There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, in fact, the second half of the sentence is more realistic, but few people know it
As the people say: That is, if you don't marry a woman for Hebo, the water will float and drown its people. —Historical Records: A Funny Biography.
Chinese civilization has a history of thousands of years, and in addition to a large number of ancient poems that we can read and appreciate, there are also some common sayings that are also spread among the common peopleMost of them were created by working people, and we can summarize our own life experiences and natural phenomena into some relatively easy to remember sentences. Folk proverbs have many names, such as slang, proverbs, ancient sayings, etc., and some of these words have become a unique culture. Some of the sentences are quite philosophical, which makes people feel like they are empowered. I think you've all heard of it."There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time"That's it, thenCan any of you guess the next paragraph?The latter sentenceIt's also very realistic, but not many people know about it, the complete sentence isThere is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness, and there is no virtuous wife in a poor family for a long time
The meaning of the first half of the sentence
The literal meaning of the first half of the sentence is easy to understand, if the person in the family is bedridden and sick for a long time, then there will be no filial children around. It's human natureIn the past, there is no silver bullet,Most diseases have to be treated by themselves, in such conditions,Not only do they have no labor at home, but they also have to allocate part of their energy to take care of the sick elderlyIt's okay for a short time, but after a long time, the children will complain, because they all have their own things to do and their own lives to live. This phenomenon has been going on for thousands of years, and it is not something that is said casually.
As a parent, the love for the child is often the most selfless, starting from babbling, until the child is independent and starting a family, every parent works day and night without complaint, such an emotional foundation, nothing can replace. Just like when we were children when we wrote essays and asked to write about our parents, many people would write about how their parents took care of themselves when they were sick, and some parents may stay up all night and stay with their children, for fear that there would be something wrong with their children's condition.
But after children grow up, they have to face all kinds of pressures from life, which is really unbearable. If it is a sudden illness, you can still go back and forth between work and the hospital for a short time, but after a long time, few people can survive。In some **, we can see some children quit their jobs because they have to take care of their parents and devote themselves to companionship, but after all, such people are very few. Children from ordinary families, if they don't work hard, how can they get the money to support their father and mother. This is an ethical and economic dilemmaThis is exactly the dilemma faced by the new generation of young people in today's era.
The meaning of the next paragraph
The latter paragraph may feel too real to many, but".Poor couples mourn everything"We've all heard about it, is a poem by Yuan Zhi of the Tang Dynasty. After the death of his wife Wei Cong, he wrote this poem in memory of his wife. At that time, his wife was a rich daughter, and he was just a teenager who had just stepped into the officialdom, and the two formed a pair by chance, but he had just entered this circle, with a small salary, and no savings, so he and his wife had a hard time, and his wife was silently supporting him in the back. But the consequence of poverty is that many things that can be got rid of with money, they need to put in more effort, but this time is also more memorable.
Yuan Zhen is a lucky person, he enters the officialdom, he can get a higher salary in the future, and in ancient times, ordinary people, few people can really change their fate, most of them are agriculture for a living, and women will gradually change from a simple innocent girl, gradually become a profit-seeking womanAnd these, all of themBorn in poverty. Under normal circumstances, girls from rich families don't have to worry about this kind of thing, and they don't care about everything.
Many intimate feelings are relied onsubstanceto sustain it,Love tooSame,Once one day, the passion fades, the love will be transformed into a family, and without enough resources, patience will slowly be lost. No one wants to spend their whole life haggling with vendors.
Wrapping up
Although these two sentences are colloquialisms, they are still not inconsistent at all in modern societyPeople'sIn life, there will always be some unexpected things happening, especially when they get older, and the more responsibility they have on their shoulders. In addition to housing and car loans, they also have to think about their children's education. Material things have also gradually become the basis for building relationships. Otherwise, the blind date market will not have such a high standard, you must have a house and can get an annual salary of one million. It seems that these parents love money, but in fact, who doesn't want their daughters and sons to find a person who is the right person to marry, and get rid of the possibility of "poor couples mourning everything".