The weather was nice today, and I got up early to go to the market to buy groceries.
The meal for a family of three was really good.
Usually my daughter and I are at home, and my husband works in the hospital, and he is an obstetrician and gynecologist.
Originally, they provided food in the unit, but this big man asked me to cook for him, and then he took it to the hospital and heated it up at noon.
I thought he was increasing my workload for no reason, and said to him dissatisfiedly, "Do you think I have nothing to do at home?"Can't you eat in the cafeteria?My husband looked a little innocent, he raised his eyebrows and looked at me: "No, Xiaoke, don't be angry, I like to eat the food you cook, I am more at ease, and I can also attract the envy of others in the department, haha, this is the benefit of marriage." ”
Me: "Come on, you'll know how to bully me." ”
Although I complained, I was actually happy in my heart.
The meals I cook are at least cleaner and fresher, and he's tired from working in the hospital.
The job has been easier lately because now that the fertility rate has dropped, he is no longer as busy as he used to be.
As a result, he also has more time to spend with us, no longer endless overtime.
I went to the market, bought 2 catties of pork ribs, and a little beef, greens and beans, and hurried home.
When I got home, my daughter and husband had already gotten up and were eating breakfast at the dinner table.
My daughter Rongrong called me: "Mom, you're back, what delicious food did you buy today?" ”
I put the dishes in the kitchen, smiled and said, "I didn't buy anything, I bought ribs, your dad likes to eat."
What are you doing when you wake up so early, it's only 7 o'clock, I have to make the ribs before eating. ”
My husband looked at me, okay, let's have breakfast first, don't be busy.
I refused: "No, you're going to take it to the hospital later, if you don't do it now, you won't be able to do it later." ”
So, I lowered my head to wash the pork ribs, and directly braised the pork ribs in the pot, the fragrance was overflowing, and my daughter said, "Mom, the ribs you made are really fragrant." ”
I walked out and sat down next to her: "If you think it smells, I'll eat more later." ”
She pursed her lips: "Hmph, Mom, this is for Dad, not for me." ”
My husband and I looked at each other and smiled.
I said, "Okay, Daddy is going to take some to work, you can eat it too, and I'll leave it for you to eat after school." ”
Only then did the daughter become happy and began to eat millet porridge with satisfaction.
I said, "That's good, eat more, grow taller." ”
The daughter said, "Mom, you have to pick me up early in the afternoon." ”
I replied, "Yes, I will." ”
Around eight o'clock, the ribs were ready, and I packed the rice in an insulated lunch box and handed it directly to my husband.
My husband, as usual, came over and kissed me before going out: "Okay, I'm going to work, hard work for you at home." ”
I nodded and watched as he led his daughter away.
He would send his daughter to kindergarten first and then go to work.
Father and daughter are gone, and I have more time to do my own thing.
As a stay-at-home mom, I am mainly responsible for taking care of my daughter and husband.
In my spare time, I do some part-time jobs online, and I currently earn one or two thousand dollars a month.
In fact, I am very satisfied to have this income at home.
03.I went to wash the dishes and put the washed dishes and chopsticks in the cupboard.
Then go into the study and start working.
At noon, while I was concentrating on my work, the doorbell rang again.
I stretched and walked straight out.
I opened the door and saw that it was my mother-in-law, who was followed by my sister-in-law, who was the wife of my brother-in-law, which surprised me a little.
I smiled and asked, "Mom, Cuiru, why are you here?""My mother-in-law walked in, and my brother-in-law followed.
The mother-in-law looked around the room and said, "Xiao Ke, Cuiru came back the day before yesterday, and she is very close to her due date."
If she goes back to her hometown with me, it will not be very convenient, so I plan to let her live in your house, and after giving birth, Ah Ming said that he will come back to pick her up and go back to her hometown for confinement. ”
I listened to it and was displeased, but I didn't show it.
I looked at my brother-in-law, but she didn't speak.
I said euphemistically, "Mom, I think I'm also very busy, so it's a little inconvenient for Cuiru to live in our house."
I haven't taken care of a pregnant woman, she's about to give birth, what if I can't take care of her well and miss her?The brother-in-law immediately replied: "It's okay, sister-in-law, I can take care of myself, you just do it as usual, I only need a mouthful of food." ”
At this time, the water was already boiling, I made tea for my mother-in-law, took a cup of warm water for my brother-in-law, and handed it to them.
The mother-in-law said: "Yes, Xiao Ke, you heard Cui Ru say so, and I also told Ah Guang (husband), and he agreed."
