How many people would think that the closest person they can rely on in this life is their wife?If your wife is unreliable and unfriendly, who else is reliable and who is pro?In his old age, who else can he rely on?Although many people think that the closest person around them is undoubtedly their wife, their wife has been with them for decades, the two have experienced so many things, how many ups and downs have come over, they must believe in their wife, if their wife is not close, then there is no amiable person.
That being said, many discordant couples, their level of mutual trust is almost zero, even after decades of life, their relationship is like an enemy, there is no credibility, not close at all, why is this?Next, let's take a look at the personal experiences of the following three people, after listening to their experiences, you will find that the closest person in his later years is not his wife.
My surname is Sue, I'm 68 years old, and frankly, marrying my wife and I was one of the most regrettable choices of my life. If it weren't for my parents' insistence that I marry her, I wouldn't have been able to marry her, which I regret very much now.
Since my wife and I got married, we've barely communicated. My personality is the kind of person who doesn't like to talk, and her personality is the complete opposite of mine, very talkative. Every time she spoke to me, I didn't want to ignore her and let her talk to herself alone. Probably because I didn't like her, I hated everything she did, and even considered divorcing her. However, my parents threatened me that otherwise the chances of me and my wife being separated were slim to none, which made me feel very helpless in my marriage.
My parents thought that my wife was from a better family, and if I married her, I wouldn't have to have such a hard time. Considering my family's poverty, they felt that no other girl would want to marry me. So, no matter what, my parents insisted that I marry my wife so that I would have offspring and not have to worry that I would die alone.
Indeed, what my parents said is right, my family is so poor, if I find a wife by myself, I guess I can't find it, and my earning ability is also limited, and my monthly income is just that, if I can marry a wife, I will have a lot of peace of mind, I don't have to work so hard, and I don't have to worry about my livelihood.
I really need a woman who is behind me to support me, to have children, to help me with my career, and to do laundry and cooking. I once thought that if I worked harder and earned more money, would I be able to find the woman I wantedHowever, the reality is so cruel, it is really not easy to make money, and in desperation, I have to endure it.
After a few decades, the children all started families. Our relationship as husband and wife is still cold and more distant than strangers. We interact with each other like a partner, satisfying each other's needs, and nothing else. Maybe it's because I'm not the person I like, I don't have much affection for her, and I don't have much happiness in living together. At the same time, she was not the closest person to me, I never told her about anything, where I was going or what I was doing. And vice versa, we don't want to get to know each other too much. As long as both parties live a good life and don't let their children worry, they don't bother to care too much about other things.
My surname is Lan and I am 67 years old. When it comes to my relationship with my wife, it really makes me angry because he is really too much, and he is extremely stingy and calculating. Obviously, we are already married, and he has to divide it so clearly, and he has never mentioned it before getting married, and the two must pass the rules of the AA system. This proposal made me so angry that I wanted to leave that night.
Although I am not a strong woman, I never intended to covet my wife's possessions. How much money he has is his business, and although I am not rich myself, I am enough to cover my expenses. I also saved a lot of money when I was working before, so I didn't need to spend it at all. But he thinks I'm a lavish woman, so I have to be careful not to run out of money. I was so angry that I wanted to cry without tears.
If I hadn't just gotten married, I would have really wanted to file for divorce and even slap him in the face. But I didn't want to be the laughing stock of other people's discussions, and I didn't want to embarrass my parents, so I had to compromise and accept the AA system proposed by my wife. Since then, we have started the AA life.
In fact, before my wife proposed the AA system, I liked him very much. I imagined a happy life after marriage, but one sentence shattered my good expectations, and from then on, I had a little resentment towards him in my heart, and I no longer loved him as much as I used to. The relationship between us is like that of two strangers, who seem to have to pay for every word they say, and they are reluctant to talk to each other. Feelings slowly fade away, and our lives become more and more difficult.
Every day, we are as silent as strangers, and our words seem to pay for them. The relationship between us gradually faded, I only did my best during meals, and he never brought me a copy when he bought takeout. Every time my friends came to my house and saw his indifferent attitude, they wondered if we were really husband and wife. We get along more like tenants and landlords, each for ourselves. My friends often give me small gifts, and I also give me something I like on my birthday, but my wife and I have been married for so many years and have not gotten anything. Not to mention that he took practical actions, and even refused to give verbal birthday wishes, such coldness is chilling.
I thought to myself, "Forget it, he's such a person, don't expect him to be nice to me." I just have to live my life, he can do whatever he wants, just don't make me angry again. "I was able to endure it until one day, I really couldn't take it anymore and had a heated argument with him. If it weren't for the persuasion of my children, I might have insisted on the divorce.
It happened on his mother's birthday, and he sealed a thick red envelope, but he didn't tell me the exact amount beforehand. I thought to myself, it is enough for one person to seal a red envelope between husband and wife, and there is no need for both of them to seal it. Therefore, when I found out that he had prepared a red envelope, I ignored it. However, when I returned from his parents' house that day, he immediately approached me and demanded half of the money. He said that he sealed 10,000 yuan and asked me to return 5,000 to him. Seeing his attitude of asking me for money, I was really heartbroken and began to reflect on why I married such a person. Why didn't you get divorced in the first place?I have been living in depression, others have a considerate and loving husband, but I always need to worry about him, how can such a husband become my closest person?
My surname is Zhong and I am 62 years old. Ever since I got married to my wife, I have been looking forward to living a good life and working together for this little family. However, my wife's behavior disappointed me because he was really selfish and only cared for himself and seemed to exclude us from the family.
I have been working hard for this family, but no matter how hard I work and how I dedicate, it seems to be in vain. My wife went to play when she was full all day, and she never seriously considered making money in a down-to-earth manner. He always looked down on those low-paying small jobs, disdained jobs that earned a hundred or dozens of dollars a day, and always felt that he was a boss, but he was full of unrealistic illusions about the future. Obviously he has nothing in his pocket, but he is picky and disgusted with all kinds of things, how he survived, it is really puzzling to me.
In this family, the only one who makes money is me. In addition to supporting his family, the money earned has to be used to support him. As soon as he was penniless, he came to me and asked for money. And the reason he asks for money is usually to play mahjong. I tried to persuade him not to go again, but he always refused to listen, thinking that he would win with good luck. However, if you lose and lose, you can't earn a penny, but you lose a lot. But he has no remorse, and if I don't give him money, he will borrow money from everywhere. However, since he could not return it on time, no one was willing to lend it to him. In the village, he was one of the most untrusted people, and no one dared to lend it to him, because once it was lent to him, it was very difficult to take it back.
I was kind to him in every way, but he didn't know how to cherish it. Ask yourself, over the years, almost all of what he wears and uses is bought at my own expense, and even the things I am reluctant to buy have been spent on him. However, he still didn't know how to cherish me. On such an important day as my birthday, he didn't even say a word of blessing, let alone ask him to buy a cake or send a flower. I was very disappointed in his selfishness.
He is not a qualified husband at all and lacks a sense of responsibility. This makes him not the closest person to me, because if he were the closest person, he would not be so indifferent to me. In all these decades of marriage, I have never enjoyed a penny from him, nor have I been treated with kindness by him. I'm really blind, how could I marry such a useless man, I really regret it. 100 help plan