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* After the TV series "The World", Cai Xiaoguang, the perfect man, won a large number of fans. "I think I'm the happiest man!"Marrying Cai Xiaoguang" has become a romantic dream for many women, and with a partner like Cai Xiaoguang, they would rather choose death.
With such a husband, Zhou Rong is really lucky!If you like a woman, you have to fall in love with a man to make yourself have an inexplicable admiration for him. Cai Xiaoguang has been fond of her since she was young;A liking for a woman can provide a disguise for her feelings for another man, a mindset that not everyone can have.
Despite the opposition of her family, Zhou Rong resolutely left the countryside of Guizhou thousands of miles away and married the poet Feng Huacheng. But in the end, due to Feng Huacheng's frivolous behavior, Zhou Rong came to the point of divorce. In the past ten years, Cai Xiaoguang has always stuck to the same place, and his deep affection for Zhou Rong has never changed in the slightest.
However, if Zhou Rong's married life is happy, then she did not choose divorce?Love is a very fragile thing, once lost, it will be like a pool of stagnant water, and you will never find any life and hope again. Cai Xiaoguang's unilateral wish has not become "I would have been to the bright moon, but the bright moon shines on the ditch"?Therefore, let go of your fantasies and cling to true love, and you will find that in real life, no one wants to stop for you for more than ten years.
It is precisely for this reason that Cai Xiaoguang seems to be a little "out of touch with reality", and once he is out of touch with reality, it is enough to prove his unreality. When you read the original book "The World" deeply, you will realize Cai Xiaoguang's philosophy of life - there is a little hypocrisy hidden in his cunning. His "hypocrisy" is mainly manifested in being dissatisfied with his life and seeking something that can make him feel satisfied, comfortable, and happy. This hypocrisy is particularly evident in his dealings with his adopted daughter Zhou Yue.
In the original work, Zhou Yue became a junior and married the owner of a logistics company who was about 50 years old. In his eyes, this woman is his daughter. Zhou Yue's rebellious behavior undoubtedly brought "shame" to her family. Zhou Bingkun called her a "little goblin", while Zhou Bingyi deliberately kept his distance from her, and his mother Zhou Rong even decided to "sever the relationship between mother and daughter".
The attitude of his adoptive father, Cai Xiaoguang, is thought-provoking, and he does not resonate with the righteous indignation of the Zhou family, but is happy with its achievements. Zhou Yue found a wealthy boss, which saved him a lot of thoughts, and he didn't need to spend money at all. If Zhou Yue marries a person who has no property and has a meager income, this may become a drag on him and Zhou Rong's happy old age.
Zhou Yue didn't spend any money on her adoptive father when she got married, which made him feel a little grateful. "My adoptive father has done an excellent job, all because his parents have provided me with a good living environment and economic conditions. Out of gratitude to Zhou Yue, whenever he received a greeting text message from Zhou Yue, he always responded happily: "When you encounter difficulties, don't bear it alone, be sure to notify your parents immediately, because we only have a little baby daughter like you!."”
The sentence that seemed to care about the "baby daughter" actually exposed Cai Xiaoguang's hypocrisy. Although Zhou Yue said it well in words, her actual actions were not real, so she didn't need much assistance when she was living well materially;Zhou Yue's marriage was generally opposed by family members and was in a state of isolation, and Cai Xiaoguang seized this opportunity to establish a good relationship with her, with the purpose of winning Zhou Rong's favor.
In order to win the heart of Zhou Yue, the adopted daughter, he also summed up a set of life philosophy:
When the subject is isolated, we should be closer to and unite them to achieve the ultimate goal of probation. He attaches great importance to his adopted daughter as the main object of **, and if there is a problem in the relationship between an adoptive father and his only adopted daughter, wouldn't it be too unwise?”
The father-daughter relationship between him and Zhou Yue on the surface is actually a relationship of mutual use. In order to ease the tension with her family members, Zhou Yue needs to provide for her fatherHe also hopes that his adoptive mother can protect himself in front of outsiders and not let others hurt him. Cai Xiaoguang's so-called kindness to Zhou Yue is actually to let the people of the Zhou family see and remember it: he, Cai Xiaoguang, is a loving and righteous person, and he is fully worthy of the title of son-in-law of the Zhou family.
In fact, Zhou Rong even described Cai Xiaoguang as a "model adoptive father". He is not only her adoptive mother, daughter and son's father, but also awarded the title of "National 38 Red Banner Pacesetter". However, Zhou Rong's praise made Cai Xiaoguang feel deeply ashamed in his heart.
Although Zhou Yue called him "Dad", in fact, her adoptive father was not her biological father, and there was no blood connection between the two. His feelings for Zhou Yue are not as sincere as Bingkun's feelings for Zhou Nan. "She and I are both my own children!After all, when he and Zhou Rong entered the palace of marriage, Zhou Yue was already 15 years old.