He is an obstetrician and gynecologist who can take good care of Cuiru. ”
Hearing my mother-in-law say that I want my husband to take care of my brother and daughter-in-law, I felt even more uncomfortable and a little indignant.
I said with a straight face: "Mom, you can't just do what you want, at least tell me in advance and prepare me psychologically, right?"”
The younger brother and daughter-in-law smiled: "Sister-in-law, there is no need to prepare anything at all, I don't need to do anything, I just spend a few days here, you don't have to think about it." ”
The mother-in-law echoed and said: "Yes, you don't need to do anything, we are all a family, you don't have to be so careful, Ah Guang is an obstetrician, and he knows the most about giving birth, and it is the best choice for him to take care of Cuiru, otherwise follow me back to my hometown to live, the road conditions are not good, the bumps are very bad, and I am also worried that it will not be good for the fetus."
And in case of an emergency, it also takes an hour to go to the hospital, which is not safe.
Living here, you can take care of her, and if you start, take her to the hospital immediately, and that's it, you don't talk about it.
Okay, it's already 11 o'clock, let's go cook, I'll have lunch here and go back. ”
My mother-in-law urged me to cook.
I understood that they were coming, and I was supposed to cook, but when I heard my mother-in-law say that, I was in no mood to do it.
I smiled and said, "Mom, I don't have any food in the refrigerator, I'm worried that Cuiru won't be able to eat well." ”
My brother-in-law said: "It's okay, sister-in-law, what do you do and what I eat, I'm in the third trimester of pregnancy now, and I'm going to give birth in half a month, I don't want to eat too well, eating less is good for the fetus, so that it will be more conducive to childbirth." ”
Since she said so, I had to go and cook obediently.
04.Walking into the kitchen, I heated up the leftover ribs from the morning, stir-fried beef, stir-fried a bowl of greens, and cooked a little lean broth.
There is also a plate of cold beans, the vinegar-stewed pig's feet the night before, just a few dishes.
While I was cooking, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law were watching TV outside, and my brother-in-law was playing with her phone.
They didn't mean to come in and help at all.
To be honest, I felt very uncomfortable when I saw this scene, especially when I thought that my brother and daughter-in-law were going to live in our house for half a month.
I don't know why they don't care so much, I think although they are a family, there should be a bottom line, especially although my husband is an obstetrician, he is not suitable for taking care of his brother and daughter-in-law, let alone delivering for her.
However, the brother-in-law didn't care about it.
The mother-in-law didn't notice anything wrong.
It's just that I'm very unhappy in my heart, but what's the use of me objecting, people will think I'm ignorant, and I have a ready-made doctor at home, so it's safer and more responsible for him to deliver babies, but I just can't get over that hurdle in my heart.
It was just after 12 noon that I was ready to cook.
The mother-in-law came over, and the brother-in-law came over after a minute.
05.When I brought all the dishes to the table, my mother-in-law frowned: "Only made these few dishes, what have you been doing for so long?"."I felt upset when I heard my mother-in-law's rebuke.
I said, "I'm doing it alone, and you didn't come to help, and you still want me to do it quickly, if you want to be fast, you should have come over to help just now." ”
My mother-in-law glanced at me and reproached me again: "I'm just saying a word, why are you so irritable, I haven't offended you, you've been married for so many years, isn't it natural to cook?"Do I have to cook?"I choose to be silent.
My brother and daughter-in-law also sat down at the table.
She took a look at it and said, "Sister-in-law, why does this pig's foot look black, is it burned?""I don't know why they're so picky, but I explain it"This one didn't burn paste, but I stewed it in sweet vinegar, so it has this color.
The pig's feet made in this way are very nutritious.
Many people in Guangdong confinement will make this vinegar stewed pig's feet to eat, as well as drink chicken wine, they are also very nutritious, especially suitable for replenishing the body. ”
Mother-in-law: "Yes, Cuiru, eat more, it is very nutritious, and the baby's feet will be stronger after birth." ”
The younger sister-in-law was a little suspicious and put a piece into the bowl and tried it.
After taking a bite, she suddenly said, "Well, it's really delicious, sister-in-law, the pig's feet you made are really delicious, a little sour, but not too sour, not greasy to eat, the taste is very good, really delicious." ”
The mother-in-law smiled happily: "If it's delicious, eat more, and let your sister-in-law make more in the future." ”
I was complacent about her complimenting me on my cooking skills, but when I heard that she asked me to cook more in the future, I calmed down.
