In the past, I occasionally cherished the sweetness of love, and I was often glad that I was single. Whenever I see the affection** shown in the circle of friends, I can't help but sigh: "This sweet love, someone is really enjoying it." ”
However, when I hear my friends complain that they can't sleep at night because of their partner's anger, I will sigh again: "Yes, it's really troublesome to love someone." ”
After stepping out of campus, the world became so vast, and we were busy with work, life, travel, and visiting various exhibitions and cafes. To be honest, the time spent with friends every day made me feel like I didn't have time to feel lonely at all.
However, the pandemic was a turning point in my life. After years of struggling and growing up, when I finally felt strong enough and now needed someone who could bloom with me, I had to admit that I began to crave love.
A punch line is good, we don't have to be immersed in the sweetness of love all the time, but we can't do without the nourishment of love. Even if the fate between people is like an unpredictable wind, it will not easily stay for you. But if you are convinced that there is a partner in this world who is compatible with you, then bravely pursuing and constantly trying, isn't it an attitude to challenge fate?
So, with the determination to "love once no matter what", I adjusted my mindset and began to actively make friends, go on dates, and even find the right person through blind dates.
Over the course of the year, I have participated in countless gatherings, and the number of WeChat friends has increased day by day. Some have become companions in my life, others have become confidants who talk about everything, and some former passers-by have been blacklisted by me for some reason.
I didn't hesitate to join frisbee when it became a popular sport and came back with sore muscles for a week. In the process, I got to know a boy, but unfortunately we found that each other's three views did not match, and in the end we had to end regrettably.
However, all these experiences have strengthened my belief that no matter what the outcome is, it is important that we are brave enough to pursue and try. Because in this process, it is not only possible for us to find the right person, but also to make ourselves a better person.
Later, I also came across the so-called"Successful people"They are always self-righteous and make you feel like having dinner with them is a waste of time.
I've tried flirting and dating and have been together for a long time, but even though I crave a relationship, I'm not in a hurry to force myself into a relationship.
My friends said I should have given up a long time ago, but I was relieved. Because I finally understand what kind of people I am attracted to at this age, and what qualities I care more about the other person.
I pay special attention to whether boys have a habit of closing the door casually, and prefer those who look me in the eye when they speak. Even the understanding of love seems to be deeper than all that has been accumulated in the past 28 years.
That's when I realized that from wanting to fall in love to trying to take that step, it turned out to be a process of getting to know the opposite sex and understanding yourself at the same time.
In this world, there are people who are hurt and yearn for a warm embrace;Some people are tired and looking forward to a good medicine. And some people, even though they have seen the prosperity of the world, have not yet walked the journey of life hand in hand with them.
Those who have been lonely for a long time, their desire to fall in love, and the effort to meet the right person, are especially precious. Not everyone can meet the right person at the right age, so we can only move awkwardly and cautiously stretch out tentacles to our "likes".
I wonder if loving someone with all your heart is really like a thousand butterflies fluttering in your stomachI wonder if the pain of love is really as people say, making people lose sleep, nausea, and even almost lose half their lives
I would rather be in a serious intimate relationship than just someone to accompany me. I want to get back the experiences I missed in the past 28 years due to ignorance.
I still remember at the beginning of the year, I replied in a comment section"Take off orders"At the end of the year, I found the message at that time and wrote a sentence"Next year, the order will be taken off" 。
Talking about this is just two jokes, but only I know how hard and determined I have been chasing the traces of love in this past few years.
Although I once reluctantly typed the text "Where the hell is this person hiding" in the chat box with a friend and attached a string of exclamation marks, I never lost faith in love. As the wise man said, they choose to stay away from love.
However, I have walked the path of wisdom for a long time, and now I am determined to run into love with all my heart and soul. After all, life is long, the sky is full of sunshine, and so is love.