At one point, there is a popular question: "Why do some people cheat on people who have a good relationship with their partner?"”
This question seems to have led many people to misunderstand that as long as the marriage relationship is good, there will be no cheating incidents.
However, in fact, cheating is sometimes not directly related to the quality of the couple's relationship, and some couples still cheat even if they love each other. The reasons for the infidelity are as follows.
First of all, infidelity has a compensatory nature.
Take Su Ran and Zhao Mingqi in the TV series "Marriage Like Jade" as an example, they are a very loving couple, and Zhao Mingqi loves Su Ran deeply.
However, during Su Ran's half-year business trip to Beijing, he cheated because he couldn't resist Hua Sha (played by Jiang Xin) who was young and beautiful.
Su Ran and Zhao Mingqi are doctors and businessmen, happily married, and have a wealthy family, and are often envied.
However, because of the short separation, the relationship between the two for ten years was unbearable and broke down, the separation between husband and wife or the illness of one party are the reasons for derailment, and the relationship with love is minimal, just looking for a reason for cheating.
Secondly, the inability to meet the marital life is also a cause of cheating.
In marriage, conjugal life is as important as love, and unless both parties pursue a platonic spiritual love, a marriage without sex cannot last.
Even if for some reason two people can't be separated, one of them will seek an external relationship in order to satisfy their sexual needs, leading to cheating.
This was the case with my former friend, who had a sweet relationship with her husband and entered into a happy marriage.
However, in less than two years, they divorced, a move that stemmed from my friend's frigidity that caused her husband to cheat and insist on marrying a mistress.
My friend has never been able to understand why her husband cheated on her because Xiao San is inferior to her in terms of appearance, education and ability
She didn't realize the importance of married life for a normal man.
Love is like a house, and married life is the structural support of the house, even if the house is beautiful, without structural support, it will eventually collapse.
Finally, the pursuit of novelty is also one of the reasons for cheating.
Chen He and his first love Xu Jing's love was once enviable, the two fell in love since junior high school, entered the palace of marriage, and accompanied each other for 14 years.
These 14 years can be called the best time for the two, from school uniforms to wedding dresses, which is something that many people yearn for.
However, less than a year after getting married, the two announced their divorce, and Chen He quickly married Zhang Zixuan, who was married for the second time.
The speed of this divorce and remarriage is suspicious, and it is doubtful that he cheated on Zhang Zixuan during the marriage, and the final facts also confirm this.
Why is 14 years of relationship and companionship not as good as a new person who has not known for a long time?
This is because of people's pursuit of novelty.
Humans, as visual animals, do not like to see things that are set in stone, including people.
Therefore, when two people get along for a long time, visual fatigue will occur.
At this time, if another person appears, and it is also the object of their own liking, the person who is not strong-willed is likely to cheat.
The marriage relationship is a contract, and the real object of its protection is the villain, not the gentleman
If a person wants to cheat, it has little to do with how good your relationship is, it can only be said that the cheating person has no contract spirit and cannot control himself.
Therefore, for such a person, there is nothing others can do.
What we can do is to carefully screen before falling in love, choose a partner with good moral character, a sense of responsibility, and a sense of morality, and minimize the possibility of the other party cheating.