Many education experts point out that there are natural differences in the psychological development of boys and girls, which requires that we should also teach students according to their aptitude in our nurturing methods, rather than simply copying girls' educational programs.
For example, boys develop more slowly and mentally than girls, which requires more patience in the educational process. In addition, boys are naturally competitive and adventurous, and need to have reasonable channels to vent. If these differences are not taken into account, parenting methods can backfire.
Some Western education experts have even suggested that the long-term feminine education model is also one of the important reasons for the problem of boys' education in recent years. We need to expose boys to male roles and give them some room for physical and emotional exercise.
We also need to be concerned about how to properly nurture boysBreak out of the traditional framework of education and consider how to teach students according to their aptitude。I've summarized six key takeaways that if parents can do it, they can basically educate boys better.
Now I would like to share these six points with you, and you are also very welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss and exchange.
#Spend more time with male eldersIf the father does not take his son often from an early age, it is more difficult for the masculinity of the boy to cultivate. In fact, it is difficult for mothers to completely replace this. Because masculinity needs to be guided and nurtured by patrilineal men. What a mother brings to a boy is love and the soil in which he grows;And what male elders bring to him is the direction and sunshine of growth.
#Let boys learn to share household chores and labor
Overly pampered boys grow up to be useless playthings, while boys who do housework grow up to be reliable men. In family life, boys are especially asked to do some dirty work. This can cultivate their sense of responsibility and responsibility, which is the only way to grow into a man.
#Cultivate a sense of competition and physical training in boysLet boys participate in more competitive sports, such as football, basketball, martial arts, boxing, etc. In competitive competition, boys will realize that if they want to win, they must work hard and sweat, which helps to develop a strong desire to win and an enterprising spirit. This also trains them to be good at adapting to the rules while abiding by them, and cultivating wisdom and courage.
#Don't let the boy become overly dependent on the satisfaction of material lifeIn addition to the necessities of life, it is better not to casually meet the various material needs of the boy. You can tell him that the money in the family has nothing to do with him, and if you want more, you have to work with your own hands to get it. This can cultivate the boy's yearning and self-motivation for a better life.
#Let boys learn to take ownership and take on leadership rolesGiving boys the opportunity to be leaders or representatives of a group can exercise their emotional intelligence, intelligence, and leadership skills. Mistakes are inevitable, and boys should be allowed to learn from taking responsibility. This is an indispensable exercise for his future success.
#Put away the over-spoiling and give them a certain amount of pressure to growMen can be dumb, but not lazy. We need to put a certain amount of pressure on boys to survive, rather than arranging everything for them. So it's good to experience more pain and frustration to bring out the best in them. After all, they also have to carry the burden of a family when they grow up.
In the proposition of nurturing boys, we must think outside the traditional thinking, understand the characteristics of boys' growth, and help them be healthy in a reasonable way**.
Ultimately, our upbringing is to produce gentlemen who are both gentle and responsible, self-disciplined and tolerant. As the educator Mr. Qian Mu said: "A gentleman is a metaphor for righteousness, and education is fun." ”Let's witness the strength and beauty of boys' growth with wisdom and love!
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