How long is she going to stay in my house?How many more meals do I have to cook for her?Mother-in-law: "Xiao Ke, when the time comes, Cuiru's food will be handed over to you, if she has something uncomfortable, rest assured, Ah Guang will take care of her, now just wait for the child to be born." ”
When the mother-in-law said this, her eyes flashed with hope, and her eyes almost narrowed into a slit with a smile.
Then she said to her brother-in-law: "Cuiru, your baby should be a son, I will be able to hold my grandson soon, when you give birth, I will take care of the child, you can rest assured that you will go to work with Ah Ming, I will take good care of the child." ”
06.In fact, when I was pregnant and gave birth, I never got the care of my mother-in-law, she just came to the hospital in a hurry to take a look, and after seeing that it was my daughter, she stayed for an hour and left, never taking care of me during confinement.
I was dissatisfied.
Later, my mother came to help take care of the confinement, and my husband was an obstetrician, and he helped me give birth, and also carried out postpartum physical examination and pelvic floor muscle recovery for me.
Even though I didn't have my mother-in-law to take care of me, my mom and husband took very good care of me, so I didn't care too much about my mother-in-law.
However, today I really feel uncomfortable to see my mother-in-law being so kind to my brother-in-law.
My daughters are almost 4 years old, and my mother-in-law has never taken her for a day and has never bought her clothes or toys.
Sometimes I complain to my husband: "It's so easy for your mother to be a grandmother, you don't have to pay anything, you don't even buy clothes."
And other people's grandmothers will contribute and pay, but your mother is like an iron rod, not pulling out a dime. ”
My husband comforted me: "Don't worry about it, we don't lack those few clothes, besides, wouldn't it be better for me to take care of you?".You see that now with my help, you are recovering better than everyone else, I love you, it is enough to take care of you, don't take my mother to heart. ”
I feel helpless, who let me meet such a mother-in-law.
I thought my mother-in-law was a kind person, but when I saw her attitude towards my brother-in-law today, I realized that she was not like this, she was just patriarchal, and she was not optimistic about me having a daughter.
If she doesn't show it in front of me, I won't feel lost and I won't be too much of a factor.
However, she wanted to send her to my home to bother me, and she was enthusiastic about her in front of me, and asked my husband to take care of her.
I really don't know, is my mother-in-law too low in emotional intelligence, too confident, or intentional?After I finished eating, I saw that my brother and daughter-in-law were still eating, and she actually ate all the remaining pieces of pig's feet by herself.
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Cuiru, come, there is still this one left, you can eat it." ”
As she spoke, she gave it to her brother-in-law.
I looked at the two of them and didn't want to look any further, so I put down the dishes and chopsticks and went straight to the balcony.
07.I originally wanted to call my husband, but I was worried that my mother-in-law and brother-in-law would hear it, so I changed it to a message.
I wrote very unhappily: "Husband, you actually promised your mother to let Cuiru come to our house to give birth, but you didn't tell me in advance, didn't you take me seriously?"She's half a month away from her due date, which means she's going to stay for at least a week, don't you know I'm busy?I have to cook for you every day, do housework, and do my customer service part-time, I don't have much time.
She lives with us, not only restricting my freedom, but also cooking an extra meal, and pregnant women have a lot of restrictions, and I have to take care of her tastes.
I used to cook for enjoyment and relaxation, but when she came, cooking became a burden, and my mood was different.
You're also a genius, so why can't you think about these issues from my point of view?Also, your mother is so patriarchal, she said that Cuiru has a baby boy in her belly, and she will help take care of the child in the future and let her go to work with peace of mind.
But what did she help us?She never took our Rong Rong for a day.
Okay, if she doesn't help us, I can accept it, and now I have to let Cui Rulai add trouble to us, I really don't want her to live in our house.
What's even more unbearable for me is that you even agreed.
Your mom said to let you take care of her more in the future, well, won't you refuse?Do you really want to help her deliver the baby without fear of being disliked?Have you considered my feelings?Are you really going to take good care of her?So what is my status?Now that they are eating here, Cuiru can actually eat it, and ate all the remaining plates of pig's feet in our house, and I originally wanted to leave a piece for Rong Rong to eat at night.
I'm really upset, you can solve it yourself, otherwise I can't guarantee that I won't get angry in a few days. ”
After I finished writing this long short article, I felt much more relaxed.
I really hope that my husband can hear my heart and think more about me, instead of taking care of my brother-in-law for the sake of the so-called face and his younger brother, ignoring my feelings.
I really can't get over this.
Xiao Ke, we're full, come and wash the dishes. ”
I really didn't want to pay attention to her, and my heart was full of anger.
