First of all, I don't have to make a blind date column to let everyone fall in love or get married.
It's just a channel for those in need.
Draw the key points, and there is a need.
You must eat and sleep, but you don't have to talk about love.
You need it, come to me.
But if you think that Lao Tzu is going to be single, long live being single, but everyone around you is talking about someone, I have to talk about one, then you don't have to.
I support every single friend.
As long as you are having a good life, why bother looking for a partner everywhere.
Love, how to say it, is not a charcoal in the snow, it can only be regarded as the icing on the cake.
If you have a full life of flowers, singing every night, finding a partner to ride a horse together is more like the prosperity of the world, and the happiness of one plus one is greater than two, and it is indispensable.
But if you're tired of living on your own, you've exhausted all your strength to cope with the life in front of you, and you still have to think about where to find a partner, you don't have to.
Finding a partner is to add to your cake, not to block your day.
I have a friend who is also looking for me on a blind date recently.
Buddy Beijing, not tall, 1.73 meters, 35 years old, local, not rich, but with a house and a car, the small life is quite leisurely.
But he is not very likable.
In the words that are more popular nowadays, that is, "daddy is very good", and he likes to comment on others at every turn.
The key is that he is looking for a partner, and he has a lot of requirements.
It's not okay to be tall, it's not okay to be short, it's not okay to be fat, it's not good-looking, it's not okay to be far away......
Balabala gave me a bunch of requirements and I:
Why are you going to choose a concubine here?”
Whoever seems to him is missing the tree between A and C in his heart.
It's not a bit of a b-tree.
I asked him why he was suddenly looking for someone, and he was
That's what I said.,Why did I happen suddenly.,It's not like I've been looking for it.,It's just that I haven't found it?”
Me: Huh. What he means by being looking is that he stays there by himself, and does not develop new social networks or meet new people.
It's not such a law-abiding thing to wait for the rabbit, okay.
And he usually speaks very unscrupulously, which makes people want to roll their eyes at every turn.
In his world, "Why should I lick those women?".”
After the post was sent, it really fell into the sea.
On the one hand, he was indignant, feeling that those women had no vision, and on the other hand, he was a little questioning whether he really wanted to change.
I said you don't need to change, you can live well on your own, why do you have to fall in love.
High Emotional Intelligence: It's good that you're having fun on your own.
Low EQ: Who can look at you like you.
I have a reader, a girl, a mother.
Her daily fantasy of love is either the appearance of a domineering president to love her, or a man who can make her love mad and lose her mind.
Obviously, neither of these is realistic in real life.
So single until now.
Every day, I post blind date posts, jumping up and down to comment there, seeking her true president.
But you asked her to show the carriage and horses, present her height and weight, professional origin, interests and hobbies, and find a partner in a down-to-earth manner, but she refused.
She said that she couldn't find the true love that made her lose her mind.
You're not single who is single.
I found that friends who are single, especially those who are still singles at my age, are not actually unable to find a partner, but they don't want to find a partner at all.
In other words, I don't want to find mortal objects.
The combination of human beings and human beings always has to accommodate each other and tolerate each other, no one is perfect, goddesses also shit and fart, and male gods will grind their teeth and feet.
Whenever you talk about this love, no matter how good a person is, there will always be a side you dislike.
Because you're talking about people.
But if it is a paper man, such as a domineering president and a cold angel, he will not collapse the house and will not have a sheep's tail, he only exists in your spiritual world, and he will always be perfect and love you like his first love.
How nice. 
Young people in China are Xi to being arranged in this life.
When you are studying, study Xi and don't fall in love.
Immediately after work, you have to talk about one, at most two or three, and then when the talk is almost done, you get married, and the family is happy.
So falling in love and getting married, a completely personal thing, has also become a task in life.
When to fall in love and when to get married, they are all systematically arranged.
In the name of beauty, it has been cleared.
But isn't this really an NPC template?
Isn't it up to you to decide when you fall in love and when you get married?
Or whether you fall in love or not, whether you get married or not, it should be your own choice.
The law does not prohibit it, and the law does not stipulate when you must get married.
The so-called old age is always told by others.
But age is a thing, it won't pinch a watch, in your head, as soon as you reach the age of 25, you will beat gongs and drums and shout: "It's time to fall in love" and when you reach the age of 30, you will say: "If you don't get married, you won't be able to have children".
At the end of the day, that's what someone else told you.
I've seen a lot of people get married because they're "old."
I don't know if I'm happy or not, and I guess they don't know either.
Because in the days to come, there is a high probability that it will just run forward with inertia, and it is too late to think about these.
So, whether you're looking for a partner, getting married, or you're going to be single all the time, I want to say:
As long as you like.
We like that something is meaningful, and we are Xi that blossoming will bear fruit.
But not everyone has to bear the fruit that everyone praises.
Not in love?
No problem. You have a rich inner world, you have a colorful personal life, you choose to travel, to learn a musical instrument, to sit in a small restaurant on the side of the autumn street for an afternoon.
You're happy. Not married?
No problem either. You have planned your future, you are mentally prepared to face a life without a partner, and you can find great freedom and satisfaction in solitude.
You're happy too.
The point is, you have to be happy.
Falling in love secretes dopamine, and dopamine makes people happy.
So, if you're already happy, what does it matter if you're in love or not, if you're married or not?