"The Marriage of Left and Right" mentions: "The wife tells you the ** of the greens, and the lover tells you the number of stars in the sky." ”
In fact, the reason why a relationship other than marriage seems romantic is that it is not bothered by daily trivial matters, and it does not have to worry about three meals, so it will feel pleasant.
Why do many people get caught up in extramarital affairs that they can't help themselves from? Mainly because both parties only focus on passion and do not think about real life. Once you really go through everyday life together, the relationship collapses.
In fact, the relationship between lovers cannot last long. Although it is full of romance at first, after a long time together, various problems will emerge and the novelty will soon disappear.
At that point, both sides will want to stay out of the way and not be responsible. The so-called mountain alliance and sea oath are just a disguise at the beginning of love.
It can be seen that the lover relationship has no future and will eventually evolve into strangers. And before the relationship collapses, there are usually a lot of signs that are difficult to hide.
In general, there are three "signs" in a lover's relationship, most of which mean that the relationship is coming to an end.
1. Lose the desire to communicate with each other and no longer want to talkIf lovers lose their desire to communicate with each other and are no longer willing to talk to each other, it means that the relationship is coming to an end.
Relationships outside of marriage are inherently not enduringly happy, and once both parties have tried the novelty, the interest will naturally wane.
For example, once a man gets a woman, his mindset changes, he feels that enough is enough, and he slowly loses patience.
Especially when women make unreasonable demands, men will be more disgusted and repulsive.
When a man wants to end a relationship, he avoids talking to the woman, stops reaching out to her, and the relationship quickly becomes cold.
The same goes for women. Once you have experienced intimacy and see the true side of a man, you will feel disappointed that the man is not as perfect as you would like.
At this time, the woman's feelings of loss will gradually deepen, and eventually she will have a sense of rejection towards the man and will no longer be willing to entangle.
Therefore, as long as the lover relationship loses communication and the expectation of meeting and dating, the relationship will quickly come to an end.
2. Hide your lover in your social circle and begin to erase memories of the past There are usually signs of a person's departure, which can be discovered with a little observation.
If the lover begins to erase the memories and various pieces of life between the two together, it means that the relationship is already in jeopardy.
The social circles of both sides began to make each other invisible, blocking each other, and not wanting each other to see any dynamics, which is a clear sign of intentional estrangement.
Only when you no longer love someone will you delete the memories of the past and do not want to leave traces of the past.
Relationships can quickly collapse when they begin to delete each other, block each other, have no social interaction, and have no desire to continue socializing.
Three years after Ms. Xu got married, she was sent by the company to study Xi for five days, during which she met a senior who had a crush.
We haven't seen each other for many years, but we are very happy that we have become friends and started a close relationship, and we are very happy.
The two have been quietly dating for two years, spent many romantic times, and left a lot of memories in their circle of friends.
But later, Miss Xu gradually sobered up and didn't want to develop any further, but she was embarrassed to refuse her senior directly, so she began to deliberately alienate him.
Not only did she delete the bits and pieces of memories she had with her seniors, but she also deliberately blocked the circle of friends so that her seniors no longer saw her dynamics.
In order to prevent the senior from disturbing her life, she directly deleted the senior, no longer accepted his friend request, and expressed her determination to leave.
The senior is not stupid, he naturally understands her thoughts, so he no longer entangles, and the two did not officially say goodbye, but they know that this relationship is over.
So, in a lover's relationship, there are usually signs when the relationship cannot continue. The relationship is about to collapse when both parties erase memories of the past, break off contact, and deliberately distance themselves from each other.
3. Refuse to accept any gifts from the other party and draw a clear line completely If the lover no longer accepts any gifts from the other party when getting along, deliberately avoiding and alienating, it means that the relationship has come to an end.
At this time, the man and woman will draw a clear line, neither want to communicate nor meet, and become very indifferent to each other.
On the one hand, they realize that they don't want to fall into abnormal feelings anymore and want to return to a peaceful life.
On the other hand, fearing the relationship**, had to try to get out of it all so as not to incur trouble and pay the price.
Therefore, when one party does not want to continue to develop the relationship, they will refuse the other party's gift and gradually withdraw from the relationship, so that the relationship will disappear naturally.
Especially women, once they decide to quit and don't want to dwell on it anymore, even if a man gives them expensive gifts, or even large red envelopes, they will not accept it, but want to end the relationship as soon as possible.
Of course, if a man no longer loves, he will be more ruthless, he will not care about a woman's feelings at all, and once he gets tired of it, he will disappear from life and never look back.
Therefore, the lover relationship simply cannot last long, and there are some factors that both men and women take into account. Once you decide to let go, you will leave silently, refusing any form of entanglement, which is very cruel.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "How beautiful love is, how hurtful, how vigorous, and how lonely, in love, the wise and the fool may be the same person." ”
It is true that a lover relationship can be sweet and romantic or even passionate at the beginning.
However, the deeper the love, the deeper the wound, and when the novelty passes, each other loses their passion and does not want to continue, the relationship becomes particularly cold and ruthless, collapsing in an instant.
In general, the lover's relationship ** shows these three "signs", which is likely to mean that the relationship is about to end.
Lose the desire to communicate with each other and suddenly don't want to talk; The circle of friends is set to be invisible to the lover, and the past records are deleted; No longer accept any gifts from the other person, and draw a clear line completely.
As a result, the end of a relationship usually precedes these signs. When you're aware, it's best not to be attached.
In addition, for feelings outside of marriage, there is no need to be too involved, it is better to stop losses in time.
Finally, remind real-life men and women not to easily get involved in relationships outside of marriage. Always maintaining the bottom line of loyalty and guarding the family is the vision and wisdom that mature people should have.