Yes, as long as you can use your humanity, you can kill him.
I also said before that it is normal to have obsessions after the end of any relationship, and you are more uncomfortable than him now, it is nothing more than that he makes you feel that you are abandoned, and you are unwilling, so you can't stand it.
So how do you make your ex regret losing you and have the idea of taking the initiative to get back together with you?
Remember the next three points I said, you will understand it thoroughly, and you will find the direction of recombination.
01 "Be good to him" is just the icing on the cake
First of all, we have to understand that "being good to him" is just the icing on the cake, what really makes the other party value you must be your strength, so don't give up self-growth.
Let's think about how many girls will make money and be good at socializing before falling in love or getting married, and occasionally go out to practice yoga for fitness, your world is very big, you attract the other party to get close to you, and find a way to catch you up and please you.
But after being together, your entrustment mentality becomes heavier and heavier, and you unconsciously project your hopes and unfinished complexes on him.
Gradually, you find that your world is getting smaller and smaller, and you are walking around that acre and three points, and you are communicating with him less and less, and you are still crying and shouting and asking him, why did you do this to you? Why did you change your mind so quickly?
But it doesn't have to be that he has changed, maybe you have changed. Because you have given up on self-growth, you have become cautious and fearful, and you can only count on being nice to him, standing on the moral high ground and blaming him, but neglecting to get back to that shining self.
02 Your competitiveness and irreplaceability are the key to attracting your ex to come back
The second key point is that your competitiveness and irreplaceability are the key to attracting your ex to come back.
There is a Matthew effect in psychology, which is that the more people are invested in relationships, the easier they are to be taken as fools.
Because you put all your energy into the other person, you will only end up being treated as a bargain. So if you want a truly stable relationship and respect from the other person, there is only one way: to promote your core values.
Your goodness to him and your own goodness are two completely different concepts. The former will only allow others to take advantage of you, while the latter is what you really deserve in return.
It may be said that communication skills, network resources, and work ability are difficult to improve in the short term, but you have to have a direction to work towards, and you must at least know how to learn from each other's strengths, just like a tiger in the forest.
Even if it's kept in a cage in a zoo, it can keep people away, why? Because it's full of wildness and deterrence.
It's the same in intimate relationships, you need to make your ex understand that your departure is a big loss for him.
03 is to create a "sense of gap" and "sense of loss".
The third important point is to create a sense of "loss" and "inadequacy".
In terms of behavior, he has the illusion that although he proposed the breakup, it is indeed what you have been planning for a long time to leave. Didn't he want to seek superiority in these places?
Then you are not satisfied with this, not only will you not dwell on it, but you also want him to feel that you are walking faster than him, so that he will feel that you are not sad after the breakup, but feel relieved, so that he begins to wonder whether you dumped him or whether he left on his own.
In this way, he will be held back by you because you are not acting according to the plan he set, and this difference will eventually force him to turn back after you, because he will also feel unwilling and he will also desire to win in this relationship!
Therefore, you must not think that he proposed to break up to seize the initiative, and now he is ruthless and you are helpless. I'm telling you, just remember one principle: in this world, there is no one who does not want to be popular.
When his self-esteem is challenged, his desire to conquer will be ignited, and he will likely come back to continue to woo you and test your reactions. At this time, you can take advantage of the situation and take the initiative into your own hands.