"Jiazhu, mother really doesn't have much time now, and I don't have any special expectations, I just want to see you." Recently, Li Xuemei, a mother looking for a child in advanced lung cancer, has attracted widespread attention by calling her son home through social platforms. Parenting
The day before the Mid-Autumn Festival in 2015, five-year-old Liu Jiazhu disappeared from the front of his home in Heyuan, Guangdong. Since then, Li Xuemei and Liu Dongping have started an eight-year search for their son. Li Xuemei told reporters from Nandu and N** that more than 100,000 missing person notices were sent across dozens of cities, and no response was heard, "even ** will not come to lie to me." To add insult to injury, her son is gone, her daughter is diagnosed with autism, and Lishermei has cancer. In the most difficult time, Mr. and Mrs. Sun Haiyang, the prototype of the film "Dear", once extended a helping hand and gave strong financial support. Volunteer Shangguan Zhengyi also helped her happen.
These days, the "billionaire" Xie Kefeng and his son Xie Qingshuai, who was abducted 25 years ago, recognize their relatives, which makes Li Xuemei very envious. The next day, she sent a ** congratulatory message to the father and son, and wanted her son Liu Jiazhu to "follow in the footsteps of Brother Xie and return to his hometown as soon as possible". After the cancer cells metastasized to the brain, 41-year-old Li Xuemei often felt that time was running out, and finding her son back was her most urgent wish.
With cancer, Lixuemei still went to find her son.
"All I had left was tears. ”
Li Xuemei's family of 4 originally lived at No. 37, Gaopu Huangsha Group, Puqian Town, Yuancheng District, Heyuan City. Behind the house is a wasteland of weeds taller than a person. It is an intersection that crosses the road leading to the national highway.
On September 26, 2015, the day before the Mid-Autumn Festival, Liu Jiazhu, who was only 5 years old, disappeared from here.
Li Xuemei and Liu Dongping never thought that their son would disappear in front of their door like this.
Liu Dongping told a reporter from Nandu that at about 12 noon that day, the neighbor's children came to play with the pillars. "When the two of them were watching 'Bear Infested' at home, I went out to take out the trash. Because I was afraid that something would happen to my children at home, I didn't lock the door. ”
After Liu Dongping threw away the garbage, he went to buy a fried rice on the opposite side of the national highway and went back to his home, and after only 15 minutes of leaving, Jiazhu ran away from home to go out to play. "It's usually just an hour, and I think he's going to be back. ”
Liu Dongping is still at home waiting for his son to come back for dinner, until the neighbor's child comes to the door. "Two older children came running back and told me that the four of them were playing in the wasteland, and they ran home to get water to drink, and when they came back, they couldn't find the two brothers. ”
At a trot, Liu Dongping searched for a national highway in the wasteland, and then came to a nearby industrial zone. "I used to tell me that my brother next door had taken me there to see the train. ”
The festival is approaching, the national highway is full of traffic, and the tenants in the rental houses in the community come and go. It wasn't until 3 o'clock in the afternoon that Liu Dongping saw his son in this area. The search for the son failed, and Liu Dongping returned to the village.
At 3:40, Liu Dongping clearly remembers that he and the parents of another missing child called the police. "But at that time, I didn't expect the child to be abducted, and such a thing has never happened in us. ”
At 5 o'clock in the evening, Li Xuemei, who works in Meizhou, called Liu Dongsheng. "At that time, I wanted to ask the children if they were eating mooncakes, but they didn't open them. The second ** in the back is the child's father who said that Liu Jiazhu was missing. ”
It's hard to put into words, only tears. When she heard that the child was missing, she hurriedly called a car and rushed home. "On the way, I left a message to my classmates, asking for your help** The news of the missing person notice, my son is missing. My students also thought I was joking, saying that the next day was the Mid-Autumn Festival, so what could I do?”
She was about to reply to the students when she received a missing person notice from **. "After my students saw the link I transferred, they asked me not to rush first, and said that the children would definitely find out. At this time, Li Xuemei felt that a thousand words were blocked, held the ** tightly, and cried profusely.
At about 9 o'clock that night, Li Xuemei returned home and found that there were forty or fifty people gathered at the door, and the villagers and police were helping to find the child. That night, the police inspected the ditch and hillside near the home, but found nothing. On the third day after Liu Jiazhu went missing, the police officially opened a case for investigation.