A 15-year-old girl, in the midst of her youthful rebellion, developed a strong dislike for her adoptive father.
In May 1986, at Zhou Zhigang's 66th birthday celebration, Cai Xiaoguang clashed with his adopted daughter Zhou Yue for the first time. Zhou Ronggang and Feng Huacheng just ended their marriage, and Zhou Yue was still called Feng Yue at that time.
Regarding Zhou Rong's divorce, she only revealed it to her brother Zhou Bingyi, and Zhou Bingyi also revealed the news to Dongmei. Cai Xiaoguang was the third person to learn the news, and he was quite surprised when he learned that Zhou Rong had divorced.
Many years ago, Zhou Rong fell deeply in love with Feng Hua, and for him, she traveled thousands of miles to the mountains of Guizhou, where she experienced six or seven years of difficult years, but she never regretted it.
What are the reasons for divorce?Zhou Rong revealed to Cai Xiaoguang that Feng Huacheng changed soon after returning to Beijing, not only was he too obsessed with the pursuit of fame and fortune, but also new problems such as attracting bees and butterflies and messing with flowers and grass.
After learning the truth of the matter, Cai Xiaoguang was ecstatic. So, in "I Love My Home", he wrote this woman's name into **, so that she could stay in his heart forever. Many years ago, he had been working hard to pursue it, but he failed to win Zhou Rong's heart, and was defeated by Feng Hua becoming such a secondary poet, which filled his heart with dissatisfaction. Now that Zhou Rong has divorced, this is undoubtedly out of God's affectionate gratitude to him, sending the woman he has been thinking about back to his arms.
Cai Xiaoguang said excitedly: "I really want to laugh out loud and sing to my heart's content!."Because it means that I can pursue you without any scruples without violating morality!”
Zhou Rong's divorce was not even known to her daughter Feng Yue. For Cai Xiaoguang, this is obviously an indirect indication that "you have the opportunity to pursue me again". The age difference between the two is only in their twenties, but their relationship has come to an end. After Zhou Rong returned to the city from Beijing, she quickly became friends with the well-known director Cai Xiaoguang. Two people who are about to enter middle age have rekindled their love in the hope of making up for lost youth.
Cai Xiaoguang kissed Zhou Rong emotionally in the ancient residence of the Zhou family, and unfortunately, this scene was witnessed by Feng Yue. "Mom, I know you don't love me anymore!But why don't you bring me back?Yueyue didn't realize that her parents were divorced, so she asked her mother at the dinner table: "Mom, what kind of connection does there exist between you and that director?"”
When her daughter revealed her secret, Zhou Rong was furious and confessed to her family that she had ended her marriage to Feng Huacheng.
In order to protect Cai Xiaoguang, Zhou Rong told Yueyue: "If you are still willing to be my daughter, then you have the right to keep his surname and continue to stay in the city as my daughter;."If you think he is better off than my mother, then you can go to Beijing to find him. ”
Every word Zhou Rong said was like a sharp thorn, which hurt her daughter Yueyue a lot, and formed a gap between Yueyue and Cai Xiaoguang. She said what happened between her parents after they divorcedYueyue was confused by the real situation behind her parents' divorce, and instead, she developed a deep hatred for Cai Xiaoguang. After that, Yueyue was brought to France by her biological father Feng Huacheng, and Zhou Rong paid for this sentence for 12 years.
After Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Rong completed the marriage registration, Feng Yue did not choose to live with them, but chose to live in her aunt's house. The eldest aunt is the daughter-in-law of the eldest uncle, and she and the eldest uncle are half-sisters. Why did Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Rong never consider bringing Feng Yue home to live?Considering that their daughter and Zhou Rong are together, they are actually a family of three.
Cai Xiaoguang obviously has some selfishness, and the person he really loves is Zhou Rong. This nearly forty-year-old man has finally entered the palace of marriage, and what he longs for is a pure two-person world. Before this, he had been working hard for his career, and his wife also liked this family very much, both of them were more gentle and considerate women, and their personalities were very similar, so they quickly fell in love. Unfortunately, due to the early love between Yueyue and Zhou Nan, Bingkun gave her a slap in the face, which led to a series of follow-up problems.
Yueyue had a conflict with her mother, who tricked her into escaping to Beijing and found her biological father, Feng Huacheng. Feng Huacheng took her to France under the guise of "refuge". After her daughter disappeared, Zhou Rong almost lost her mind. When she received a letter from her daughter from France, she eagerly traveled to France to find her, but since that visit, she has never returned.
For the daughter born to her and her ex-husband, Zhou Rong chose to leave her for 12 years. Although Cai Xiaoguang did not say it verbally, he was dissatisfied with Feng Yue deep down. After more than ten years of waiting, he finally won the heart of his beloved;Due to his adopted daughter's current wayward behavior, he had to spend another 12 years waiting for Zhou Rong's arrival.
