My name is Li Xiaomei, I am 36 years old, I have been divorced twice, and I am living with my parents in my hometown.
I was saddened by the failure of my two marriages, and I went back to my parents, intending not to marry for a while. But my parents always felt that I should find someone else to start over, especially my mother always said, "Daughter, you are 36, and it will be too late if you don't get married." You see how good your cousin is, and if he is single until now, you should accept his pursuit. ”
My cousin Wang Qiang is my mother's nephew, three years older than me, and he is in the local real estate business. My mother has always felt that he has good conditions and is a stable person, and he is a good marriage partner.
On this day, my cousin asked me to meet at the coffee shop and said that he had something important to say. I can probably guess why.
When I came to the coffee shop, my cousin was already waiting for me in his seat. He was dressed simply and plainly, and he looked quiet.
Xiaomei, you're here. You may be seated. The cousin stood up and politely pulled out the chair.
Thank you cousin. I sat down and said.
The waiter came up and poured us water and we ordered drinks and snacks.
I looked at him and waited for his next step.
I want to say that you're also old enough to get married. It's not easy for you to live alone in the past two years. The cousin continued.
I nodded: "It's a little inconvenient, but I'm okay for the time being." ”
I was at a loss for words, and I didn't know how to answer. My cousin is indeed in good condition and is also a competent person. But I haven't fully forgotten the trauma of two failed marriages, and I'm not sure if I should remarry now.
Xiaomei, I know you have a lot of uneasiness. But I promise you, I will definitely be good to you. What do you want, just tell me. My cousin noticed my hesitation and began to reassure.
Cousin, can I give me some time to think about it?It's not an easy task for me. I said.
Okay, you think about it first. But I hope you don't misinterpret my good intentions. I really like you. The cousin said calmly.
I understand, thank you cousin. ”
We chatted for a while, and my cousin offered to pay and sent me home.
When I got home, my mother eagerly asked me, "What is my cousin looking for you?"How are you thinking about it?”
Mom, my cousin asked me today that he wanted to be with me. But after two marriages, I still have some worries and dare not rush it. I said sincerely.
Xiaomei, my cousin is such a good person, don't miss it. Mom only hopes that you can find someone who is good to you and never suffer again. Mom sat down next to me and patted my hand.
I knew my mother was afraid that I would miss out on this good family business. It's not easy for my cousin, and it's rare for me to meet such a person.
So, I plucked up the courage to reply to my cousin: Cousin, I've thought about it almost. I'd like to be with you, but can we start with a relationship?”
* The cousin over there said happily: "Okay, Xiaomei, as long as you give me a chance, we will take our time." ”
Since then, my cousin has been courting me, often asking me out for shopping or going to the movies. He will also actively help my family to do what he can, such as repairing furniture. I saw that he was so attentive, and I gradually developed a good impression of him.
Two months later, my cousin formally proposed to me and gave me a beautiful ring. I hesitated, but agreed, after all, this may be the last chance God has given me.
After I got married, my cousin took great care of me and gave me a good quality of life. At first, our married life was very sweet, and I gradually let go of my guard and gave him my heart.
But the good times didn't last long, and more than a year later, my cousin began to drink heavily. Whenever he was drunk, he would scold me for no reason and sometimes hit me. I put up with it for a while, thinking that maybe he was under pressure at work, but the domestic violence became more and more frequent, and I couldn't bear it anymore.
Soon, several police officers came to the house and stopped the cousin's atrocity. I cried and begged the police to take him away and stop making me suffer again. My cousin was handcuffed by the police and taken away from the house, and I sat on the ground with tears in my eyes.
The divorce made my parents very sad.
Xiaomei, why don't you give your cousin a chance like this?People are so good to you, and you abandon him like this?"When my mother learned that I was going to divorce, she said sadly.
Mom, on the surface he is kind to me, but in private he often beats me after drinking. I can't stand this anymore. "I decided to tell my mom the truth.
Maybe you just have some misunderstandings, it's too unwise to divorce in such a hurry, right?"Mom still won't give up.
I knew that in my parents' generation, most women would endure the humiliation and stay in unhappy marriages, so they couldn't understand that I chose to divorce.
Mom, I know you mean well, but it's really painful for me. Please be considerate of my troubles. I choked up.
Mom shook her head helplessly, turned and left the room. I knew it would take time for her to come to terms with this reality.
Later, my cousin's domestic violence also reached his parents, who were very shocked and discouraged and kept apologizing to me. I forgave them for their difficulties, did not embarrass them, and our divorce was completed in peace.
But I didn't expect that my cousin-in-law, Ms. Lin, always had a prejudice against me, and she often slandered my character in front of my relatives, saying that I broke up the two families because of my unreasonable trouble. When I heard these words, I was ashamed.
At one party, my cousin-in-law started to speak ill of me in front of people again, and I couldn't help but reason with her: "Ms. Lin, why do you want to speak ill of me in front of so many people?".I think we should communicate well. ”
Communication?What is there to say?If it weren't for your divorce three times and twice, our two families would have been one family a long time ago. Aren't they all messed up by you now?She sneered.
You're coming less!Over the years, I don't think you've been well-intentioned, you'll just cause trouble!"My cousin-in-law didn't let me explain, and her attitude was tough.
I couldn't speak anymore and left the meeting with red eyes. My cousin's accusation makes me sad, am I really that unbearable?
When I returned home, my mother saw my tears in my eyes and couldn't help sighing: "Don't listen to your sister-in-law's nonsense, she is still sad about the failure of her son's marriage." You just need to know your conscience. ”
I know I misunderstood you before. You're doing the right thing, it's all about protecting yourself. Mom patted me on the back and comforted me.
I cried bitterly in my mother's arms, and the grievances that had been suppressed for a long time burst out. After a while, I gradually stopped my tears and pulled myself back together.
I can't let other people's misunderstandings knock me down, I have to live better to prove myself. So, I started working to earn money and was ready to move out on my own and start my life again.