When it comes to Thailand, people can easily say, "Savadika!"."Because the country closest to China is a popular tourist destination for many tourists, it's natural to be familiar with the greetings of the locals.
Thailand is located in the tropics, and the temperature does not drop below 18 all year round. Not only are there fascinating exotic views, but there are also countless wonderful attractions such as Thai massage, which always attract people's attention.
In 2014, a news of a "wealthy Chinese businessman marrying a Thai ladyboy" quickly became a hot search topic, triggering heated discussions among netizens, how did the couple meet and fall in love?
In the past, it was very taboo to discuss the relationship between men and women, for fear of causing unnecessary trouble. Nowadays, with the open-mindedness of the mind, even transgender people are gradually gaining acceptance.
Thailand and Viet Nam are the most influential countries when it comes to transgender issues, as the local economy is relatively backward and there is a general desire to improve the family's situation by changing their appearance or gender.
This concept has become so deeply rooted in the hearts of the people that many transgender people are often active in the public eye, and in order to enhance their value, they even appear on the international stage, participating in catwalks and beauty pageants.
Since 1998, the two countries have held the Miss Tiffany & Co. pageant every year, an unusual contest for transgender people. Regardless of the contestant's past gender, as long as they are good enough to look good, they have a chance to win the championship.
Thailand hosted the 2014 beauty pageant, which attracted a large number of contestants and spectators. Dozens of transgender people dazzled on stage and tried to show off their beauty.
In front of everyone's eyes, the champion was finally produced, which is commonly known as the "Queen" - Nisha. She is transgender and this is her first time participating in a beauty pageant.
Nissa had already recognized the fierceness of the competition before she entered the competition, and she didn't expect to win the prize as a newbie, just hoping to finish in the top 30.
As the saying goes, gold will eventually sparkle. With her perfect face and devilish figure, coupled with the grace of her demeanor, Nissa made it all the way to the top and finally succeeded in winning the crown.
When the host put on Nissa's crown, she burst into tears, not only because of how much effort she put into this match, but also because she was moved by the recognition of others and the bright future.
In Thailand, while transgender people are common, Nissa still senses that some people look at them differently.
Born in 1992, Nissa is the second son in the family. When the mother was pregnant, she had been dreaming of having a daughter, but when Nissa was born, she was still a boy.
Despite this, his parents insisted on giving him a girl's name, "Noi".
Perhaps due to the excessive expectations of her parents, Nissa has shown that she is different from her peers from an early age. She doesn't like to play outside like other children, preferring to stay at home with her sister gamer's house.
After the onset of puberty, Nissa began to pay more attention to her appearance, and she no longer pursued handsomeness, but longed to be beautiful.
He stumbled upon a model Poyd in a magazine that day, who had successfully transformed at the age of 17 and won the "Miss Tiffany Beauty Pageant" and was hailed as the most beautiful "ladyboy" in Thailand.
Nissa learns about transgender people for the first time and finds her future direction. She hopes to be like her idol Bao'er, who will make her debut through beauty contests and become the most beautiful and dazzling girl.
Nissa herself has a very fair complexion, so she began to learn makeup skills Xi online, hoping to make up for her lack of facial features.
However, heavy makeup doesn't hide a masculine body, and Nissa aspires to be a woman entirely.
He revealed his thoughts to his parents, and his mother was shocked and said, "Although we raised you as a girl, you don't really need to become a woman, you should live a happy life of your own." ”
Nissa shook her head and said, "My desire to be a woman comes from my heart's desire, not from anyone's influence. He said he was willing to do everything he could to make himself more beautiful.
The father was silent for a long time, and finally mustered up the courage to respond to his son's first honest thoughts: "Don't worry about being your true self, your family will always be your strongest backing." ”
Nissa wept gratefully and threw herself into her father's arms, unable to contain herself. She thanked her family for their courage and support.
After Nissa started taking hormone drugs, her ** became smoother and smoother, her waist gradually became slender, and her eyebrows and eyes showed a more feminine charm. However, to truly become a woman, one has to go through surgery, which is the only way.
