In the journey of life, middle age is a stage full of precipitation and reflection. After experiencing the passion and romance of youth, we have entered middle age, and we have better understood the truth and plainness of life. At this stage, the choices and trade-offs in interpersonal communication are particularly important. Especially in the relationship with the opposite sex, some women may have made us feel excited, but as the years go by, continuing to contact will only cost money and effort, and even get a little flattery.
1. A woman who can't let go of the past.
They always have a knot in their hearts that cannot be untied, whether it is the injury of their ex or the change of their family, it is difficult for them to let go. With such women, you will find yourself constantly drawn into their past and unable to really get into their hearts. Their negative energy can also gradually erode your life and make you feel exhausted.
Mr. Zhang once met a divorced lady who was never able to get out of her ex-husband's betrayal. In her interactions with Mr. Zhang, she constantly mentions the pain of the past, which makes Mr. Zhang feel as if he is just a listener and cannot be an important role in her life. In the end, Mr. Zhang chose to give up because he understood that he could not replace the person in her heart.
2. A woman who is overly dependent on others.
Such women often lack the ability to live independently, and they are accustomed to relying on others to meet their own needs. Socialize with them, and you will find yourself constantly being demanded, and they rarely give anything in return. In the long run, you will feel that your efforts are not being cherished as they deserve.
Mr. Li once took care of a lady who was poor in self-care, and he thought that his efforts could be exchanged for the gratitude and cherishment of the other party. However, as time goes on, he finds that the other party becomes more and more dependent on him, and even treats him as the whole of life. Mr. Li felt that his life was tied hand and foot, and finally chose to leave.
3. A woman who is good at disguising herself.
Some women are good at disguising themselves, they may look gentle and lovely on the outside, but deep down they hide an unknown side. With such women, you will find yourself elusive in their true thoughts and feelings. Just when you think you already know them, they can suddenly show a completely different side, shocking and disappointing you.
Mr. Wang once dated a lady who seemed very gentle on the surface, but as time went on, he discovered that the other party was actually a person who was good at disguising himself. She behaved gently and considerately in front of outsiders, but in private she made all kinds of unreasonable demands on Mr. Wang. Mr. Wang felt that he had been deceived and taken advantage of, and finally chose to break up.
Fourth, women who are too materialistic.
In this materialistic society, some women place too much value on material comforts. They may have a beautiful appearance and a charming temperament, but deep down they lack the pursuit of true emotion. When you associate with such women, you will find yourself constantly toiling to meet their material needs. And they rarely give you real care and support.
Mr. Zhao once pursued a very beautiful lady who did not hesitate to spend a lot of money and time in order to meet the material needs of the other party. However, he eventually discovers that the other party is just a pleasure-hungry person, and she doesn't really care about Mr. Zhao's inner world. When Mr. Zhao needed her support and companionship when he was in trouble, she chose to leave. This made Mr. Zhao deeply saddened and disappointed.
5. A woman who lacks a sense of responsibility.
A sense of responsibility is one of the important factors in maintaining a relationship, whether it is friendship or love, both parties need to assume their due responsibilities and obligations, however, some women lack a sense of responsibility, they are not willing to take on the corresponding obligations while enjoying their rights, and you will find that you are always giving, while the other party rarely responds and gives feedback, and in the long run, you will feel tired and powerless.
Mr. Sun, who once ran a small shop with a woman, thought that the other party would devote himself to the business as much as he did, but as time went on, he found that the other party became more and more irresponsible, often lazy and procrastinating on work, and even used the income from the store for personal consumption, Mr. Sun felt that he was under too much pressure and burden, and finally chose to end the relationship.
Sixth, a woman who is overly scheming.
Sincerity and trust are very important qualities in interpersonal communication, however, some women are overly scheming, they always try to calculate others for their own benefit, and with such a woman, you will find that you are always in a passive position, unable to truly control your own destiny and the direction of life, and in the long run, you will feel that your life has become boring, and even lose your enthusiasm and confidence in life.
Mr. Zhou once met a scheming female colleague at work, she always used various means to squeeze out other colleagues in order to obtain higher positions and more benefits, Mr. Zhou did not realize her true face at first, and once regarded her as a good friend, however, as time went by, he gradually discovered her true face and realized that he had also been calculated and used by her, which made Mr. Zhou feel very angry and disappointed, and he finally chose to keep his distance from her, and strengthened his sense of precaution so as not to be hurt again.
People have experienced ups and downs in middle age, we should cherish our time and energy more, don't waste feelings for those who are not worthy, for those women who spend money and effort, and are not thankless, we should learn to stop losses in time and devote more time and energy to people and things that are truly worthwhile, only in this way can we live a more fulfilling and happy life.
A quote from The Road Less Traveled: "The only sense of security in life comes from the insecurity of fully experiencing life." "When we are brave enough to face the uncertainties and difficulties in life, we can truly grow and be strong, and for those who bring us negative energy and bad influences, we should be brave enough to say "no" and firmly move towards a better future.
In interpersonal interactions, we should respect each other's differences and personalities, not try to change each other, but learn to adapt and understand, only then can we build a truly healthy and equal relationship, for those who cannot understand and respect us, we should learn to let go and look for those who are truly compatible with us to share our life journey. In this era full of challenges and opportunities, let us bravely face all kinds of difficulties in life and firmly move towards our own path of happiness!