Housework is a "troublesome thing" that many people avoid, which makes people feel that it is not only a waste of time, but also a waste of energy, let alone let their children do the housework. However, some studies have shown that although housework is a bit annoying, there are many benefits.
According to the results of a study by the University Medical Center of Rotterdam in the Netherlands, women who do housework will live an average of 3 years longer than the average person. And another study spanning up to 9 years showed that:Men doing housework can reduce the mortality rate by half!
Doing housework is not only helpful for physical health, but also reflects the division of labor, responsibilities and parenting style of a family, which deserves serious consideration by every family member. At the end of the article, there is also a super practical "Common Age-based Housework Plan for American Families", let's take the baby to practice together!
#Poor mothers raised billionaires
It actually relied on the "housework education law".
There was once a Chinese mother's "housework education law" that attracted the attention of the United States. She came from a poor background and grew up in a poor farming family in Malaysia. At the age of 17, the mother immigrated to the United States with no education and no money.
However, this mom willBoth sons have been raised to be super top students + billionaires, and even the "most inconspicuous" youngest son has become an excellent software engineer.
The eldest son, Justin, graduated from Yale, and while studying physics and psychology, Justin founded Twitch. In 2014, Twitch ended with 9$700 million was given to Amazon.
His second son, Daniel, founded Cruise, a company that develops self-driving cars. In 2016, GM acquired Cruise for more than $1 billion in cash and **.
In an interview with **, the sons told everyone:It was their mother's "housekeeping education law" that taught them how to start and manage a company.
An interview with the eldest son Justin and the second son Daniel by the famous Business Insider. Both attribute their success to doing chores as kids as children
From an early age, let your child help with the chores he can
What is the secret of parenting for Justin's mother (referred to as J mother), that is: let her three sons help with housework from an early age.
In fact, not only do housework, but when she goes out to work, she will also use her sons as child laborers without mercy.
For example, she used to work as a real estate agent, repairing a dilapidated rental house and its furniture on weekends before renting it out or selling it.
So, every weekend, J's mother takes her three sons to do all the nasty house repair work - such as painting the house, repairing tables and chairs, and cleaning ......Children also often need to help their mom with basic office tasks, such as entering loan data.
Special housework arrangements foster team spirit
J's mother's method of arranging housework is also very special. There are three boys in the family, but J's mother doesn't give each one a task individually like other parents. Instead, she just makes a "chore list" and lets her three sons negotiate and choose what to do for themselves. Moreover, as long as the housework on the list is not completed, all three sons are not allowed to play computer games!
Soon, doing housework becomes "organizing a team to complete a task", working together, understanding the characteristics of each person, assigning tasks, controlling the situation, calculating each other's workload ......These trainings continuously improve the children's executive ability. Justin said in an interview:
I think housework is the same as starting a company. With any startup, everyone is in the same boat, and it doesn't matter who did what. We just need to do certain things well in order to be successful. If we succeed, then everyone wins. If we don't succeed, everyone loses.
Of course, people in large companies will feel different. But from an organizational point of view, you really need a goal, and you are working together towards it.
It was my mother's approach to education that taught the three brothers how to work in a team and how to set goals.
No Punishment Motivate children with high standards
Mother J does not ask her children to do housework as punishment, but instead motivates them by setting high standards and leads by example.
J's mother is Chinese and came to the United States from Malaysia when she was 17 years old. She grew up in a poor farming family in Malaysia, both to farmer parents.
When I first arrived in the United States, J's mother didn't understand anything. But she was a good learner, going to a cheap-cost community college for two years before transferring to the University of Washington, where she wasGot a bachelor's degree in physics and a master's degree in computer science。After graduating, he started working in a data equipment company, and after a few years, he switched to a real estate agent.
I have to say that behind every excellent child there is an excellent mother!Teaching by example is the best way to educate。Even if you have a bunch of bad cards in your hand, you can still rely on unremitting efforts to turn the tables against the wind!