In Thailand, people who are at least 20 years old can undergo sex reassignment surgery, but multiple surgeries are required, gradually changing physical characteristics. This surgery is expensive and cumbersome.
Nissa's parents are ordinary people, and the cost of surgery is a big expense for them. Nisha, who is not yet 20 years old, decided to save money for the surgery herself so as not to burden her family.
She found a part-time job in a restaurant, and she was busy until 12 o'clock at night every day, and her life was very hard.
Despite all the odds, Kanisha smiled, knowing that these were just a small obstacle to her dreams.
Nissa underwent breast augmentation surgery in 2012 and underwent a series of body modifications. Until 2014, she not only completed all the sex reassignment surgeries, but also successfully completed all the courses in college.
When asked by a reporter about how she felt about her sex reassignment surgery, she replied with a smile: "It's really painful, but it's worth it." ”
Only by bearing the pain of breaking out of the cocoon into a butterfly can we carry the happiness of spreading our wings and flying high. Nissa managed to do just that, not only succeeding in following her idol Boa, but also showing her beauty to the world, earning praise.
Often, if a transgender contestant performs well in the Miss Tiffany pageant, they have the opportunity to get a variety of opportunities, such as participating in variety shows or performing on stage, to start their acting careers and increase their value.
After becoming a household name in Thailand, Nissa also imagined her future life plan. However, the world is impermanent, and she never expected that a Chinese man named Bao Xi would completely change the trajectory of her life.
Bao Xi is a businessman who travels back and forth between China and Thailand, and the beauty pageant happens to be held at the hotel where he stays on a business trip.
Bao Xi worked continuously for a long time, thinking that he could have a good rest in the room, but his partner called to invite him to join in the beauty pageant. This made Bao Xi excited, because he had already started to pay attention to this match.
A few months ago, the pageant had filmed each contestant's self-introduction as a music video and warmed it up on local TV. Bao Xi, who was on a business trip, happened to see Nissa on TV.
Bao Xi will never forget that beautiful face, and he later inquired and learned that Nissa was actually transgender, that is, transgender. At this glance, it seems that 10,000 years have passed.
Bao Xi was a little surprised and curious, but his inner reason told him: "You can't go deeper, otherwise it may bring bad consequences." ”
Since then, he has devoted all his energy to his work, trying to suppress his admiration for Nissa.
Bao Xi never expected that this business trip would actually run into a beauty contest, and he was so excited that he couldn't help himself, eager to see Nissa on the stage with his own eyes.
At the brightly lit competition scene, a group of beautiful girls with graceful bodies came out with **, but they were unattractive to Bao Xi until he saw Nisha. Wearing a white tight long dress, she showed her charming charm to the fullest.
Bao Xi's usual steady mind was completely disrupted, and he couldn't take his eyes off it, staring at the tears that Nissa shed after winning the championship. At this moment, an emotion of longing to protect her welled up in his heart.
Maybe he was attracted by beauty, maybe he was destined, but at this moment, Bao Xi has decided that he will not marry Nissa in this life.
After the competition, there will be a "fan meeting" where the audience can take photos with their favorite players offstage, which is also a key time to establish follow-up connections and communicate with each other.
Bao Xi was ready to say hello excitedly, but he wasn't the only one who "loved" Nissa. Off the field, most of the men pursued the beautiful Nisha, and in terms of economic strength, Bao Xi could only be regarded as one of them.
He waited for a long time, and finally had the opportunity to shake Nissa's hand, and used the mobile phone translation software to type in a line: "Can we get to know each other?"”
Nissa was a little surprised, because it was the first time she had had a foreign man wanted to meet her. She smiled and nodded, and exchanged *** with Bao Xi
Since then, Bao Xi has been sending Nissa messages every day, whether the content is an interesting story or a food, and Nissa always replies enthusiastically. The relationship between them is also heating up rapidly.
