In our Chinese family relationship, intergenerational kinship is a very common phenomenon. With only one child in modern families, both grandma and grandma play an important role in the baby's growth. So, is it the grandmother or the grandmother who is closer to the child?This issue has been the subject of extensive discussion and debate.
From the mother's point of view, they usually prefer the relationship between the baby and the grandmother. As her mother, her grandmother has a direct blood relationship with her, and her family affection is even stronger. And the dad is more inclined to be closer to the baby and the grandmother. After all, grandma, as the baby's real grandmother, has an innate kinship with the baby. In the family, grandma and grandma both play different roles, providing meticulous care and love for the baby.
It is undeniable that traditional customs and family relationships have led to the fact that in many families the baby is closer to the grandmother. Because many times, the grandmother is in charge of taking care of the children and spends more time with the children. In addition, the direct blood relationship between the baby and the grandmother is more direct, so the relationship between the baby and the grandmother is usually very close.
However, there are more and more cases nowadays where babies are being raised by grandmothers. Although the baby's time is mainly spent with grandma, this does not mean that the baby is not close to grandma. In fact, grandma and grandma are relatives to babies and play the role of elders as they grow up. So, this question is not just who is closer on the surface, but also affected by various factors in life, even genetics.
In some cases, grandma and grandma take turns taking care of the baby. For example, Aunt Sun has only one son at home, and when her son and daughter-in-law gave birth to a cute little grandson, Aunt Sun expressed her willingness to help take care of the child. However, the son and daughter-in-law took into account the health of the child's grandparents and the hard work of taking care of the child, and decided to let the grandmother and grandmother take turns to take care of the child. Aunt Sun has no objection to this, every time she takes turns to take care of the children, Aunt Sun takes care of the children very responsibly, and she also cares for her daughter-in-law very much. She wants her family to be happy. However, when living together, it is inevitable that there will be some friction and contradictions. Sometimes it's because of different living habits, and sometimes it's because of the problem of taking care of children. When the child begins to be taken care of by her grandmother, Aunt Sun may be a little reluctant, but when the child sees her grandmother walking towards her grandmother enthusiastically, Aunt Sun will feel a little uncomfortable in her heart. She began to wonder why the children seemed to be closer to their grandmother, even though they were taking turns taking care of the childrenFrom the point of view of blood relationship, children should be closer to their grandmothers.
In fact, an agency once conducted a survey statistics about grandmothers and grandmothers who are closer to their children. The results may come as a surprise to many people, and the ranking of the intimacy between children and the elderly in the family is: grandma, grandma, grandpa. Why is there such a ranking?This is mainly related to the change in the way we live now. In the past, many babies were cared for by grandmothers after birth, but now, more and more grandmothers are becoming the main caregivers. This is mainly because young mothers are generally worried about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law usually occur in the issue of child adoption. Therefore, many mothers hope to let their mothers take care of their children, which can effectively avoid conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Since the grandmother takes care of the child for a longer time, the child is naturally closer to the grandmother. In addition, mothers usually have a closer relationship with their mothers, and from any point of view, mothers also prefer their children to be closer to their grandmothers, and they may also think that they are a family. Therefore, the mother's thoughts will also affect the relationship between the child and the grandmother to a certain extent.
However, from a grandmother's point of view, she should care more about her children than her daughter-in-law. Many grandmothers will more or less compete with their daughters-in-law for the right to educate their children, which makes it difficult for daughters-in-law to accept. And most grandmothers will love the house and Wu, love their daughters, so they will also love their grandchildren or granddaughters, and rarely interfere with their daughters' right to educate their children. Therefore, from this point of view, the child may feel closer to the grandmother.
However, the question of who is closer to the child is very boring and meaningless. Who the child is closer to depends on the emotional and daily companionship. In the hearts of children, they will have their own judgments and preferences, whether it is grandma or grandma, they are their important relatives. There is no point in arguing about who is closer to the child, because it is not a measurable thing, it depends more on the child's feelings and experiences.
Therefore, instead of arguing about who is closer to the child, we should let the child feel the love and care from the grandmother and grandma. We should encourage children to maintain a close relationship with the elderly in the family and share family affection and warmth. Whether it is a grandmother or a grandmother, they are all important people in the child's life and deserve to be loved deeply by the child.