Lele's mother said: My child is good at everything, but he is too slow to do his homework!What people can do in an hour, she can drag on for two hours.
Every time she writes homework, as long as the writing is a little untidy, she has to erase it and write it again. Two days ago, it was past 10 o'clock in the evening, and I saw that she hadn't finished her homework, so I said her in a hurry, and it made the child cry.
Hey, it hurts to watch, but it doesn't work if you don't urge, and you don't know when you have to drag it out. I also know that she didn't mean it, or she was slow. But every time I see her stay up late and don't go to bed, I can't suppress the fire and want to talk about her, and I regret it after saying it, what can I do?
I will look for you if you have any problems
A friend once told me about his cousin with great concern.
This child has been cared for and cared for by his mother and sister since he was a child, and now that he is in college, he still has to ask his family for help when he encounters a little thing.
I need to buy headphones for the English test, so I looked for my mother in the group, and my mother bought them and sent them to him immediately after hearing them;I had a conflict with my roommate and asked my mother what to doThe weather was cold, and I asked my mother when I could change the quilt;The college has the opportunity to change majors, and I asked my mother if she wanted to change ......
Parents do too much for their children, and solve problems for their children as soon as they encounter them, and children will develop a dependency mentality, lack the ability to think independently and solve problems, have no assertiveness, and have no decision-making, and it will be difficult for them to adapt to society in the future.
This kind of child often starts from a young age, and likes to find his parents when he encounters a little thing.
I can't do my homework, and I don't want to think about it, so I'll find my parents right awayI can't find the pen, call Mom and Dad;I don't know what to wear to participate in the event, so I asked my mom and dad
It is reasonable and normal for children to turn to their parents for help, but there is a limit. If you find that no matter what problems your child encounters, even if it is a small thing, he is vulnerable, at a loss, has no idea of his own, and will only find his parents to solve it, you should pay attention.
Reflect on whether you usually make too many decisions and choices for your child, and whether you arrange your child too thoughtfully, so that he loses the opportunity to think independently and practice his ideas.
Learn convey priority matrix
The most popular priority formula in the universe is called the Covey quadrant, a concept that was first proposed by Stephen Covey. He is the author of the book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People".
From primary school onwards, parents and teachers can train their children to use this tool to manage their to-do lists. This tool is simple, and the usage is to divide what you want to do and what you want to do into four categories:1. Important but not urgent. 2 urgent and unimportant. 3. Both important and urgent. 4. Neither important nor urgent。So how do you teach your child to distinguish between these four types of tasks and their priorities?
1.Both important and urgent (do it right away).
It's often related to short-term goals, such as reviewing for tomorrow's exams, which are important, and if you don't do it sooner, there will be consequences.
2.Important but not urgent (do it next).
It's often related to long-term goals, such as learning a foreign language, getting fit, or becoming a member of the baseball team.
3.Urgent and unimportant (do it later).
It is usually related to factors that tend to interfere with us in daily life, such as wanting to watch a football game that is being broadcast, and if you can't complete 1 and 2 first, you have to choose to watch the broadcast video later.
4.Neither important nor urgent (not necessarily done).
For example, making ** porridge with friends, or canvassing votes for unfamiliar student clubs, don't do it if you don't have time!
In fact, the COVEY four-quadrant tool can also be used by adults: knowing the priority of tasks can effectively reduce procrastination, and they are not afraid of being busy without grasping the key points.
The sooner parents guide their children to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
I would like to share with you a set of books that teach children to learn time management, "Watch at School" series.
This set of 8 books is suitable for children in lower grades, and corresponds to key issues in children's learning, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
A set of 8 volumes, ** is not expensive, but it can cultivate children's time management skills and become excellent children.
Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, develop good study habits, and develop good time management habits from an early age.
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