Many people don't know much about postpartum depression, let alone intervene**, which will have a bad impact over time. Even in the survey of the "2022 National Blue Book of Depression", 10% of maternal family members have an attitude of "thinking that it is hypocritical" towards postpartum depression. According to the survey, 192 new mothers have milder postpartum depression, 71 New mothers have severe postpartum depression, which is often accompanied by other mental illnesses. So, how much do you know about postpartum depression?A mother with postpartum depression said that depression is like nausea, a feeling of discomfort for a while, like the anxiety of having to go home and tell your parents when you were a child who had a bad test score. This feeling occurs almost every time you breastfeed, maybe because of the hormonal imbalance when breastfeeding, or maybe because you are too idle when breastfeeding, and it is easy to fall into a state of crankiness.
She said: Once you start to be depressed, you will doubt the authenticity of all feelings, including my husband and my parents, and they will recall and capture every detail of them, analyze these details, and then negatively judge that these are all evidence of not loving yourself, and once the depression passes, you will start to be positive and optimistic again, but there will be another mood, that is, regret, sorry for all the bad conjectures and misinterpretations of your relatives when you are depressed, and you will fall into a cycle of self-criticism and then depression.
She said: Once I took the baby out of the crib very fiercely, and once threw him on the soft quilt a little violently, all because I felt very wronged and wronged, felt misunderstood, and felt ignored so that I made the action, but not because I was jealous with the baby, but it seemed that I wanted my family to see the seriousness of the matter, so as to pay attention to my psychology.
So, why is there postpartum depression?
1.Psychological factors.
Before giving birth, a pregnant woman is the center of the family's life, and after giving birth, the family's attention will be shifted to the newborn, more or less ignoring the mother, which is easy to make the mother have a sense of psychological gap, resulting in depression.
2.Social factors.
For a long time after giving birth, the mother has to recuperate at home and take care of the child, unable to work and socialize normally, estranged from colleagues and friends, and unable to feel her own sense of worth, resulting in self-denial, inferiority and other emotions.
3.Hormonal factors.
After giving birth, steroid levels decrease, and estrogen and hormone levels plummet, causing endocrine disorders in mothers, which can lead to depressed mood.
4.Physical factors.
After giving birth to a baby, the weight increased, the figure was out of shape, and I was even more sad when I saw the ** before pregnancy. Moreover, in the middle of the night, the baby baby, diaper change, etc., caused the mother to lack of sleep, lack of energy, and lack of physical strength.
1.Mood swings.
Depressed mood, easy to cry, easy to be depressed, often self-blame, often anxious, irritable, tantrums for no reason, easy to lose control of emotions, late at night, feeling lonely, unwilling to contact and communicate with others, easy to have hostile emotions towards family members.
2.Not interested in anything.
I'm bored with everything, and it's hard to bring up my interest even if I've been interested in something I've been interested in. I can't get joy out of life, and I feel like the world is all dust.
3.Fatigue.
I can't do anything, I have no appetite, my sexual desire begins to wane, I often feel tired, and I can't sleep even though I'm sleepy.
4.Self-denial.
Feeling that everything is inferior to others, that you don't know anything, that you can't do anything, that you lack self-confidence, that you feel like you're worthless.
1.Lower the requirements appropriately.
You can't expect yourself to be a perfect mom in a short period of time, your priority is to rest;You can try to do what you can, and you don't have to force what you can't do temporarily, you can ask your family for help;
Don't ask your family, especially your husband, to fully enter the role of a dad overnight, as new parents, everyone needs time to slowly accumulate experience and become mature;
2Ask someone you trust for help.
In the early postpartum period, in order to adapt to the new life as soon as possible and maintain a happy mood, you can ask someone you trust to help take care of you, so as to avoid disagreements due to different parenting concepts and living habits
3.Vent your emotions in a timely manner.
Whether you are sad or angry, you should boldly vent your emotions in a reasonable way, you can chat with friends, you can also talk to your husband about your thoughts, and do not forcibly suppress them, so as not to make your mood more depressed and cause greater family conflicts;
In the face of postpartum depression, the role of the husband is particularly important, watching the wife feel down, as a husband, you can
1.Be more helpful, more encouraging, more tolerant;
2.Don't laugh at a woman's tears, because you don't know how many grievances she has accumulated;
3.And don't complain about her emotions because you don't know what she's facing;
4.Learn parenting together, care about the baby's growth, and be responsible for changing diapers, sleeping, and making milk powder at night
5.Encourage and accompany your mother to go for maternity care, let her know that you are always by her side, feel your love and companionship, so as to reduce the generation of negative emotions and avoid postpartum depression.
What every mother should know is that you are both a mother and a mother, a mother and a child, in addition to the role of a mother, or an independent individual, the new life identity should not become the shackles of your comfortable life, I hope every mother can be treated gently.