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In relationships, we all seek to create deep emotional connections with others. However, overly intimate relationships can also lead to conflicts and conflicts. So, whether we're in a couple or in a relationship, how can we maintain proper distance and respect? Here are three don'ts.
1. Don't interfere too much in the other person's life.
In a marriage or relationship, both partners need to respect each other's independence and personal space. John Gottman, a famous American psychologist, once said, "A happy marriage does not depend on the time spent together, but on the freedom between husband and wife." This means, without being overly intrusive, that we should give each other enough space to pursue our own lives. Interest and development. their lives.
For example, you shouldn't decide what to wear, eat, or even their friendship without consulting your partner. Not only will this make the other person feel uncomfortable, but it will also lead to a breakdown of trust. The ancient Chinese said: "The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water", we must keep a reasonable distance.
2. Do not disclose each other's privacy without permission.
Privacy is one of a person's most valuable assets, and we should respect each other's right to privacy. American writer Oprah Winfrey once said, "People always learn to cherish after they have lost." "That means we don't talk about each other's private things behind our backs. This means that you should cherish the time you spend.
Married couples and lovers should avoid discussing each other's shortcomings and privacy in public. This will not only embarrass the other person, but also hurt their feelings.
The ancient Chinese poet Bai Juyi wrote: "When you have nothing to do, you can relax. When I sleep, the sun outside the east window is already red, so just watch quietly. I am happy. It's the same in all seasons. We need to learn to appreciate each other's strengths and not put too much pressure on ourselves.
3. Things that cannot be easily promised but not implemented.
Honesty is one of the most basic qualities in relationships. We should be responsible for our words and actions, and not easily promise what we can't do. Ronald Reagan once said, "The responsibility of humanity is to start small, from now on." "It means valuing each other and not making promises that are not easy to keep.
For example, you should not promise to take care of each other when you are sick, nor should you promise to come back only when it is important. Not only will this disappoint the other person, but it will also damage the trust between you. As the ancient Chinese philosopher Zhuangzi said: "A gentleman is righteous, and a wicked man is profitable." "We need to be honest and value each other's feelings.
That is to say, whether it is a husband and wife or in a relationship, the "three noes" principle should be followed, and appropriate distance and respect should be maintained. Only in this way can we build healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships. As the American writer Henry David Thoreau said, "Integrity is the lifeblood of life and the foundation of all values." "Manage relationships with integrity and respect to build a better future together. Let's make it happen together.