#We are all part of this family
Must make a contribution to this family
Frank Furedi, a professor of sociology at the University of Kent, points out that society and the family are now changingThe younger generation is "infantilized".As a result, more and more teenagers are psychologically reluctant to mature, and some of them are nearly 30 years old and unable to live independently from their families.
And because of the lack of housework exercises, now the child's body is also changing, such as:The prefrontal lobe of the child's brain develops more and more slowly, while the prefrontal lobe governs human emotional control, self-awareness, rational thinking, judgment and decision-making ability, long-term planning, and delayed gratification.
That blue brain is the "prefrontal lobe".
Martin Rossmann, a professor of homeschooling at the University of Minnesota, has published a study that shocked the education community: by encouraging their children to participate in household chores, parents can have a hugely important positive impact on their children's futuresCultivate children's sense of responsibility, let them learn to put themselves in the shoes of others, and Xi empathy to care for others.
American developmental psychologist Richard Rende once said: Today's parents want their children to spend their time on the things that will bring them success, however, ironically, we are leaving behind one thing that has been proven to predict success in life - that is, let children start doing housework from an early age.
When children come back from school, telling them that they only need to focus on their Xi and not help with household chores is actually sending a message to the children:
Credits and personal accomplishments are more important than caring for family members and contributing to ...... familyWhen a child is young, this may seem like a very weak message, but over time, this idea can accumulate and become a deep-rooted idea.
#Housework has to start with young children
Research shows that the key is to start early!
Dr. Rossmann is based on a vast amount of data collected by renowned education researcher Diana Baumrind over 25 years of collecting data from San Francisco households. He thinks:
Housework starts with a toddler!If parents do not ask their children to participate in household chores until they are 9-10 or even 15-16 years old, the children will think that the parents are forcing them to do things they do not want to do. Because at that age, it is already difficult for children to realize that the core meaning of sharing chores is:Each of us is a part of this family and must make a contribution to this family.
If you are observant of your child, you will find that around the age of 18 months, when you have trouble opening the door or picking up a clothespin, your child may immediately reach out his little hand and ask for help.
Psychologists have found that at the age of 18 months, children can begin to be encouraged to participate in appropriate household chores.
At this time, it is easy for parents to ignore their children's motivations, thus stifling the child's desire to help others and contribute to the family. Because young children are usually more and more helpful, the instinctive reaction of parents is to kick the child away and then finish the chores themselves. However, to drive away the child was to waste the most precious moment of his life.
#Age-specific housekeeping programs that are common in American families
Housework is so important, and finally I will present to you the "Common Age-specific Housework Plan for American Families". Let children Xi housework from primary school, and cultivate their sense of responsibility, teamwork, and empathy!
18 months to 3 years
Pack up books and toys.
Put the clothes in the laundry basket.
Put dirty dishes in the dishwasher (take away all sharp dishes beforehand!).）
Help sorting clothes and putting them in the washing machine.
Help remove desktop clutter.
Helps clean up spilled liquids (e.g. coffee, tea, wine).
Watering the flower. Feed the pets.
Have them take their socks in their hands and wipe the table and doorknobs.
4 to 5 years old
Contains the above tasks, and can additionally add:
Help to make the bed.
Help get things out of the car and into the house.
Help set up the utensils before the meal.
Help with weeding in the yard.
Help with some simple tasks while preparing meals.
6 to 7 years old
Contains the above tasks, and can additionally add:
Make your own bed.
Clean the room with a vacuum cleaner.
Keep your own room clean and tidy.
Take out the trash. Put away your laundry.
Cleaning the garage. Sort laundry.
8 to 9 years old
Contains the above tasks, and can additionally add:
Take pets for a walk.
Make some simple snacks or meals.
Clean the toilets. Control the dishwasher.
Organize the garage. 10 years old and older
Contains the above tasks, and can additionally add:
Car wash. Clean the kitchen.
Change the bed linen. Wipe the windows.
Yard weeding (under the supervision of an adult).
Wash the bathroom. Meals are cooked independently.
For the future success and happiness of our children.
Let them roll up their sleeves.
Let's get the housework done.
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