The American psychologist Heb Tru once pointed out: "Humor is like a lubricant, which can free people from tension and stress, and enjoy relaxation and fun." It can help us build better relationships, get rid of difficulties and worries, and let us move forward with a smile on the road of life. "Humor is the icing on the cake in communication, but in order to make the most of it, we first need to have a deep understanding of the communication dilemmas that we can encounter in communication. Only by understanding the causes and consequences of communication desperation can we use humor appropriately.
People living in the same country have the same culture, but they have different ways of behaving in the world. Some are enthusiastic and sincere, some are indifferent and guarded;Some people take the initiative to communicate, and some people resist communication;Some people are honest, some people are exquisite;Some are obedient, some are rebellious......We have to deal with people with different mentalities every day, and even if we are not good people, we often get into trouble because of our dealings with people. What to do?Some people suggest the formation of a fourth industry to coordinate interpersonal relations, and now many public relations companies in Europe and the United States have developed this kind of business, and they can eliminate all kinds of interpersonal barriers for the parties, from disputes between the parties to family conflicts. 
We can't avoid all the communication dilemmas they have encountered
Interpersonal detachment and lack of communication.
Interpersonal alienation, like the silent killer of society, spreads quietly through the rapid development of social economy. Modern communication facilities, like a ruthless diaphragm, make people's communication so convenient, but also let us gradually distance ourselves from real emotions.
We are increasingly Xi using cold electronic screens to convey information, ignoring the reality and temperature of face-to-face communication. We are so immersed in the virtual world that we wander in the depths of the ocean, forgetting the ups and downs of real life. Many people would rather be immersed in the illusory world of computers, mobile phones, and televisions than face real life. Their lives have become isolated, and family, friendship, and love have become weak, as if they are alone in this world. The busy pace of life makes us have no time to worry about others, and the way of life makes us Xi loneliness. We often feel lonely in crowds because we have lost the ability to interact with people. This is just like the American 1950 bestseller "The Lonely People" predicted, the rise of the masses will lead to social alienation, and the future society will become a world lacking in interpersonal interaction and human affection. Internet addiction has become the status quo for many people in our country. We spend a lot of time online and spend less time with family and friends. Our ability to interact socially is gradually degrading, and we are losing the ability to form intimate relationships with others. This situation has become very common in our country. We need to wake up from this isolation and rediscover the importance of relationships. We need to return to real interpersonal communication and feel real emotions and temperatures. We need to Xi how to build intimacy with others, how to care for others, and how to share our joys and sorrows. Only in this way can we get rid of the loneliness of society and regain the warmth of human affection. 
2.Some people think so highly of themselves that they ignore the importance of communication. They are indifferent to people and things that have nothing to do with them, and even treat others with a snarky attitude, appearing arrogant and unkind. They walk arrogantly, as if "when the water is clear, there are no fish", and they are out of place with the people around them. This psychological and behavioural barrier makes it impossible for others to accept or alienate them. 3.Communication becomes especially difficult for some people who are mired in low self-esteem. They often pay too much attention to their own shortcomings, believing that no matter how hard they try, they cannot surpass others, so they choose to close themselves off. They blame themselves and always feel that they are at a disadvantage in interpersonal interactions, so they miss out on many opportunities to interact with people. If a person falls into the quagmire of low self-esteem, he will constantly look for various reasons to prove that he is inferior to others. For example, lack of height, poor looks, eyes that are too small, not slim in stature, and so on. This low self-esteem and anxiety make them afraid to communicate with others, which in turn affects their chances of success and leads to more failures. This is the vicious cycle of people with low self-esteem: failure leads to low self-esteem, low self-esteem triggers anxiety, anxiety makes them intimidated to communicate, and eventually leads to failure again. 
4.Guardedness, difficulty in communicating disputes, quarrels, misunderstandings, and even many unjust, false and wrongful cases in the past, which one is not related to suspicion?In our precious traditional culture, there are many teachings on suspicion, such as "the suspect steals the axe", "the heart is separated from the belly", "knowing the face of the person does not know the heart", "the heart of harming people is indispensable, and the heart of guarding against others is indispensable" and so on. In order to get rid of suspicion and create an ideal communication environment, we first need to have a clear understanding of suspicion. 
In the face of these different interpersonal and communication dilemmas, we need to learn how to use humor to lubricate interpersonal relationships and reduce the stress of communication. We can use figures of speech such as metaphor and personification to express our ideas vividly and make the language more vivid and interesting. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the accuracy and style of the language to avoid misunderstandings or adverse effects due to inappropriate words or grammatical errors.
In conclusion, humor plays an important role in communication, but in order to fully display its charm, we need to have a deep understanding of the communication dilemmas that may be encountered in communication, and learn to use humor to resolve these problems. Only in this way can we move forward with a smile on the road of life.