I replied with a gloomy face, "Mom, come and wash up, I was very tired from cooking just now." ”
The mother-in-law came over: "Aren't you just washing a dish?"Can't you do that?I replied, "It's not that I can't do it, I'm just tired."
It won't be anything if you wash it, you don't say anything in advance and bring Cui Ru here, otherwise I will be more relaxed at home alone at noon. ”
The mother-in-law said, "Xiao Ke, why do you talk like this?."As your sister-in-law, what's wrong with your brother-in-law coming here for a few days?We are all a family, so why bother?I asked you to wash the dishes, and you are so unhappy, so afraid of losing?Why did you marry my son Ah Guang in the first place?Wouldn't it be better if you were straight single?I walked in and took a sip of water: "Mom, I'm marrying him, not his whole family."
I have a duty to help him, but I have no obligation to you.
Moreover, when I gave birth to a child, you also said that it had nothing to do with you, and you didn't help bring it for a day, but now you come to talk to me about friendship, don't you think you are too much?"I'm not a person who swallows my anger, she was not polite to me first, why should I respect her first?I said, "Okay, if you don't wash it, just put it there, and when Ah Guang comes back in the evening, you will wash it again."
You said that the family should not be too careful, but should be affectionate, so it is natural for your son to take on some family responsibilities. ”
The mother-in-law said: "Xiao Ke, you are idle at home and don't do things, but you ask Ah Guang to come back to do it, isn't he tired after a day of work?"It's so stingy to be a woman like that. ”
I replied, "You said don't care, you say it's a family responsibility, yes, he is also a member of the family, and he naturally has to take responsibility." ”
If she makes me uncomfortable, then I will do my best, and I will make her son unhappy.
The mother-in-law came over and said, "Okay, I'll wash it." ”
Then, she came over and washed the dishes herself.
09.After washing, she made some more admonitions to her brother and daughter-in-law, and then left.
After the mother-in-law left, the brother-in-law said, "Sister-in-law, I want to go in and sleep for a while, which room will I live in?"."In addition to the master bedroom and our daughter's room, we have two empty rooms, one larger and the other smaller.
I replied, "You should stay in the bigger room first, and when your brother comes home from work, I'll see what he does." ”
The younger brother and daughter-in-law said, "How to arrange it?"Isn't it just to stay here for a while?Sister-in-law, you have worked hard to cook, by the way, I like to eat pig's feet very much, you can buy more pig's feet to eat in the future. ”
I replied, "It depends." ”
Then I walked out the door.
I was depressed by my mother-in-law, and I didn't even want to do work.
It's really annoying.
I took out my phone and looked at it, but my husband didn't reply to me.
He can't take care of his own mother, but he has caused me so much trouble, and if he doesn't give me an explanation when he comes back at night, I won't care about them anymore.
It doesn't matter how you eat in the future.
I think of all the unfair treatment that my mother-in-law treated me in the past, and I feel very unbalanced.
Why should I cook for her?She didn't pay for our food.
Originally, it was not my responsibility, it should be my mother-in-law's responsibility to take care of her.
As a result, as soon as she changed hands, she sent her brother-in-law to my house, and I just didn't agree.
I wonder if the little uncle knows about this?I thought about it for a while, and then sent a message to my brother-in-law: "Ah Ming, my mother sent Cuiru to my house, and she said to let your brother take care of her and help take care of Cuiru's body and fetus every day."
Did you ask her to send it?"I did think he knew, but soon I received a reply from my brother-in-law.
Sister-in-law, what did you say?Did my mom send her to you?She obviously promised me that she would take care of Cuiru for a while when she returned home.
Why did she send her to your house?Isn't my brother very busy at work?Why is my mom so brainless?I don't agree, how can my brother agree?Didn't he know that this would avoid suspicion?I couldn't accept that my eldest brother was delivering his own brother-in-law.
Forget it, sister-in-law, I'll call my mother right away and let Cuiru go home to live. ”
When I saw my brother-in-law's reply, I realized that my mother-in-law didn't let my brother-in-law know about it.
It's easier to deal with this way, as long as the brother-in-law doesn't agree, then the mother-in-law can't listen to my opinion, at least she will listen to her son's opinion, right?Thinking about this, I finally feel a little more comfortable.
Not long after, my husband actually called me **.
As soon as I picked it up, he said impatiently: "Xiao Ke, you have to take care of the children at home and cook some food."
Why did you mention Cuiru to my brother?I'm a professional doctor, so even if I deliver her, there will be no problem.
In the eyes of doctors, patients have no distinction between genders, let alone relatives.
After you told Ah Ming, he called ** and scolded me directly, saying that I didn't know moderation, and I actually thought about my brother's wife.
