In family education, cultivating a good parent-child relationship is the cornerstone of ensuring the all-round development of children, which is essential for children's personal growth and future social adaptation. In order to achieve this, parents need to understand and follow some key principles. Here is my detailed explanation of the 10 key points of parent-child relationship:
1. Cognition of individual differences: Each person is unique in the world and has their own unique perspectives and specialties. Children do not completely copy the characteristics of their parents, because everyone has different beliefs, values and codes of conduct. Therefore, we cannot expect our children's personalities and perceptions to be exactly the same as ours. Respecting these differences is the first step to a good parent-child relationship.
2. Can't manipulate others: Parents can't force their children to do what they want, everyone can only push themselves. Parents can't"Teaching"Children can only provide them with the opportunity to learn and Xi. Forcing children to accept their own beliefs and values is often counterproductive, and understanding your child's independence and differences can help build a positive parent-child relationship.
3. Effective communicationThe value of communication lies in the response of the other person, not just what you say. It is important to communicate in a way that the child can understand and accept, taking into account each child's unique response to the message. Understanding and adapting to your child's perspective can help build stronger lines of communication.
4. Role models for behavior and emotions:Children learn more from their parents' actual actions and emotions than just from their instructions. Therefore, provide positive role models to motivate children to learn Xi good behavior and emotional management.
5. The motivation behind the behavior:Every behavior has its own positive motivations, including the child's behavior. Understand the underlying needs behind your child's behaviour so that you can better guide them. Accepting motivation, not just behavior, helps build understanding and trust between parents and children.
6. Provide better options:The child will accept a better way, but he must understand for himself that it is the more effective way. Giving children more choices, rather than forcing them into one way, can help stimulate their desire to learn Xi and change on their own. Helping, not manipulating, is the key to a positive parent-child relationship.
7. There are always at least three solutions to everything:So far, it has not been successful, but it is said that the methods used so far have not achieved the desired results. For children's education, we should insist on achieving results, rather than sticking to a specific method. If we find that the current approach is not effective enough, it means that what is known is not working. New educational philosophies and methods emerge every day, and we can keep trying different ways to teach our children. In this world, there are many educational methods that we have not thought of or recognized in the past.
8. The growth process is the stage of learning XiEverything a child does has a subtle impact on his future. The child is constantly trying different practices in order to find the one that works best. It is only by constantly trying new methods that children will be able to discern which one is the best and thus make breakthroughs. Children live their lives full of curiosity precisely to learn how Xi master skills better. They learn Xi through experience and focus on what helps them grow. If the focus is on failure, denial, and scolding, the child may lose the courage to try and hinder effective growth.
9. The role of parents: It is to help children grow, not to replace them. Substitute for the child to do what they are supposed to do on their own, just trying to hinder the child's development. Any attempt to replace the child's growth will eventually leave a negative effect on the child. Children are unable to learn and become dependent and lack self-confidence. Growing up, if a child doesn't learn what they should be learning, it can come out at a huge cost. Encouraging and guiding children to do their own things independently is the most effective way to help. It is only through their own efforts that children can develop spontaneity, a positive attitude, self-discipline, self-confidence, and self-esteem.
10. The unconditional love of parentsParental love should transcend everything, not be used as a bargaining chip. A parent's love for a child is something that a child will never lose in the world. Therefore, parents should not feel free to use love as a threat or a condition of exchange. This love is the greatest source of confidence and vitality for children as they grow up. The child must have confidence in this love, and if conditional love is shown in the words and actions of the parents, the child may become suspicious of the parent-child relationship. Love is the cornerstone of the parent-child relationship and should not be used as a condition in the discussion.
These principles will help build a positive, understanding and trusting parent-child relationship, laying a strong foundation for the child's all-round development. Follow me, learn a little parenting knowledge every day, be a better parent, and help your children become talents.