In the original **, Cai Xiaoguang is not idle. He had physical contact with four women, among them, the relationship between the beautiful ** Guan Ling and him lasted for the longest period of time, and it was not until Zhou Rong returned to China that the two ended this mutually comforting affair.
Cai Xiaoguang has his unique views and interpretations on this point:
I'm really a normal male, my physiology is good, and my male hormones are very strong. As a man, I also need me and feel very at times. Guan Ling, she was able to understand my pain and respected my feelings for Zhou Rong very much. She just needs an emotional comfort and no other thoughts. ”
Cai Xiaoguang insisted that he maintained a "spiritual love" for Zhou Rong despite his physical derailment. This makes people feel weird. In his view of love, love and sex can be distinguished. The relationship between him and Zhou Rong is more inclined to the spiritual level, while the relationship between him and Guan Ling is more of a mutual satisfaction on the material level.
Cai Xiaoguang's "high theory" won a lot of applause, but at the same time, it also destroyed many people's "three views". In his opinion, divorce is not the most important part of marriage, marriage is only a manifestation of love, not marriage itself. However, this kind of quibble is really just to find a superficially noble excuse for cheating behavior that is unwilling to be alone. In this era, people pay more and more attention to the role of IQ and EQ, but many times, we are still confused by the "IQ" of others. Zhou Bingyi is a person who is very good in terms of IQ and EQ, and he can see very clearly even if it is difficult for others to understand.
Zhou Bingkun is imprisoned, and Zhou Cong plans to venture south after graduating from university, hoping to get Cai Xiaoguang's help.
Zhou Bingyi said to Zhou Cong affectionately: "Your aunt has not returned to China for more than ten years, what does it mean?"Whether your Xiaoguang's uncle is really your uncle, even I am not sure, and your aunt and your mother do not know. If one day someone says no, who will take care of the family?”
What Zhou Bingyi said was, in essence, not very satisfied with the behavior of his brother-in-law Cai Xiaoguang. Although he couldn't fully understand Cai Xiaoguang's deep affection for Zhou Rong, he was dissatisfied with Cai Xiaoguang's behavior during his marriage, and even hoped that he could completely break off relations with Zhou Rong.
In the 12 years since Zhou Rong left, why didn't Cai Xiaoguang choose to divorce?
He explained: "She is the initiator of my literary career, we have formed a close connection on the spiritual level, and the soul is also inseparable. Her love for me is deep, and I love her just as much. Isn't a man stupid if he expects a woman who loves him dearly to divorce him?”
Zhou Rong is the only woman who knows and helps him relieve his inner pain and loneliness. When he was with her, he was him and she was him. Frankly, whether it is spiritual love or physical pleasure, he craves it.
On National Day in 2001, Zhou Rong and her daughter returned to China, and at the same time, Feng Yue had changed her name to "Zhou Yue" and inherited her mother's surname. "I want to go back to my hometown. After a long separation, Cai Xiaoguang hugged Zhou Rong tightly in his arms, while Zhou Yue said loudly outside that he was hungry.
Cai Xiaoguang said angrily in the room: "Zhou Yue, what are you yelling at, will you starve to death if you eat too late?"He took off his clothes and shoes and buried his head deeply. Zhou Yue guessed the reason for his anger, so he didn't make any more sounds.
Cai Xiaoguang's anger was not due to Zhou Yue's hunger, but to the 12-year-long separation and accumulated dissatisfaction between the husband and wife. If it weren't for Zhou Yue's willful behavior, he and Zhou Rong would not have lost 12 years of precious time, how could he not be angry with Zhou Yue?
Everyone in the Zhou family was deeply saddened by Zhou Nan's death, but Cai Xiaoguang actually did not feel sad about Zhou Nan's death. Because he knew he couldn't take such a big blow. Although he can't bear the grief, his performance should be more satisfactory to the Zhou family than in the past, which he has reminded himself many times. His grief did not come from his heart, but from an outpouring of emotions in the face of death. Deep down in his heart, the reunion with Zhou Rong brought endless happiness.
Cai Xiaoguang has shown great emotional intelligence, and he is committed to ensuring that everyone feels comfortable with him. In many cases, his heart has a very real desire to be respected, understood, and appreciated. However, isn't the so-called high emotional intelligence also a disguise?
Although Zhou Yue completed her master's degree in business administration at the University of Lyon abroad, she was unable to find a suitable job opportunity for a long time after returning to China. Because she didn't have a proper job. Cai Xiaoguang owned two residences, one of which Zhou Rong shared with him, while the other was originally occupied by Zhou Cong, but after Zhou Yue returned, she gave it to Cai Xiaoguang.
