Self-controlIt is a kind of willpower, a manifestation of self-esteem, self-love, and self-respectIt allows us to choose the best course of action, navigate through forks in the road, and always move in the right direction. Mencius asserted that man must abide by moral norms, otherwise he will be no different from animals.
Self-control depends to some extentpeopleideological qualities. Generally speaking, people with lofty ideals and aspirations will never be emotionally impulsive and misbehave for trivial things. Therefore, the most fundamental way to improve self-control is to establish a correct outlook on life and the world, and maintain an optimistic and healthy mood.
Self-control is mainly manifested in two aspects: on the one hand, it makes oneself strive to overcome fear, hesitation, laziness, etc., which are unfavorable to oneself in actual work and study;On the one hand, we should be good at suppressing impulsive behavior in practical actions. Self-control plays a very important role in a person's success. fromThe encyclopedic scientist Aristotle and modern philosophers have noted: "A good life is based on self-control." ”
If someone can't suppress his anger when he encounters something, he jumps like thunder, shoots broken objects, beats people and scolds people, etc. According to reports, an old worker in his 60s died because he was insulted and insulted by his own daughter, and he was so angry that he clenched his fists and beat his chest, and his heart suddenly stopped beating and died. Just when the whole world is watching this year's World Football Cup in Brazil, some people are watching it continuously, but they can't control their emotions, and there are reports of heart attacks and cerebrovascular diseases. In the early morning of June 17, a tragedy occurred in Building 39, Quanshui Xingfuli Community, Ganjingzi District, Dalian, because of a quarrel with her live-in boyfriend watching the World Cup match, a 22-year-old girl jumped from the window on the 9th floor in a fit of anger and was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment and died.
On the evening of the 16th, the boyfriend who lived with the woman wanted to go out with his friends to ** the World Cup, but the woman refused to go out on the grounds that she was afraid at home, and then the two had a quarrel, and after the quarrel, the man still left home to go out ** World Cup, during this period, the woman called the man's mobile phone many times, but failed to contact each other.
Until about 2:30 a.m. on the 17th, when the man returned home after the match between Germany and Portugal in other places, the two had a fierce quarrel again, and during the quarrel, the woman became emotional and jumped from the window of her home.
The author was also deceived by his son's lend money to his friend, and had a disagreement with his son, and became angry after drinking, resulting in liver pain and chest tightness and hemoptysis.
Throughout the ages, the most difficult thing for men to control is their sexual desire. It is no exaggeration to say that self-control of sexual desire is the watershed between a gentleman and a villain, a mortal and a sage.
Tang Jian, a Taoist scholar of the Qing Dynasty, once proposed: "If you are not a sage, you are a beast." It can be seen from Chiang Kai-shek's diary that he was lustful, but at the same time he tried hard to quit sex, trying to be a "sage" and not a "beast". For this reason, he struggled with his desires for several years.
The author has been a part-time lawyer for five years, although I have the opportunity to defend the defendant in court, but in the course of five years of study and debate in court, I have found that many crimes are not premeditated, and sometimes they are impulsive or choices made by a thought. Once defended a ** case, three young men drank in the tavern, drunk when they walked home it was close to midnight, when A said: "Let's find a song hall to sing and play for a while, anyway, tomorrow rest" B said, "Let's go, see if there are any beautiful girls to take a bubble" said that C was going to find a song hall, C showed hesitation at this time, he said helplessly: "I won't go, my mother is not well, she should be in a hurry to get angry when I go back" Then they parted ways. How do you know that after breaking up, A and B found a girl in a remote alley before they found the song hall, B staggered and said to A: "It's so late, a girl is wandering on the street, it doesn't seem to be a good thing, let's play with her" A didn't hesitate at all, so he and he rushed to the girl with a hungry wolf, the girl didn't obey, and resisted desperately, so they took out a handkerchief and blocked the girl's mouth, tied the girl's hand with a shoelace, dragged it to a secluded place, and implemented **. Since I was acting as a defender for defendant A, she was an accomplice in this case, and principal offender B was the principal offender and was sentenced to fixed-term imprisonmentA was sentenced to seven years' imprisonment because he was an accomplice and had a good attitude in admitting guilt, while C returned home halfway through and did not actually participate in the crime, so it did not constitute a crime. Now imagine that if C had not been separated from them in the same way, it is entirely possible that he had been involved in the crime, and his fate would have been very different.
If "fornication" is the sin, there are probably few men in the world who are innocent. In the same way, good thoughts cannot be seen by others, and only when they become good words and good deeds can they have meaning and influence on the world.
Think about ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, how many heroes and heroes, how many powerful and rich, all defeated under the purple skirt, is it really worth it?Compare and weigh it, your marriage and family, parents, children's careers, etc., you really have no regrets about losing so much for a woman?
What you are anesthetized with, what is a drug to you. Hitler was anesthetized by power, so he didn't have to smoke, he didn't have to drink. If you are anesthetized by a woman, then you will be like Hitler, and you will inevitably be ruined in the end, and you will regret it.