Yesterday I listened to a book and heard a point of view, called saying soft words and doing hard things, this sentence reminded me of an experience of learning a driver's license:
At that time, when learning to Xi in the examination room, there will always be some instructors urging you to hurry up, because you are a novice, after others so urged, you will be busy, let alone operate.
Later, I asked the coach, and the coach said that you can be softer in this situation, and said okay, okay, but the operation is still at your own pace, I think it makes sense when I hear it, and then I did it, and the effect is not bad.
This method is very suitable for those who do not want to have a direct conflict with others, because the softer language can also reduce the resentment and rejection of others, and the possibility of direct conflict will be reduced, but they will not give up their rights and interests in behavior.
Some people may say that this is a difference between words and deeds, and I admit that there are factors in this regard, but not everyone has the conditions to say hard things and do hard things, and everyone's personality is different, I think for the time being, this is a flexible approach.
If you happen to be this kind of personality and encounter similar problems, you can also try this method, if not, you can ignore it.