Don t be friends with your children at an age when you should be making rules

Mondo Education Updated on 2024-01-29

Just like today's educational philosophy, parents should be good friends with their children and treat them with a friendly attitude. Parents should give their children love and freedom, and let them have room to act independently, but we must realize that the relationship between parents and children is completely different from ordinary friendship. While parents give their children care and freedom, they should also take on the responsibilities of parents. Especially when children are very young, they do not have the ability to evaluate, judge, and do not know how to respect and respect social norms. If we only treat them as ordinary friends, they will not have the right sense of boundaries.

The age of 3-6 years is an important period for the development of children's personality and behavior. During this period, parents should cultivate children's sense of rules and develop good habits Xi life. During this period, it will be difficult for them to grow up if they are not restrained. They are highly likely to lack discipline, a sense of boundaries, self-restraint, and rationality, which can adversely affect social interaction and achievement.

Establishing the right sense of boundaries is a key part of a child's development. If parents themselves do not have clear boundaries and are just ordinary friends, then it is difficult for them to have a clear understanding of their own rules and boundaries. Children demand rules, rules can judge, and boundaries can better defend themselves and others. Children who do not have a sense of boundaries cannot grow up, they will always be in a state of dependence and responsible for the affairs of their parents.

Parents should establish a sense of authority that their children will respect themselves. Children must have respect in order to obey the rules, and they must have respect in order to be disciplined and achieve in society. Parents should give their children love, but there are certain principles. Love is a prerequisite for upbringing, and rules are based on love.

When you set rules for your children, there are a few basic principles that parents can refer to:

1.Clear boundaries and rules: Set clear boundaries for your child so that they understand what is right and what is not acceptable.

2.Give children a degree of autonomy: The wishes and decisions of the children should be fully taken into account, but they should be guided and guided in a timely manner.

3.Bring safety to children: Let children feel the care and support from their parents, and the intimacy and intimacy with children, so that children feel safe.

4.Reward and reward system: Establish a reward system based on children's preferences and hobbies to encourage children's positive performance.

5.Coordination between parents: Parents should follow certain principles and methods in the cultivation of their children, otherwise it is likely to lead to confusion and confusion among their children.

All in all, as parents, we should give them more care and freedom, and at the same time, we should guide and regulate them in a timely manner. The relationship between parents and children is unique, and we must fulfill our responsibilities as parents and give appropriate guidance to our children so that they can become independent, responsible and loving people.

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