In this land, the education of many people has been suppressed by a dregs culture that can suppress our inner being, weaken our self-confidence, and undermine our core.
Living in such an environment for a long time, the self-destructive subconscious will take root in our subconscious.
Self-sabotage is a subconscious mind that consciously or unintentionally negatively affects ourselves, and it affects every aspect of our lives.
It is divided into 2 aspects.
01 Make money and seek it outward
When it comes to making money, many people are tempted to see others succeed and want to start their own business or gain wealth.
However, they tend to hesitate and wait until all the conditions are ripe before acting.
They think that others can succeed because they have good external conditions or have found a good way to make money, so they have been waiting.
But in reality, making money has nothing to do with any external conditions, only with the inside.
And when it comes to relationships, many people will shift the responsibility to others for fear of taking responsibility.
However, every relationship is one-to-one, and when the relationship is unbalanced or broken, you are the one who is most responsible.
If you try to find excuses, then you will lose the opportunity to take responsibility. Therefore, to change this self-destructive behavior, we need to start changing from within.
Making money must be something you want to do from the bottom of your heart, and whether you can make money or not is only related to your inner self.
02 In interpersonal relationships, there is a reluctance to take responsibility
When dealing with relationships, some people are often reluctant to accept their faults.
Many people often shift the blame to others for their interpersonal discord and ask why they lack empathy
That person really can't do it, why don't you try to understand me?”
This essentially reflects an attitude of evasion of responsibility and has become a Xi of self-sabotage.
If you take an inventory of all your relationships:
Your relationships with parents, friends, bosses, bosses, and classmates ......
You will notice that although you may have mutual friends, every relationship is essentially a two-sided bond with no third party involved.
This means that if a relationship becomes unstable or collapses, it is about you, and you are the main party in the relationship, not everyone else.
Whenever you try to find excuses, such as blaming your parents for being disrespectful, accusing your boss of misconduct, or thinking that your friends are forgetting their ......
In fact, you are just giving up your responsibilities, unwilling to face up to the real world, and forever trapped in "self-sabotage".
So how do we get rid of "self-sabotage"?
It's a broad topic, and if you're willing to discuss it in depth, you can join the VIP group. Today, I will only briefly explain it.
We only need to start with the simple meaning of the meaning, and we don't have to dig into it.
Impressionable people may start to think cranky because of a glance from someone else:
Does this man despise me?Why did he look at me like that?Could it be that something is wrong with what I'm wearing today?
These thoughts are all negative reverie, self-depletion, and even self-sabotage.
And strong people never guess the minds of others, only pay attention to the direct expression of others, and the words of the other party are literal, and there is no need to over-interpret them.
This is the reason why strong people can live so freely and leisurely, even in the face of emergencies in life, they can calmly deal with them.
Finally, to completely eliminate "self-sabotage", the key is to renovate your inner world and change your spiritual core.
Because "self-sabotage" is a subconscious mind that exists in everyone's mind to a greater or lesser extent, it will not stop just because you get a good job, nor will it disappear because you have earned a certain amount of wealth.
It has its roots in the unforgettable fragments of your memory that create an inner sense of insecurity that continues to affect your life.
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