At the family gathering, Zhou Yue suddenly said to Cai Xiaoguang: "Dad, it's good that my brother-in-law and aunt didn't live there." If you really lived in the past, wouldn't your daughter become a stray cat?We have to make an agreement at the dinner table to make sure that your daughter lives until the day she gets married. ”
This is the first time Zhou Yue called Cai Xiaoguang "Dad". But one night this winter, she called "Dad" as "Brother". 12 years ago, when she wanted to save face the most, she just called him "Uncle Xiaoguang". He couldn't stand Zhou Yue's excessive closeness to him, and his eyes instantly became moist.
Why did Zhou Yue change his opinion of Cai Xiaoguang?In the process, she learned to be patient. The 12 difficult years she spent in France taught her to give in. Her parents are both blind, and in order for her daughter to go to school, she must send her to the library every day to borrow books. Feng Huacheng, his biological father, is now an incompetent person, and his only reliance is on his adoptive father Cai Xiaoguang. Nowadays, even where you live, you need to be coquettish and plead with your adoptive father.
Incredibly, Zhou Yue has not been able to find a suitable job for her for more than two years after returning to China. Cai Xiaoguang, who has hands and eyes, will of course provide strategies and advice for his adopted daughter. "My salary is too low!I'm now the most popular employee in the company!Zhou Yue expressed his dissatisfaction and said: "Even if I lower my standards, I can't go to the hotel to be a big class, right?"”
In Zhou Yue's duties, Cai Xiaoguang obviously did not put in all the efforts. Her focus is on the handling of the company's affairs. Zhou Yue said firmly: "I decide my affairs, you don't need to worry about me anymore, I promise that at least half a year later, I will not pay any more for you." ”
The conversation between the adoptive father and the adoptive daughter is subtle but thought-provoking, and Zhou Yue's remark that "it won't cost you a penny anymore" reveals the delicate relationship between the father and the daughter. "Remarriage" is a complex issue. How to build a harmonious relationship between parents and children in a remarried family?The emotional entanglement between parents and children is often overlooked in real life. The kind of estrangement caused by blood relationship is really difficult to dissolve.
Zhou Yue was troubled by finding a job, but her best friend gave advice: If her husband chooses the right one, wouldn't the problems at work be easily solved?"Marriage is the grave of love, and marriage is the paradise of love. "It's better to marry well than to do well", a fact that was once questioned, has become a common opinion among women.
It didn't take long for Zhou Yue to start living with others. He said in court that he was "not to be publicized" and that he wanted to "kick her daughter out of the house." The man was married, and his wife was determined not to divorce and complained everywhere, which also brought trouble to Zhou Bingyi. Every member of the Zhou family felt that the family had been insulted, and they were so angry that they couldn't help themselves. Zhou Rong fell ill out of anger, and she asked Cai Xiaoguang to convey the message of "severing the relationship between mother and daughter".
Cai Xiaoguang looked for Zhou Yue, not to convey a message to his wife, but to hope that his adopted daughter would be enlightened.
Zhou Yue expressed this opinion: "Father, I believe you can feel that if a man is not around a woman for a long time, he will feel very bored doing anything. "Then why not find a woman?".Cai Xiaoguang sensed the meaning of her words and was speechless. He said, "Then come with me!""In life, almost nine-nine-out of the worst things happen, we can only choose to follow her.
If Zhou Yue is really his biological daughter, then his reaction may be more intense and more difficult to accept than Zhou Rong. He felt that his daughter was his life, his life. Zhou Yue is not her biological daughter, so she can't be scolded, especially when she marries a boss in her 50s, which has a lot of substantial benefits for her. He still has a lot of money in his "little coffers", and he wants his daughter to use it. At least there is no need to use his own "small treasury" to prepare a dowry for Zhou Yue in order to protect his face."
Children who are not biological become a burden to their parents;will make them fall into the "family dilemma", and this dilemma is often accompanied by a "psychological shadow", that is, under the "family dilemma", children cannot get rid of the pain and suffering caused by the "family dilemma". Perhaps it is the parents who have become a drag on their children who are not their biological children. "Our marriage was a tragedy. This also constitutes a kind of "hidden pain" in the hearts of all remarried families. Who has ever allowed themselves to work so hard to pursue happiness!The lack of blood relationship in the family makes the party who is dragged down resentful. Who said divorce is about separating each other?As time goes by, what time is peaceful?It's all a small struggle for interests.
Fortunately, Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Yue, the nominal father-daughter relationship, were not implicated in each other. Zhou Yue married an older man, but was strongly opposed and disapproved of by her family members, resulting in her being isolated and helpless. Cai Xiaoguang intervened and played the role of a bridge to alleviate the conflict between Zhou Yue and the Zhou family, but he was very happy.