"None of them came to deceive me. ”
While Li Xuemei and Liu Dongping were waiting for the first information, they also started their 8-year search for their son.
Li Xuemei told a reporter from Nandu, "The day after the child went missing, everyone went to post a missing person notice and posted it everywhere, and came to the Heyuan bus station and railway station. Neighbors also helped us to find children. ”
Liu Dongping estimates that in the past eight years, they have distributed at least 100,000 missing person notices. Previously, he also wrote the book "Heavy Reward", which can only write 100,000 yuan at most, which is the limit of what they can give compared to the families who spend millions of dollars to find their son.
Posting a missing person notice is like a pillar of home that suddenly disappears, drowning in the vast sea of people, and they don't wait for the mobile phone they are looking forward to.
Later, after being recommended by other families looking for relatives, Li Xuemei, Liu Dongping and others participated in the "Baby Come Home". After joining the family search group in an interview with a reporter from Nandu, Li Xuemei learned that there are too many separated children in this world. Parents share clues about finding relatives in the group, and go in groups when conditions permit.
The cost of finding relatives is definitely a lot of money for the two of them. In March 2016, Li Xuemei came to Meizhou again and continued to work as a waitress in the hotel, helping Liu Dongping to find his son while supplementing his family.
Liu Dongping is looking for his son offline (far right).
In July of that year, Liu Dongping went home with "Baby" for the first time, and the other six parents rented a car to go to the three northeastern provinces. I'm from Cantonese and I've been to the farthest distance.
Sooner or later, the temperature over there will be cold. To save money, we slept directly on the bus at night. During the day, Liu Dongping and other parents posted missing notices, and also went to various places to "set up stalls" and advocate "baby coming home".
He recalled to reporters in the southern capital that the reporters had been in the north for more than a month. In addition to going to Northeast China, he has also traveled to Inner Mongolia and other regions, and has traveled to more than 50 cities. In the process, the two of us met a new family search home, and we encouraged each other and shared clues. They have also been evicted, "Some people say that we affect the city's appearance and do not allow us to post a search notice to rob us of a note." ”
Some people also came to us, saying that the children were lost by themselves, so why blame the society. ”
In the past eight years, Liu Dongping has heard similar voices more than once: "Some people have asked, is he selling children?" But compared to being blamed and suspected, what pained him the most was that there was no echo on the road to finding his son.
I just took the ** twice, and all told me to call the money directly. I asked the child what to do, he couldn't hand over **, and he wouldn't give me an answer in the future. ”
Li Xuemei couldn't hear a response, "Even ** won't come to deceive me." She thought to herself, is it because the family pillar was sold to a more remote place to raise, and no one has seen it, so it is more difficult to find?Li Xuemei revealed to reporters in Nandu that she was questioned as **, saying that she defrauded money through social platforms.
Although the search for the clues of the family pillar has sunk into the sea, the reunion of other families looking for relatives can also arouse the waves in the hearts of Li Xuemei and Liu Dongping.
Sun Haiyang, who has found his son, told a reporter from Nandu that he and Jiazhu's father Liu Dongping met seven or eight years ago. They used to be "brothers" who were looking for their son together, and they traveled a lot of places and roads. "I can resonate with its painstaking efforts. Sun Haiyang remembered that the two had gone to Zijin County, Heyuan to look for children for more than 20 days, eating and drinking every day.
Liu Dongping still remembers that a total of five children were retrieved during the Zijin County child-hunting activity, and he was very excited to be present.
On December 1, the recognition of "billionaire" Xie Kefeng and his son Xie Qingshuai, who was abducted 25 years ago, attracted widespread attention on the whole network. The next day, Li Xuemei posted a message on social platforms, congratulating Xie Kefeng and his son on meeting and hoping that Jiazhu would "synchronize with his younger brother and go home early".
'The pillars of the home' are the pillars of the family."
Liu Jiazhu male;Characteristics: thin, dark;The most striking feature: a scar under the left rib cage. The pillar on the missing person notice looks a little shy, but Li Xuemei's impression of her son is lively and active, grinning, and warmly greeting acquaintances when she meets them on the road.
Search for Liu Jiazhu's missing person notice.
Giving him the name 'Family Pillar' is to make him the pillar of the family in the future. Recalling the scene of her childhood home, Li Xuemei spoke much softer.
Xiao Jiazhu is very sensible, and he never needs his parents to take a lunch break, so he turns on the air conditioner by himself, and climbs into the toilet from the bed after getting up. He also looks at people's faces. Lixue Mei smiled and said that if others seemed to be happy, he would follow them to sit at home, and if they were not happy, he would turn around and leave.
