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My neighbor and I are both besieged, but his wife is strong, and my husband works in other places all the year round, so when my neighbor confessed to me, I did not refuse. After we developed a romantic relationship, we often went on sneaky dates, most of the time at my house, and the neighbors would occasionally take me to the countryside for a walk.
I was a little apprehensive when I first developed a lover relationship with my neighbor, but the presence of my neighbor did give me a sense of freshness and a minimum of companionship, so greed eventually triumphed over conscience, so I didn't have too many worries in this relationship. But after spending a lot of time with my neighbors, I feel more and more that this kind of sneaky relationship is particularly boring. He once said to his neighbors: Either we both divorce and start a new family, or we will never have any kind of contact again. The neighbor's feedback to me: for the sake of the children, he will not choose to divorce his wife, but he is more comfortable with me, and he will not break up with me.
In this case, the neighbor's pestering of me no longer makes me feel sweet, but I feel a little inextricable. In this case, I started to selectively answer my neighbors** and selectively reply to my neighbors' text messages, which caused my neighbors to be very unhappy with my performance. The other day, when we were arguing, I had a showdown with him: I wanted to pull away from the relationship without tearing my face. The neighbor immediately showed his hideousness: 1) You work decently, I work in a private company, be careful that I poke out the affairs of the two of us;2) Once you tear your face, you lose much more than me;3) If you don't want to be discredited, go ahead and be my lover. I was also a little annoyed and angry at the time, and replied to my neighbors: You can harm me as much as you want, and I will accompany you to the end, but in the end, the fish will die and the net will be broken.
After that day, I blocked all the *** in my neighborhood. What I'm more worried about right now: 1) My neighbors made a fuss at my workplace and made me lose my job2) The matter between me and my neighbor reached the ears of my husband, and my husband divorced me.
Mu Zi Li emotion**:
Most people are face-to-face at the level of dealing with others, usually in the face of other people's unconscious behavior, as long as you reason with the other party, the other party will correct their words and deeds in a state of reason, but there are also a very small number of people in the face of others to give theories, feel that the other party and their own good talk because the other party is too good to talk, so they deduce the nose on the face. At this time, only by choosing to turn their faces can these bastards realize that the other party is not a soft persimmon. For this reason, interpersonal interactions are sometimes psychological tactics. At the beginning of the negotiation with others, it is necessary to speak well and convince others, but when you realize that the other party is a person who does not listen to reason, you need to show a tougher attitude, at this time, it will basically get the effect you want.
Many times, when we encounter some unconscious behaviors in life, we usually choose a forbearance attitude, at this time, we have a psychological hint to ourselves: more is better than less. However, when some people's inappropriate behavior is an existence that often infringes on your interests, you will inevitably give a kind reminder after the other person has performed many unconscious behaviors. At this time, you want to see the effect: the other person will recognize their mistakes and give them restraint in the future. Unfortunately, there are still some people who face your condemnation and show that the dead pig is not afraid of boiling water. In this case, you can only choose to turn your face. Although more often than not, we don't want to make enemies for ourselves in life, but some people, maybe tearing their faces and dying of old age and not getting along with each other is the end they should have.
Why did you develop a lover relationship with your neighbor in the first place?1) You have some intersections in your daily life, which leads to a good impression on each other, so that both parties have established a good impression invisibly;2) The neighbor's wife is relatively strong, which causes the neighbor to be a little depressed in married life;3) Your husband is not by your side all the year round, and you are a little lonely. At the beginning of your relationship with your neighbor, neither you nor your neighbor thought about reorganizing the family, but as the relationship warmed up, you felt that the clandestine relationship was not what you wanted, so you gave the option of divorce or breakup. But the neighbor is not willing to break up with you if he is unwilling to divorce: 1) the half-bottle of swaying relationship between you and the neighbor makes the neighbor feel comfortable;2) He doesn't want their children to grow up in divorced families.
When you forcibly broke up with your neighbor, he was actually a little hysterical, and all the cruel things he said in front of you were just a trick to let you continue to be his lover. As everyone knows, the more he is like this, the more terrible it makes you feel. In fact, after you got into an argument and you blacklisted all of your neighbors, your neighbors didn't take any retaliatory measures against you. The truth of his heart: 1) His exposure of the things between you and him is not only harming you, but also himself, do you think he will dry the things between you and his wife in front of him?2) After tearing up his face with you, once the result of divorcing his wife is obtained (in the case of tearing his face, you will definitely no longer consider reuniting the family with him), he will inevitably be empty, do you think this is the result he wants?So, when it comes to your relationship with your neighbor: if you ignore him, it's a complete turn, and you don't need to worry too much.
Regarding extramarital affairs, more often than not, it is presented like this: all people who engage in extramarital affairs know that this kind of relationship belongs to the existence of the dark, for this reason, when one party proposes to break up, even if the other party is unwilling to accept the reality of the breakup, he will swallow the grievances of the breakup like a dumb eat, stemming from the fact that in similar feelings, once he chooses to stalk, he will inevitably become a street rat in the whirlpool of **. But there are also a very small number of people who don't care about face at all, when the lover proposes to break up with him, or because he has moved his sincerity, or because the lover gives him a breakup fee is not in place, so in order to occupy the lover, or strive for more material benefits, he threatens or makes a fuss to the lover.
Especially when those with families cheat on single people and are threatened, it is a very difficult predicament to get rid of. At this time, single lovers will have such a posture: barefoot are not afraid to wear shoes. The party with a family is not only worried about the consequences of being kicked out of the siege by his lover after the extramarital affair is exposed, but also worried that the career he has been fighting for many years will be ruined because of his reputation, and at the same time, he will also take into account the feelings of his children. Remind everyone that there should be less luck in life, and more caution that is not afraid of 10,000 but is afraid of what happens, especially in extramarital affairs, it is best not to be contaminated, once you are entangled by your lover, or even report with your real name, you may let yourself bear the price of regretting for a lifetime, once this scene appears, you can only blame yourself for deserving it.
Editor's note: The plot that will be staged every day: people hate out of love, and take revenge on those they once loved in a cruel way. Especially in the face of extramarital affairs, once retaliated against, they often do not get the support of ** while bearing the corresponding consequences. Although many times, people also get involved in extramarital affairs with a playful mentality, it cannot be ruled out that it will be embarrassing that it is easy to send God away.
Sometimes, don't say that the people around you are cruel when you are wronged, but reflect on whether your behavior is worthy of a more comfortable lifeSome people, when they do inappropriate things, hope that everyone around them is blind;When I want to withdraw from my inappropriate behavior, I hope that I can get out of it with my whole body. What I want to say is, why is there always a mentality of wanting to be beautiful?
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