It's a shocking story. In Chongqing in May this year, a female passenger was sexually harassed by a driver while riding an online ride-hailing service. Although we can only see part of the situation from **, we can still clearly see that when the female passenger asked to stop and get out of the car, the driver not only did not stop, but also made some ** actions to force the female passenger to "kiss" him.
In this comment area, which has attracted huge attention, some unsightly remarks have emerged. Some accused the female passenger of being dressed too revealingly, believing that she had found a reason for being harassed. The comments were full of slander and accusations against the female passengers, and some even said: "Who else can blame her for dressing so revealingly?" ”
In response to these groundless accusations, the female passenger could only defend herself by saying that she wore a coat and trousers that day to prove her innocence. Many netizens said that the law has never made clear provisions on women's dress, and dressing revealingly or ** has nothing to do with victimization. However, it is frustrating that such bandit logic is not uncommon when it comes to female victims.
However, this is just a microcosm of real life. Similar logical errors and accusations of victimhood are commonplace in other incidents. When women are harmed, there are always people who stand up and blame the victims and throw dirt on them. Especially when there is a contradiction between men and women, countless keyboard warriors will weave all kinds of speculation and slander in their minds. Some people think: "This girl must be a scumbag, deceived his feelings and spent him a lot of money." The boy threw her sulfuric acid because the courtship was not reciprocated. "There are even those who want to delete posts about such incidents as soon as possible, arguing that protecting the reputation of the school is more important than the rights and interests of the victims.
Such a view is obviously absurd, but some people do think that if the victim is not at fault, why should they be harmed?
Incidents like this are always chilling. For example, on August 30, 2020, in a case in Song County, Luoyang, Henan Province, a man killed his ex-girlfriend in the street. At the time, the man was only 26 years old and the young girl was only 22 years old, and her life came to an abrupt end before it could even begin.
That night, the girl walked on the familiar streets as usual, striving for her life tomorrow. Suddenly, her ex-boyfriend appears from the shadows, clutches her tightly and tries to get back together, but the girl rejects him. The man was ashamed and angry, and the whole person became violent, and he punched the girl in the head. The girl was powerless to resist and could only try to dodge his attack, but the man did not stop, but became more rampant. Soon, the girl was knocked to the ground and her backpack was thrown to the ground. Still not satisfied, the man rode on top of the girl and continued to punch her on the head with his fists. Under such an attack, the girl fainted in pain. The man was even more arrogant, stood up and stepped on the girl's head, and hit ** and said, "I'm killing people, come here." ”
The man who was the ** didn't feel that he was at fault, but smiled. Later, the Internet was flooded with various rumors: the girl cheated, refused to dissolve the marriage, and so on. And the girl's family, in order to prove their innocence, has not yet recovered from their grief.
Whenever a similar incident happens, women are always hurt. First of all, because of the damage from the abuser, plus a large number of secondary injuries. In fact, these people lack empathy and like to rub salt in the wounds of others; They like to see the weak fleeing in all directions out of fear; They are content with the snooping desire of the **. Just like the Jing Tian incident, when she was hurt and stood in the whirlpool of **, many people were laughing at her! At that time, such remarks were circulating: "Do you want to see intimate photos of celebrities and **? It only costs xx yuan. What do these people think? She's a victim.
Fortunately, more and more people are beginning to realize that it is wrong to blame the victim, not the perpetrator. However, there are still some people who cling to this misconception and continue to blame the victims. At the same time, victims are also under tremendous psychological pressure and harm, and it is difficult to get justice and support.
We should not hold the victims accountable, this false logic will only make society more unfair. The responsibility should be placed on the perpetrator and held them accountable for their actions. Victims deserve support and protection, not further humiliation and harm.
To solve this problem, it is necessary not only to restrain and punish by law, but also to strengthen propaganda and education and change people's way of thinking.
The focus of education should be on making people understand that the perpetrator is wrong, regardless of the victim's behavior. None of the victim's clothing, behaviour or past behaviour can excuse violence. We should learn to respect and protect everyone, no matter who they are or what they do.
In addition, it is necessary to strengthen education in kindergartens, schools and families to cultivate correct values and codes of conduct in children. Only by cultivating the right sense of respect and equality from an early age can this way of thinking permeate all aspects of society.
** also plays an important role in this process. **should assume the responsibility of correct guidance**, no longer provide a stage for the perpetrator, but pay attention to the rights and needs of the victim. Social media platforms should strengthen management to combat online violence and the spread of rumors.
All in all, changing the way of thinking is a long-term process that requires the joint efforts of society. Only when we establish the right values can we truly protect the rights and interests of victims and make society fairer and safer.