Xiao Jiazhu is also very smart, he can read and read at the age of one and learn six English words at the age of two. Li Xuemei told the reporter that even after 8 years, her mind often remembers the scene of her son humming and chirping at home, reciting poetry seriously.
She also went to work in her hometown's factory, mixed rice bran with rice in advance, and told her family pillar to feed the chickens on time at noon. He was only four years old at the time, and at noon he said that he saw his younger siblings out of school and knew how to feed chickens. Later, he did the same. ”
From time to time, the family pillar shows eccentricity. When he wanted ice cream in the summer, he coaxed his grandfather to sit down and helped him turn on the fan, and after his grandfather laughed, he blinked his eyes and asked "Is it cool?" and asked him for a dollar to buy him ice cream.
Speaking of small family pillars, Li Xuemei is like a treasure. She said that her son is smart and empathetic, and the elderly in the family, the school teacher and the school bus driver like him very much, "I still miss him."
In August 2014, Li Xuemei went to Meizhou from her hometown to work, "my sister didn't like to talk too much when she was three years old, she had to save money to take her to the doctor, and Jiazhu had to spend money to go to kindergarten." Liu Dongping stayed at home to help his friends look after the store, so that he could take care of his two children, his father who was paralyzed in bed and his younger brother with leukemia.
A group photo of Li Xuemei and her son Liu Jiazhu.
After Li Xuemei went out to work, she spent less and less time with her children. To make up for the loss of her children, she bought a pair of skates as a gift for her son after work. Not long before the disappearance of the family pillar, the two had just taken the only **.
Mother may not have much time left. ”
Ice skates, group photos, family pillar backpacks, and Li Xuemei are all in his room, "I'm going to look up and see what he does." When she misses her son, she doesn't suffer from cancer.
She was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer in May 2022 and spread cancer cells to her brain in November of that year. "At that time, I had a headache and hit the wall, and I stayed in the hospital for 22 days, radiotherapy for 13 days, and hung 13 bottles of water a day, and the disease was controlled. She didn't expect that the tumor would have more signs in November.
Diagnosed with lung cancer, the tumor reversed, and the ensuing misfortune made her desire to find her child more urgent.
I am Liu Jiazhu's mother, my life has counted down, please help me spread the news and help me send Liu Jiazhu home, I don't want to leave with regret. Since May 2022, Li Xuemei has shared her experience in fighting cancer and finding children on social platforms, and insisted on publishing a section catalog**.
She said that when she left when the family pillar returned, she wanted him to see** "You are not a child that your mother doesn't want, and your mother is sick and comes to look for you all over the world."
Li Xuemei is one of the most worried parents in Guangdong. Sun Haiyang told a reporter from Nandu that after knowing that Li Xuemei had cancer, he successively paid 70,000 yuan for her. Li Xuemei also lamented to the reporter in Nandu that the cancer cells had metastasized to the brain at that time, "The money of Big Brother Ocean saved my life."
It wasn't until Nandu interviewed that Sun Haiyang learned that his wife Peng Siying was still helping Li Xuemei. Peng Siying used her mobile phone to get in touch with Li Xuemei in the child-seeking advertisement, and transferred the medicine fee and sent some daily necessities to Li Xuemei, such as oil, rice and clothes.
Sun Haiyang said that there are actually many parents who are sick and looking for their children like Li Xuemei. Just like helping Li Xuemei, he donated the income from the live broadcast to other families who are particularly difficult, "I believe that every kidnapped child will return home, and I hope that I can face it strong and wait for the day when the children come back." ”
Shangguan Zhengyi, a well-known anti-abduction volunteer, told reporters in Nandu that he has been paying attention to Li Xuemei, "My son has been missing for a long time, my daughter is suffering from autism again, and she herself has been diagnosed with cancer." When the two connected live on December 11, Shangguan Zhengyi encouraged Li Xuemei to take the initiative to treat her, and also hoped that people could spread information to help her mother.
Seeing them looking for their children one after another, I was very jealous. Li Xuemei said that Sun Haiyang and Xie Kefeng's experience of successfully finding their relatives was very inspiring to her, and hoped that Jiazhu could return to China as soon as possible.
Mom may not have much time to do, and I don't have any special expectations, I just want to see you." She posted ** through social platforms, calling the children home.