"Dream of Red Mansions" has been published for more than 200 years, and the endings of many women in the book are embarrassing, but at the same time, people have also found a lot of fault with them.
But there is one woman who has become an exception, she is Ping'er, no matter what era, readers' love for Ping'er has never stopped.
She is lowly, but she has self-esteem and self-respect, she holds a scepter in her hand, but she is not reserved and retreats in moderation.
Someone praised her:"Don't be talented, don't be angry, don't be pampered, don't be gracious, don't work hard, and have the style of an ancient minister. ”
As mortals, we don't want others to belittle and praise more, but in the end we find it too difficult.
Ping'er did it, not only calming down the turmoil again and again, but also perfectly showing her mind and intelligence every time.
I have to say that Ping'er is indeed a ruthless character.
Since ancient times, there has been no greater affirmation of a person than loyalty.
Ping'er has followed Wang Xifeng since she was a child, and she is the only one left in the escort girl, if her loyalty does not pass, with Wang Xifeng's ruthlessness, Ping'er's fate will definitely be miserable.
When Sister Qiao had chickenpox, Jia Lian moved to the outer study, and soon hooked up with many maids.
After Sister Qiao recovered from her illness, Jia Lian went home, and Ping'er found a lock of Duo Girl's hair in the bed cover he retrieved.
Ping'er was devoted to Sister Feng, but Ping'er didn't report it, but helped Jia Lian cover up the matter.
Leave room for people, not long and short, home and everything is prosperous, this is Ping'er's cleverness.
No matter how strong Sister Feng is, Jia Lian is the head of the family after all, in that era, in such a family, Ping'er's denunciation of Jia Lian may make Sister Feng happy for a while, but what is left to this family is long-term damage.
As a girl in the room, Sister Feng's joy and anger determine Ping'er's stay and honor, and Jia Lian's honor and disgrace are also related to Ping'er's safety.
In the whirlpool of emotions, Ping'er has no way out, and the only thing she can do is to balance the relationship between the three people.
Therefore, Ping'er can not only be coquettish in front of Jia Lian, but also must avoid suspicion, so as not to cause Sister Feng's vinegar to rise.
If you can endure loneliness, you won't be in love, and your brain will always be sober, and Ping'er can become Sister Feng's right-hand man, which is very important.
Ping'er is loyal, and Sister Feng will be regarded as a confidant. As Xiao Xing'er said:
"Miss Naping is a serious person, she never takes this matter to heart, and she will not pick a wife and a husband, but blindly serve him faithfully and bravely, so she will tolerate it. ”Although she is a housekeeper's assistant, Ping'er has always kept a low profile.
During the period of the housekeeper of the Spring Festival, he deliberately made Ping'er in front of everyone, ridiculed, and asked her to do the work of running errands and passing the word on the little girl.
Ping'er was not only not annoyed, but became more and more respectful, and even Tanchun was embarrassed.
To solve people's difficulties and endure for others, Ping'er just wants to be in peace in this world, so she must always be sober.
Kafka said:
"If you try to get something, as long as you are calm, calm, and seek truth from facts, you can achieve your goal without knowing it. ”
In today's impetuous people's hearts, how many people can endure loneliness and are willing to work diligently.
Those who are bent on taking shortcuts and trying to rely on unfair competition to achieve success may win for a while, but they will lose for a lifetime.
Only those who keep their inner peace, use time to precipitate themselves, and enrich themselves will see the prosperity of life.
The ancients said:"The wise will be meek, and the good will be forgiving. ”
Be tolerant and generous, but it's not easy to do that when things come to an end.
Everyone gathered together to celebrate Sister Feng's birthday on Jia's mother's side, and Jia Lian secretly invited Bao Er's family to come to the house to steal fish.
Sister Feng drank too much wine and wanted to go home to rest, so Ping'er hurriedly helped her to go back together.
Sister Feng saw this ugly show with her own eyes, and heard that Jia Lian and Bao Erjia not only cursed her to death, but also mentioned Ping'er's grievances.
Sister Feng was angry, and she shook her hand and hit Ping'er, and Jia Lian was angry and angry.
Ping'er had nowhere to complain, so she was forced to run out to find a knife to commit suicide, but fortunately she was stopped by the mother-in-law outside.
Although it is inevitable to be wronged as a slave, everyone knows that Lian Feng and the others are troublesome, and they both have a bad temperament with Ping'er, so that it seems that all the faults are Ping'er's, and even Jia's mother almost wronged her.
Ping'er was so wrong, innocent people were poisoned like this, so in front of everyone in the Grand View Garden, Ping'er couldn't stop crying.
But in front of Jia's mother, Ping'er also had to make excuses for the ruthlessness of Lian Feng and the others, and only remembered the resentment on the head of the Bao Erjia.
In the face of grievances, Ping'er not only ignores past suspicions, but also thinks about each other's previous good like friends:
"I've served my grandmother for so many years, and I haven't played a single finger. ”In a word, Sister Feng felt guilty and cried sadly.