I was so wronged, I didn't have that kind of mind at all, I just felt like I had this expertise as a doctor.
Now that Cuiru is about to give birth, I can just guarantee that she will have a safer and smooth delivery.
My mother, me, and Cuiru all think it's okay, but you two have such dirty ideas, what's wrong?Hearing her husband's words, he was willing to help take care of his brother and daughter-in-law.
It really makes me angry, why doesn't he know the boundaries?If he really does this, it will be very awkward to meet in the future, how to get along?And I'm married to him, and I just mind if he does it.
I don't care if he helps other strangers deliver babies, but I can't help my brother and daughter-in-law deliver babies.
Not only me, but also my brother-in-law disagreed.
I said aggrievedly: "You are a 32-year-old man, why don't you realize the word avoidance at all?."Just like in the melon field and plums, Cuiru is your brother's wife, and he also cares very much about your brother helping her deliver the baby, which is a very sensitive issue.
If you don't listen to our advice and insist on doing so, then your brother and I will have a lump in our hearts, and it will be very difficult for us to get along like this.
Don't call me stingy.
I have made my thoughts very clear, you are already married and should be careful about your behavior. ”
My husband said, "Okay, I can't communicate with you, I'm hanging." ”
After saying that, he hung up angrily.
And I, on the other hand, felt empty inside.
He hadn't even realized his mistake.
It really makes me sad.
11.At 6 p.m., my husband came home, my brother-in-law got up, and I had ready dinner.
As soon as my husband got home, he asked me very kindly: "Cuiru, is your baby's fetal movement normal?"The sister-in-law replied, "It's normal, everything is fine." ”
My husband then said, "Do you need me to check your blood pressure?"I also have a blood pressure monitor here, so I'll check it out for you. ”
He took out a blood pressure monitor and walked up to his sister-in-law, not only measured her blood pressure, but also touched her stomach a few times.
Then he said contentedly: "The fetal position is very positive, and the chance of a smooth birth is relatively good at that time, which is good." ”
Watching my husband gently talk to my brother-in-law and caress her belly, I felt a wave of jealousy in my heart, he didn't have such care and gentleness when she was pregnant.
Their interaction was like a picture of a family of three, which really embarrassed me.
Just as I was about to say something, the doorbell rang.
I walked over and opened the door, and when I saw that it was my mother-in-law, I was surprised.
My mother-in-law came in with a cold face and an unhappy look, as if I owed her a lot of money.
I smiled and asked, "Mom, why are you back again?".Aren't you planning to go home?The mother-in-law replied: "It's all because of you, you told my son that I brought Cuiru here, and he has already bought a ticket to come back, and he wants to personally arrange Cuiru's residence, and I am not allowed to leave."
He's going to be home soon, so we'll have dinner here tonight, and you hurry up and buy me some more food, it's all your trouble. ”
I pretended to be calm on the surface, but in fact I laughed happily inside.
The little uncle was in a hurry to come back.
Although it was late, it was already past seven o'clock, and it was impossible for the vegetable market to still have vegetables, so I had to go to the supermarket.
Although I don't like to go to the supermarket, I thought that my brother-in-law might take my brother-in-law with him when he came back, so I immediately went out and ran.
When I arrived at the nearby supermarket, I found that there were basically no dishes, only cold vegetables and braised vegetables, I bought some casually, and also bought a roast duck, which was really convenient and took it home directly.
When I got home, I saw that my brother-in-law had arrived.
As soon as I entered, he affectionately called me sister-in-law.
I was very happy and smiled and said, "You're back, come wash your hands and eat." ”
12.We all sat down at the table, and the brother-in-law said, "Brother, I will rent another house for Cuiru to live in, so I don't have to live in your house."
In addition, when Cuiru gives birth, it is good for you to help find a female doctor, and you don't need to deliver the baby yourself, so I don't want to give you too much trouble. ”
I kept my head down and didn't speak, but my heart rejoiced.
Haha, sure enough, it was the uncle who came forward to solve it.
The husband replied: "Okay, I know, when she is about to give birth, I will communicate with my colleagues, now that there are fewer people who have children, they can live in a single room." ”
The little uncle said: "That's good, by the way, I want to live with you tonight for the time being, tomorrow I will rent a house, Mom, you don't have to go back to your hometown, go directly to the place where you rent a house to take care of her." ”
The mother-in-law may be unhappy, but in the face of her son's request, she is helpless, so she only nodded: "Okay, I know, I will go back to get the clothes tomorrow." ”
All I can say is, you say, am I doing the right thing?