On the day they made an appointment to go out on a date, Bao Xi needed to rush back to China to deal with business matters. In order to comfort Nisha's emotions, Bao Xi specially gave her a diamond ring and said to her, "Wait for me to come back." ”
Nissa didn't show any sadness or take Bao Xi's words to heart, because she knew that in the eyes of many wealthy businessmen, trans people were just a unique form of entertainment and would not really accompany them for the rest of their lives.
Nissa has had several relationships in the past, and although the partners are both Thai, the essence of people is similar. However, Bao Xi is different, he likes not only Nisha's beautiful appearance, but also admires her sincerity and kindness deep inside.
After Bao Xi returned to China, he still sent daily greetings such as "good morning" and "good night" to Nissa every day, and the two often talked on the phone to share beautiful moments in each other's lives.
Bao Xi's feelings quickly warmed up, and he tentatively proposed the idea of marriage, but Nissa timidly refused. Why is that?
Because medical technology is quite advanced, sex reassignment surgery can only change the physiological structure of a person, but cannot create a real uterus, so transgender people cannot have children like natural women. For this reason, they are also known as "transsexuals".
Nissa understands that in China, families place a high value on tradition. She is unwilling to delay Bao Xi's life because of her own badness, after all, his happiness is not easy to come by.
Although Bao Xi was a rich man, he relied entirely on his own efforts to get rich and never relied on anyone. Bao Xi's parents were ordinary farmers, and his ancestors were even more unknown.
When he was in junior high school, Bao Xi was not interested in studying Xi and did not want to live a farming life, so he went out to work, hoping for a better life.
Bao Xi was inexperienced in society at first and was often deceived, until he met a good boss and gradually changed his fate.
Soon after, the clever Bao Xi discovered a new business opportunity and decided to start exporting handicrafts**. With the funds he had saved up, he was able to start his own business and establish partnerships with Southeast Asian countries such as Thailand and Indonesia.
With the continuous expansion and growth of the business, Bao Xi's worth has increased several times, and he has suddenly become a high-profile local tycoon.
Bao Xi knew that beauty was unpredictable, and he understood Nisha's worries and anxieties, so he flew back to Thailand again. He gave Nissa a villa worth 5 million as a sign that he was willing to arrange everything for her, and hoped that she would agree to be with him.
Nissa felt Bao Xi's sincerity, which made her feel that she had found happiness, so she accepted Bao Xi's pursuit.
The news of the relationship between the two spread quickly at home and abroad, and many netizens began to criticize Bao Xi, saying that he was only a temporary interest and would abandon Nissa soon. After all, the rich will always have many suitors around them.
Bao Xi ignored it and took Nissa back to her hometown to meet her parents. The parents saw the girl's innocent and cute appearance and praised their son's vision, but when they learned Nissa's true identity, they immediately objected.
Bao Xi patiently persuaded her parents, hoping that they would accept Nissa's "difference" and recognize her charm. The parents understood that their son had made up their minds and began to try to communicate with Nissa, and soon fell in love with this sensible and kind daughter-in-law.
Bao Xi received the tacit approval of his parents, and he happily prepared a grand wedding ceremony. On that day, he invited his family, friends and business associates to witness this unique wedding.
At the priest's prayers, they exchanged rings and made a promise of "one couple for a lifetime". Soon after the marriage, Bao Xi decided to return to Thailand to live, considering Nisha's language barrier. The married life of the two has always attracted much attention.
Nissa hasn't participated in beauty pageants since she got married, and she confesses, "I just want to play the role of a wife and live a peaceful and quiet life." ”
As a result, Nissa began to learn how to make Chinese food at home Xi after she got married. Although she used to be a boy, she has slender fingers and works hard, and she is really a qualified helper who "can go up to the hall and get down to the kitchen".
Bao Xi always kept his promise and treated Nissa like a child, so even if there was an argument, he would always make concessions first to please Nisha. Nissa was young, but Bao Xi never forgot her vow.
Due to Nisha's penchant for European style, Bao Xi redecorated the entire villa and decorated it with Nisha's **.
