to do, and do what you can do well.
After I retired, many people said to me, you are good at tai chi, and you still have a qualification certificate, so you should accept apprentices to teach others how to box.
Some people also say that when you retire, you should lie down and enjoy life, can you really make money by working so hard to do yourself?
No matter how others plan for my future, I only enjoy my own wishes and follow my heart's pursuits.
Boxing, writing, it's all part of my retirement life, and it's a hobby for the rest of my life.
I enjoy the beauty of boxing in the moment, the joy of writing, and that's enough.
5. Love yourself, treat your wife well, and spend the rest of your life together.
I saw someone say that the coolest thing for a retired woman is to leave a man.
I feel that after the woman retires,While loving yourself, you must learn to be kind to your wife.
As long as there is no principled thing between husband and wife, so many years of relationship can not be forgotten by leaving.
Since we can't change our wife, let's be kind and accept him.
Some small flaws are real life, no one is perfect, men are just not good at expressing their emotional appeals.
Perhaps, inadvertently, his childlike behavior will move you.
On the way to get old, spend the rest of your life hand in hand with your wife who has been with you for decades, and enjoy the most beautiful sunset red together.
No matter what happened when you were young, let go of your entanglements, let the past clear, and move towards the future together.
Retirement means that we have reached the second half of our lives, and the competition is not fame and fortune, but mood.
Whoever has a good mentality and a stable mood will be able to live a comfortable and comfortable life!
Author: Huagui Zen Heart.
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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