It is said that people's hearts change people's hearts, you are true and I am true, no matter how shrewd Sister Feng is, no one can hide it from her whether Ping'er is really kind or fake.
Therefore, Sister Feng is more dependent on Ping'er for many things in Rongguo's Mansion, and even the future management plan is related to Ping'er.
Ping'er also lived up to her trust, and while taking care of the big and small bad things in the house, she also worried about Sister Feng's body and persuaded her to take care of herself.
Sun Tzu's Art of War says:"Follow the trend, take advantage of the momentum, build momentum, and take advantage of the trend. ”
If she wants to have her own place in Rongguo Mansion, Ping'er will inevitably take advantage of Sister Feng's momentum and seize every opportunity to achieve herself.
Even if it's hard, keep moving forward.
Sister Feng passed away, and when Sister Qiao encountered personal safety, Ping'er immediately took the opportunity to take up the burden of saving people.
Caigen Tan said:
"Don't blame people for their mistakes, don't make people selfish, don't think about people's old evils, these three can be far harmful, and they can cultivate virtue. ”
People who are broad-minded enough understand that they can only reap the rewards by focusing their limited energy on beneficial things regardless of gains and losses, not remembering old evils.
Many times, letting go of hatred and scheming is also letting go of yourself.
Sister Feng's housekeeper advocates strict punishment and strict law, violent rule, with Sister Feng here, most of the subordinates dare not speak out.
As a subordinate, Ping'er naturally can't go against her in front of Sister Feng, so she can only try her best to protect her share.
But in private, when carrying Sister Feng on her back, Ping'er is always more kind than powerful to her subordinates.
Xiao'er's family was sick and wanted to take leave to ask for a doctor, but he didn't dare to go back to Sister Feng, knowing that Ping'er was easy to talk to, so he waited for Ping'er to beg her on the way through.
The little girl in Yihong Courtyard stole Ping'er's shrimp bracelet, and Song's mother went back to Sister Feng, but Ping'er hurriedly stopped her and hid it from Sister Feng, only saying that she found it in the snow.
The reason why Ping'er was silent was that Ping'er said three reasons:
The first is to leave dignity for Yihongyuan and Baoyu;
The second is to avoid the old lady and the wife from getting angry when they hear it;
The third is to avoid the responsibility of attacking people and Song Ma and others for not being strictly guarded.
In fact, Ping'er also missed a more important reason, that is, to leave a way for Shen'er to live.
If you are famous as a thief at a young age, Shen'er ** can still have a future.
Fang Xiaoru of the Ming Dynasty said:Public heart, all good.
Ping'er's kindness is obvious to all, she often sends charcoal in the snow, never pretends to be a tiger, and never falls into the ground.
And such a flat child is because she has a fair and upright heart.
Mrs. Wang was out of the house, some things in her room were lost, and the girls were fighting in the nest, pointing out that the other party had taken them, but there was no real evidence.
Coincidentally, the housekeeper's mothers-in-law found these things in the small kitchen of Daguanyuan, and the kitchen steward Liu and her daughter Liu Wu'er immediately became thieves.
But the fact is that they were wronged, the things belonged to Yihong Courtyard, and it was Fang Guan who gave some to Liu Wu'er, and the things lost in Mrs. Wang's room were all in Jia Huan's hands.
How do you settle this matter?
Sister Yifeng, it's kneeling under the sun, see if you can recruit or not.
But Ping'er took into account everyone's interests and face, understood their difficulties, and insisted on settling all parties to avoid a big turmoil.
Calm down in the face of things, slow things down.
Ping'er knows very well: the prosperous family will not fight infighting at every turn, and would rather turn big things into small things and small things into nothing.
What's more, most of the people who deal with her are slaves in the house, and they are also poor people, and giving others a little more way to live is also accumulating blessings for themselves.
Ping'er is not the master, he just acts on behalf of the power, but whenever he has the slightest distraction, he will be afraid of causing trouble and perfunctory.
Obviously, Ping'er has an upright character, acts impartially and impartially, dares to take responsibility and has no selfish heart, which is a rare excellent woman!
In this bustling world, we meet all kinds of people every day.
If you blindly fight to win, you will inevitably make countless enemies and eventually become a loner.
The sage has a saying:"I want to establish people, and I want to reach people. ”
Instead of being rash and being evil to others, it is better to let go of life and let yourself have multiple ways to retreat.
The ancients said:Contentment is not humiliating, and knowing that it will not be destroyed.
Ping'er is in a low position, and when she is **, she doesn't make sex angry;When she has a mission and holds authority, she is kind to others.
That's rightThe wise do not complain, and the benevolent do not take it lightly.
Because he knows how to follow the trend and does what he should do, Ping'er finally lived out his own bright future.
Milan Kundera said"Life is an eternal and heavy endeavor. ”
In the world, each has its own difficulties, will encounter dangerous shoals, and will also face abysses.
For one difficulty after another, we can only be tenacious, silently accumulate strength, maintain hope in the long darkness, and be our own ferryman.