Marriage is meant to be serious, a representation of the pursuit of the divine spiritual world. I don't know when it began, in today's materialistic society, marriage has gradually moved closer to materiality and has become a "cooperative relationship" in the mouths of everyone.
Love should be beautiful, although it sounds abstract, ethereal, and difficult to grasp, however, it is precisely its difference from other things in the mortal world that makes everyone fascinated and thinks that love is an existence that can be met but not sought.
The greed and laziness of human nature, in addition to the embodiment of behavior, are more fatal to the relaxation and looseness of thought. If you put love in various places in your daily life, in your own behavior and consciousness, it will become a stable, long-lasting, tenacious, and heavy intimate relationship, so as to rise to the symbiosis between spirits and spirits, and reach a common belief in love with each other, which is what marriage should really look like. It's just that most people's marriages have not entered such a stage, and "I don't know" and "can't help" have become the reasons that define the materiality of marriage.
Recently, a news that "after 16 years of marriage, I found out that the 3 children were not biological" has attracted widespread attention from the society. Regardless of what happened, the heartache, anger, despair, and breakdown of the person concerned can be read from this title alone, which is the instinctive reaction of human beings after facing a sudden and fatal event.
The instinctive reaction of the person is to choose to amplify the emotions and worsen the situationOr do you choose to stabilize your emotions and solve problems?It depends on how much energy a person's spiritual world has, how high the establishment of a mature personality is, and how strong the need for self-improvement is.
Mr. Chen, a party to the case, has taken his wife and a "third party" to court, and the People's Court of Dexing City, Jiangxi Province has accepted the case and will try it on December 28.
According to Mr. Chen, he has been working in other places for many years, and although his life is hard, it is not easy for his wife to take care of his three children at home, so even if he is tired and tired, he feels very happy and worthwhile to make money for the sake of his children and family. He never imagined that this beautiful expectation of future life would turn into a "nightmare," appearing in front of him.
In March 2022, Mr. Chen found out that his wife was staying in a hotel with another man, and he became suspicious. After thinking about it, in order to give himself an answer, he conducted paternity tests on his three children, thinking that he could exchange it for a peace of mind, but it turned out to make him miserable and desperate. The three children had no parent-child relationship with him, and this result hit him like a thunderbolt from the blue.
After months of suffering and inner struggle, he was unwilling to become a joke in the eyes of others after more than ten years of hard work, so he found a local TV station and told his story. Unexpectedly, as soon as the incident was reported, it really attracted widespread attention from the public.
Some people sympathized with his plight and offered him all kinds of advice and helpSome people use the "sense of self-esteem" under the traditional patriarchal system to express incomprehension and even indignation at his behavior: "Shouldn't such a family scandal be solved behind closed doors?"How could it be publicized in order to win social sympathy!”。
Is it customary that the evil of human nature will take control of our brains in advance before the good of human nature, with the aim of influencing our judgment and making us follow in its footsteps like a walking corpse?If it wants to take the position of "leader", to control our thoughts, to dictate our actions, it is a terrible thing. As the leader of thought, we should try our best to stop malicious behavior from becoming evil, and let good intentions come out to balance this situation, so that it is possible to exchange for better results.
The reason why Mr. Chen exposed this "pain" to the sun must have gone through countless inner tears and tortures, and if he had a strong and mature spiritual world power, there might be a different solution from the current one. But ask yourself, which phenomenon is universal?It is not so easy to reserve strong spiritual energy, if you encounter the same problem, will you handle it better than Mr. Chen?
Mo Yan said: "Don't persuade others to be kind without suffering others." If you endure my suffering, you may not be as good as me. There is no real empathy in the world, only self-knowledge. Therefore, we should respect the suffering of others, and listening to them may be the best help for them.
A lie can be concealed for a while, but it cannot be concealed for a lifetime, people's hearts should be warm, and children are innocent. Is it also caused by a lack of psychological needs behind the child's mother's behavior?
We are a member of our own small collective, how to live in such a small environment, the correct ideology is the basis for achieving the goal;Respect and trust are the catalyst for achieving goals;Solidarity and cooperation are the catalysts for the achievement of goals, and love should be everywhere between them. Only a life with love as the glue will bring you closer to the goal.
Waiting for the outcome of Mr. Chen's trial, I hope that he can get rid of the harm done to him as soon as possible and try a new life.