China is a country with a long history, and the culture has a long history, after thousands of years, it has the colorful colors that appear in front of our eyes today, including many crystallization of the wisdom of the ancients - common sayings.
These sayings are not only clear and concise, but also contain many profound truths, alerting countless people.
However, with the development of the times, many colloquialisms have lost their original meanings to this day, and have even been taken out of context, resulting in us only knowing one and not knowing the other.
For example, what many of us are saying is that "friends and wives can't be bullied" is one of them.
The meaning of this sentence is that when dealing with a friend's wife, you must know how to respect, keep your distance, and never think wrongly, let alone have any misdeeds, otherwise it will be unrighteous and sorry for your friend.
As an ancient civilization, China has a profound Confucian culture and moral tradition.
And this sentence "A friend's wife should not be bullied" just shows the rigor of the ancients in this regard.
It is intended to warn people to maintain loyalty and balance in marriage and friendship, and not to overstep the bottom line, disregard courtesy, righteousness and shame and cause harm to others because of temporary greed.
However, you may not know that it has a second half, and the second half is where the real classics are.
Its next sentence reads: "A friend and a husband cannot be helped."
This means that you should not have frequent contact with your friend's husband, let alone touch or touch such intimate behaviors that are easy to misunderstand. 
This sentence can be described as an initiation, and it breaks through the importance of proportion and bottom line in interpersonal relationships.
Friends are often too familiar with each other, and it is easy to ignore some things, but once the bottom line is crossed, it is very likely to cause misunderstandings or turn against each other.
Therefore, the closer the friend, the more respectful and bottom-line it is for the husband and wife.
In the old days, due to the restrictions of the Three Principles and Five Constants, the moral requirements for women were very high, and the degree of loyalty of a woman even determined the degree of respect she was held in front of others at some point.
It warns women to obey the rules and understand etiquette, and not to be overly intimate with married men, especially between friends, which is likely to cause irreparable serious consequences, causing friends to turn against each other and break up the family. 
From the point of view of meaning, these two sayings are basically similar, and they are both warning the world to abide by morality and not cross the bottom line.
It's just that "a friend's wife can't be bullied" warns men, and "a friend's husband can't be helped" warns women.
Today, although the old times are long gone, people are more liberal and there are no longer strict requirements between men and women.
But in daily life, we should still be vigilant and avoid being overly intimate, so as not to do things that go beyond the bottom line and cause irreparable consequences.
In daily life, if you meet someone who already has a family, even if you like it, you should learn to keep your distance.
This is not only a respect for others, but also a test of one's own integrity. 
If you are impulsive and have an excessively intimate behavior with others, you will only be left with endless regret and spurning in the future.
Especially in today's era of advocating freedom, in order to reduce unnecessary misunderstandings, it is the most correct way to keep an appropriate distance from people with families.
After all, some of the actions of married people are not only personal, but also family and children.
So, what do you think about these two sayings?Feel free to leave a message.
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