From the beginning of my marriage, I heard that the old ladies in Shandong are partial to the boss. And when I married Luo Tao, I experienced this partiality firsthand. Once, when Luo Tao returned home, his expression was displeased, and when I came out with a spatula and saw his appearance, I couldn't help but ask: "Which little goblin entangled you, or did something happen that made you look lost." Luo Tao pushed my hand away, threw the computer bag on the sofa, and then sat down heavily, holding his head in his hands for a long time before he said hesitantly: "My mother wants my eldest brother-in-law to come here to work, and also offered to let him live in our house." I threw down the spatula in anger: "This doesn't work at all, do they treat our house as a hotel, come whenever you want, I firmly disagree." I said angrily. Luo Tao's face turned pale, and he said helplessly: "There are only ten minutes left before they get home." "My mother-in-law always does things on her own terms and never takes our opinions into account. She was convinced that we would not resist her decision.
When I first married Luo Tao, I wasWeddings, my mother-in-law asked us to toast my eldest brother, emphasizing that my eldest brother was like a father, and she also asked us to remember to help my eldest brother. Before I could ask Luo Tao what was going on, my mother-in-law began chattering at the dinner table. She said that when her eldest brother was a child, in order to save Luo Tao who fell into the water, she stepped on the glass slag in the river, which caused inflammation of her feet, and she was not ** in time, leaving a disability. She also said that in order to allow Luo Tao to go to school, the eldest brother was willing to drop out of school and work to support Luo Tao. Big brother's face was red for a while, and I don't know if he was drinking or something else. Luo Tao silently bowed his head and didn't speak, and let my mother-in-law take my hand and sob: "Xiaoyan, you won't object to Luo Tao helping the eldest brother." "Of course it is necessary to repay the kindness, how can I object to it, and Luo Tao is also very grateful. It's just that after marriage, I saw that many times my mother-in-law forced Luo Tao to do it, and Luo Tao himself didn't have much enthusiasm, let alone take the initiative to help.
For example, when we just moved to a new home, my mother-in-law asked Luo Tao to accompany my eldest brother to drink tea and chat every day after work, and to go to my eldest brother's house for a meal every weekend. Although Luo Tao was reluctant, he reluctantly agreed. And every time I go to my eldest brother's house, I have to bring some gifts to my eldest brother, she wants us to compensate for my eldest brother as much as possible, and she firmly believes that my eldest brother's contribution is immeasurable. Whenever the eldest brother saw the gifts brought by Luo Tao, he smiled very happily, I sometimes really feel that Luo Tao is like a full-time filial son, and the eldest brother has become his only responsibility.
We have been married for five years, but we have been living in the shadow of my mother-in-law. I feel that our relationship is no longer husband and wife, but more like a partner of the eldest brother, and Luo Tao is becoming more and more estranged from me. In the past, we would plan the future together, but now, Luo Tao will only worry about the affairs of the eldest brother. I know he's under pressure, but I hope he can do the same for usMarriageSake. So, I decided to have a good talk with Luo Tao.
One night, as we sat on the couch, I plucked up the courage to say, "Luo Tao, I think ours."MarriageSomething went wrong and I hope we can solve it together. Luo Tao was stunned for a moment, and then sighed softly: "Xiaoyan, I also have this awareness, I know that I am very cold to you, but I really have a headache for the eldest brother." I seized the opportunity and continued: "I understand your plight, but we should also think about our own happiness. I don't want to live like a shadow of my big brother in the future. "Every time Luo Tao says a word, my voice can only be maintained by willpower, and I don't want him to feel that I am angry. After some arguments, in the end, we decided to stick to our bottom line and stop doing too much for Big Brother. Such a change is not easy, but at least we are starting to take the first step in oursMarriageThere is new hope.
After we made our decision, we decided to renegotiate with my mother-in-law. We first chose an appropriate time to sit down with my mother-in-law and have a good talk. We told my mother-in-law what we thought, hoping that she would understand us and support our decision. It could have been a huge blow for my mother-in-law, but she eventually accepted our decision. There may be some things that can't be completely changed, but at least we can find a balance.
From that day on, we began to realign oursMarriage。Luo Tao also gradually got rid of the shadow of his eldest brother and began to be more ***Marriage。We began to reimagine the future, creating goals and plans together. We started to give to each other and actively communicated when we had problems.
After a period of hard work, ourMarriageGradually the balance was restored. We regained our care and love for each other and faced the difficulties and challenges of life together. Although mother-in-law will still have some eccentric behavior, we have learned to deal with these problems and no longer let it be on our behalfMarriageMake too much of an impact. Together, we continue to move towards a happy future.