Ye Ningyuan. How to be self-reliant and self-reliant in college students（2023-12-11）
College students have significant herd characteristics, many people do not know how to pay attention to their personal values, can not adhere to their own ideas and preferences, the following will be ** college students how to self-control, in order to avoid blindly following the trend, following the crowd.
Identify the environment: Be wary of the social clock
"Social clock" is a concept of social psychology, which refers to a rhythm of life formed by the social culture in which people live, and it can also be said that it is the expectation that social values project on individuals, affecting individuals to consciously or unconsciously follow this rhythm and run forward. This clock makes it seem as if everyone in society is born with a fixed timetable, and each stage has to achieve corresponding achievements. If you don't, it can lead to anxiety and self-doubt. As a representative of the fresh force of society, college students, under the influence of the social clock, are busy with grade points, seeking further education, and looking for jobs, and the slightest carelessness will cause anxiety among their peers. College students seem to forget to pay attention to themselves, their own ideas, and their own value on the way to run, so they must learn to be self-controlled.
Take care of your body and mind: eat a healthy diet and exercise your routine
College students need to meet their physiological needs. A healthy body is an important premise for us to pay attention to our own value, but the physical fitness and health status of college students are showing a downward trend year by year. Health always comes first, and while you are busy with Xi, you also need to take some time to listen to your body's voice.
First of all, we should maintain a reasonable diet, avoid overeating or excessive dieting, eat on time, it is best not to eat with the pressure of studying Xi or work, focus on the food in front of you, feel the taste and color of the food, feel the body gradually regain energy, and focus on yourself and food.
Secondly, we can insist on appropriate physical exercise, maybe as a busy college student, we are entangled in all kinds of things, but we must have a sense of sports, we can start exercising at any time and place, choose the projects we are interested in, devote ourselves to it, feel what we are doing, and whether we will gradually transform into a different self.
Finally, we must maintain sufficient sleep, staying up late has become the norm for contemporary college students, so while going to bed as early as possible, we can set aside appropriate time before going to bed, put down electronic products, relax and quiet, and ensure the quality of sleep.
Stay focused: Overcome excessive attention to others
College students need to overcome excessive attention to others. Focusing too much on others can lead college students to ignore their own needs and ideas, and at the same time fear that their actions do not meet the expectations of others and misunderstand others.
On the one hand, we need to know ourselves, praise and negation exist in the discourse system of others, and we should establish our own cognitive system, pay attention to our own feelings and needs, understand our own strengths and weaknesses, admit our own strengths and weaknesses, and at the same time slow down to feel the feelings of the mind and body, so as to better focus on personal value.
On the other hand, we need to build healthy relationships, enjoy the present moment of the relationship, not fear the future, do not need to hide our needs in order to maintain the stability of the relationship, respect each other with others, gradually avoid relying on or controlling others, and shift our attention to our own thoughts.
Self-pacing: Find a time zone that is self-consistent
College students need to find their time zone. What happens in life depends on your own time, in the rush of college life, maybe the friends around us are far ahead of us, or maybe there are friends who are behind us, but everything has its own time zone and rhythm, he has his, you have yours, as an independent individual, we should not be limited to the formatted "track" in confrontation and competition.
Only by finding your own time zone, following your own pace, and discovering truly meaningful things in your own time zone, can you gradually enrich your heart, complete your personal exploration, feel the world seriously, and discover your own values and ideas in it.
So, don't let other people's processes disrupt our rhythm, and in the case of anxious involution, maybe you can also try to "go against the social clock", it doesn't matter if you pause, move slowly or even go backwards, but try to create a purposeful, meaningful and fulfilling life for yourself.