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If it weren't for Cai Lei, many netizens wouldn't know Duan Rui.
If it weren't for ALS, many netizens, including me, might not know about Cai Lei.
This originally happy young couple, like all lovers who eventually become married, live a happy life and have a happy marriage.
But, as Shi Tiesheng said, as far as fate is concerned, Hugh ** said.
Tomorrow or the accident comes first.
In the prime of life and a successful career, Cai Lei, the former vice president of JD.com and the first person to issue electronic invoices, suffered from ALS, the world's largest terminal illness.
And what is even more commendable is that his wife Duan Rui will never abandon each other, and they will depend on each other through thick and thin.
Many netizens said that this is love!Netizens admired her persistence and bravery, and admired her optimism and calmness.
I wanted to write an article about Duan Rui's original family, but I didn't find exact information about her original family on the Internet**, but I learned a little about her original family from some of her previous interviews.
However, recently Duan Rui was interviewed again and responded positively to his parents' influence on him for the first time.
When she was growing up, her parents told her these three points.
1. Don't shy away from everything.
Parents told Duan Rui not to avoid everything.
In the face of life's difficulties, she did the same.
Just got married for more than a year, and she was still breastfeeding, her husband Cai Lei suffered from ALS, and Duan Rui, who was not yet 30 years old at the time, faced Cai Lei's request for divorce, she categorically refused, saying: "Marriage, isn't it about providing each other's backing, I am your backing." ”
In the face of Cai Lei's increasingly serious illness, she gave up her job with an annual salary of one million and joined the scientific research of ALS while taking care of Cai Lei.
She wholeheartedly fulfilled Cai Lei, shared the wind and rain with him, and shared hardships together, she was his wife, his comrade-in-arms, and his partner.
They are lifelong friendships.
In the face of the sudden doom of life, she was not pessimistic or indulgent, but chose to be optimistic and positive and face difficulties.
She is calm and calm, and she is not afraid of difficulties;She is optimistic and strong at heart.
Not to run away and face problems head-on is the strong confidence brought by her original family.
2. Don't set limits on girls' lives.
In the interview, Duan Rui said: "They never cultivated me as a standard girl, and they didn't say what you should do as a girl." What should I do as a boy?”
I especially agree with Duan Rui's parents' concept of girl parenting.
In my opinion, there is no distinction between men and women in education, only individual differences.
Girls can also be adventurers, they can be aggressive, they can play unscrupulously, and they can challenge any impossible.
I remember my friend talking to me about her daughter's basketball lessons some time ago.
Her daughter, like mine, is in the second grade of primary school.
Her daughter wants to learn to play basketball, but there are no girls in the class, and most of them are boys.
She asked her mother, "Why are there no girls in the class, only boys can play basketball?"”
Her mother said, "Of course not, girls can play basketball as long as they like it, and girls can do what boys can do." There is no distinction between men and women. ”
After listening to his mother's answer, the child signed up with confidence and became the only girl in the class to learn basketball.
Do not set limits on the girl's life, let the child give full play to his life possibilities, related to the child's future choice, related to her life direction.
As Duan Rui said, my parents have never set limits on my life, or even on my roles.
3. Have a self-identity and enjoy your choices.
Duan Rui stood firmly beside Cai Lei, and someone asked if it was because of the constraints of responsibility?
Duan Rui said calmly: "I don't think I'm bound by responsibility.
Standing by Cai Lei's side, I feel that it is because of love, because I agree with the path he has chosen, because I agree with his career, I feel the kindness of these people around me, and I feel that I am lucky to be able to do this in this life. ”
After Cai Lei fell ill, in order to raise funds for scientific research, Duan Rui took on the important task of anchoring the icebreaker station, and the icebreaking income was not taken a penny, all of which was used for scientific research investment.
"When I was in high school, my classmates and I wanted to change the world a little bit and do something good for society," she said. ”
In her opinion, investing in a scientific research team with ALS is more valuable and meaningful than a job with an annual salary of one million.
She loves her choices and doesn't regret them.
She is a family member of the patient, but she is also an individual of herself.
In her self-esteem, doing what she thinks is right and meaningful, I think this is one of the reasons why she is always optimistic and open-minded.
Write at the end. In the book "Raising Girls", there is such a sentence that impresses me:
You will see the connection between the childhood you gave her and the strength and quality she has today.
When you leave, a good woman will continue to live, and she will also teach everything you have taught her and teach her offspring. ”
I think so. Duan Rui's parents taught her not to run away from trouble, taught her to have no limits in life, and taught her self-identity, these unique educations integrated into Duan Rui's blood have made her now strong and smiling in her heart.
As a girl's mother, I am always looking at my own girl's education.
All the love in the world points to reunion, only the love of parents and children points to separation.
I hope that in the upbringing of my daughter, as a mother, I will not lag behind and will always be positive.
Encouragement to everyone!
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