After my son gets married, I am no longer a family with youWhen I said this, I said it from the heart, but some parents didn't understand it, and even scolded me, saying that I sowed discord and couldn't see others well. Whether you like it or not, it's just the way it is.
Xiao Ai said to her husband: "The day after tomorrow is my father-in-law's birthday, what gift should we give?"The husband said, "Father doesn't like bells and whistles, let's give him some money." Xiao Ai looked at her phone, and the money on her bank card was pitiful. My husband said, "Use my phone to turn around, it's all the same anyway." Xiao Ai picked up her husband's mobile phone and transferred 6,800 yuan to her father-in-law. Unexpectedly, my father-in-law replied in seconds: Your brother's wedding room has not yet been settled, hurry up to 200,000!
Xiao Ai handed the mobile phone to her husband and said unhappily: "When we got married, your family didn't have a bride price, there was no house, and the banquet was not held." I worked hard with you, and now I still live in a rental house, and I don't even dare to ask for children. We can't help but honor your dad 2,000 yuan a month, and your dad is not satisfied, can we still live our lives?”
The husband has repeatedly emphasized that his father and younger brother are the closest people to him, they are his family, and he can't ignore them. The two of them have seen each other, and finally they parted unhappily. Poor father-in-law, before the second daughter-in-law entered the door, the eldest daughter-in-law ran away. The husband complained that his father broke up his marriage and did not get along with his father for a long time.
It's almost the New Year, and in order to show her filial piety to her mother-in-law, Xiaoqian used her husband's mobile phone to transfer 20,000 yuan to her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law also replied in seconds: Don't fool me with 20,000 yuan, your brother is still far from buying a house!
Xiaoqian looked through her husband's transfer records, she didn't know if she didn't look at it, she was shocked when she saw it, her husband transferred a lot of money to an unfamiliar account behind his back. Xiaoqian asked again and again, and her husband confessed: Because of her mother's request, she kept transferring money to help her brother.
Xiaoqian said: "The money you transferred away without permission is our joint property. I am working hard with you to give our children a good future, and if you do this, what will happen to me and my children?”
Fortunately, the husband woke up in time, and their marriage could continue.
Xiaodi's husband is hospitalized and needs a lot of money.
Xiaodi took her husband's bank card to pay the fee, but found that there was no money in her husband's bank card at all. My husband is a technician, and his monthly income is more than 10,000 yuan, and for several years, all his expenses have been his own. It stands to reason that there should be at least 800,000 on my husband's bank card. Such a large sum of money, ** went?Xiaodi asked her husband, but her husband didn't answer. Xiaodi went to the bank to check the accounts, and all the money was transferred to her in-laws and brother-in-law.
Xiao Di asked her husband why he did this, and he claimed that they were the family.
Xiao Di couldn't get angry, and said angrily: "Since you are a family, let your family come to serve you, what am I here?""Say goodbye and leave. Is this Xiao Di's fault?
When Xiaoyi got married, the conditions of her in-law's family were not good, and Xiaoyi's parents bought a wedding room and held a banquet.
The day after the wedding, my in-laws moved in. The mother-in-law said, "You are married to my son, and everything you have is mine." My son's is ours, so you are ours too. Including your parents' property. Mother-in-law's "shameless" theory almost made Xiao Yi angry. What's even more ridiculous is that the mother-in-law regards her son's home as her own, and gives away Xiaoyi's things at will, and subsidizes her daughter with Xiaoyi's money at will. In the end, Xiaoyi divorced her son and kicked the whole family out of the marriage room.
There are so many things like this that I don't want to mention again. I just want to tell those parents who have no sense of boundaries: after their son gets married, he and you are no longer a family!
After his son got married, he formed a new family, and all his property is the joint property of the young couple, and you have nothing to do with it!
The little couple works hard for their own home, for the future of the small family!They have to pay off their mortgages, pay off their cars, have their own children, have heavy burdens and pressures, and have no obligations and responsibilities to take care of other siblings. The other brothers and sisters are not doing well, that is their creation, and the young couple has no obligations and responsibilities, and they pay for the bad life of the other brothers and sisters!
Parents hope that every child is good and there is nothing wrong, but they can't kidnap the hard-working child with family affection and morality for the sake of the child who is not angry, and blackmail him unconditionally and without a bottom line!
My son is married, he has his own home, and you are no longer a family, and the other siblings are no longer a family!Don't hurt this hard-working child and hurt this hard-working little couple for your own selfish desires or for a certain child who is not angry!
Your son and daughter-in-law honor you and are willing to help other brothers and sisters, not stupid but kind, you should be grateful and cherished. Life is not easy in the world, father and son, mother and son, husband and wife, brothers and sisters, all of them are the fate of the previous life. There must be a certain distance between father and son, between mother and son, between husband and wife, and between brothers and sisters. The distance is too far, and the family affection is gone. If the distance is too close, friction will produce contradictions.
In order to avoid tragedy, as a parent, the ideology must be changed, and after the son gets married, he and you are no longer a family!