Whenever guests visit, Bao Xi always introduces them affectionately: "This is the ** of Nisha's graduation" This is the moment when we take a group photo for the first time", "This is the photo we took on our wedding day".
Nissa loves dolls, but unfortunately because her family is not wealthy, she has never had a doll of her own.
Therefore, Bao Xi specially customized a special cabinet to display dolls for Nisha, and every time she came back from a business trip, she would bring back dolls from all over the world, even the cheapest dolls were worth more than 7,000.
When she was in college, Nissa chose to major in fashion design. In order to support her career, Bao Xi invested a lot of money to open a personal studio and bought a valuable sewing machine for Nissa to create at any time.
Most of Bao Xi's suits and casual wear are designed by Nisha, and her professional ability has been recognized by industry insiders.
Now, seven years have passed, and the rise of the Internet age has made the love story of Bao Xi and Nissa once again the focus of attention. Some people question whether the "ladyboy" can give birth to offspring, which makes Bao Xi's future at a loss
Nissa felt so guilty about this issue that she even offered to have her sister have a baby with Bao Xi instead of her.
When Bao Xi heard Nissa's arrangement, in addition to feeling angry, he was more distressed. He told his wife, "There are parents in the world who need children, and there are children who need parents.
If given the opportunity, we will choose to adopt a child, which can be regarded as a kind of reward to society. ”
Some netizens questioned it, saying that transgender people have a life expectancy of only 40 years old because of long-term estrogen injections. If Nissa dies, what will happen to Bao Xi?
Bao Xi believes that continuous advances in medical technology can change this unfavorable situation, and promises to take Nissa to the hospital regularly to receive medication injections to prolong her life. The deep affection between them is touching.
In order to create a better life for Nisha, Bao Xi opened another restaurant in Thailand that specializes in Chinese and Thai food. Although the initial stage was difficult, thanks to Nisha's encouragement and support, the restaurant's business situation gradually improved.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, and the new crown epidemic suddenly hit the catering industry hard. Bao Xi's restaurant was also severely affected, with a sharp drop in turnover, expenses exceeding revenue, and almost bankruptcy.
Although Nissa has always been by Bao Xi's side, despite the difficult situation, Bao Xi gradually regained her confidence and is ready to find another way.
Bao Xi accidentally found that the short ** platform at home and abroad was extremely popular, so he registered an account and began to share his and Nisha's sweet daily life, which attracted the attention of many fans.
The two also posted their marriage ** on their accounts and received a lot of blessings.
With Nisha's support, Bao Xi's career gradually recovered. His love for Nissa was so deep that not even the seven-year itch affected their relationship.
Bao Xisi longed to go home for the Spring Festival in 2021, but the epidemic was not too serious, so he decided to go home to visit his parents. However, I didn't expect that as soon as I went back, the epidemic at home and abroad began to break out again, and Bao Xi has not been able to return to Thailand so far.
Although Bao Xi and Nissa are separated from each other, he has been sharing the sweet time between the two on the short ** platform, and Nissa also interacts with him frequently, which is really enviable.
As a transgender person, Nissa was lucky enough to meet Bao Xi, but other "transgender" people were not so lucky.
According to incomplete statistics, about 2% of Thai men are transgender. These people are in a lower position in society, and due to the long-term use of drugs, they are almost unable to perform heavy physical labor.
They are also often discriminated against when looking for other jobs, especially transgender people who don't look good enough.
Bao Xi is not considered a brave person because he has just dated a "new woman", but because he is able to unswervingly endure the criticism of others and maintain an unwavering relationship with the woman he loves.
In social reality, there are many people who experience "gender misalignment", but they feel depressed because of the eyes of the outside world and dare not freely show their true selves.
We advocate for the equal treatment of everyone, even if we cannot publicly defend them, with basic respect and tolerance. Everyone has their own life and the right to pursue what they are passionate about. I hope that a love story like Bao Xi and Nissa will not be subjected to groundless accusations in the future, but can be unabashedly displayed in the sun.