My brother has two daughters, the eldest is a freshman in high school this year, the exam results are up and down, the latest exam results are very bad, the elder brother tutors the boss at night, and sees that the same or similar questions have only been talked about for a few days, and after a few days they make mistakes, the elder brother gritted his teeth angrily and said, "How can you take the exam like this?".Forget it, don't take the test!"Sometimes I get angry and want to do it. Adults speak badly and have a bad temper, and children learn while crying many times. Grandma was worried about her granddaughter and reprimanded her brother: "You can learn what you are, whether you do well in the exam or not, don't always push her, make the child stupid, then you will have to take care of her for the rest of your life!."”
The night before the last midterm exam, the child did the exercise Xi book, and there was a question that I got wrong, and I explained it to her, and she said she understood, and the next day in the math exam, she took a similar question in the math exam, and did it wrong. I was speechless. She can make the same topic or similar topic seven or eight times wrong, and after talking about it over and over again, I was so angry that she cried, and I said speechlessly: "You still have the face to cry, I want to cry!."”
I hope that the son will become a dragon, and the daughter will become a phoenix, I believe that many parents have this feeling when tutoring their children's homework, anxious, powerless, hating iron does not become steel, not learning Xi when the father is kind and filial piety, and when learning Xi, the chicken flies and the dog jumps!I continued this state for a long time, until my child learned to kick shuttlecock Xi, and I saw that my child's progress suddenly had a different idea!
The teacher assigned the children the task of punching in and kicking the shuttlecock every day, and asked the parents to take photos and punch in and upload them to the WeChat group. Kicking the shuttlecock can exercise the body, and my children and I actively complete the check-in task. The child insists on kicking for 5 to 10 minutes every day, she can't kick, and when she first kicks, she can only kick once, and the shuttlecock will fall off. After a while, you can gradually kick twice without dropping. After more than a month, it developed into being able to kick three or four times in a row, and sometimes even five kicks at a time. I can see that she is improving little by little. Many children in the same class did not persevere, fishing for three days and drying nets for two days, and did not punch in after playing for a few days, and there were probably less than ten who could persevere.
In the class competition, she kicked the shuttlecock, and she took second place. She came home to tell me the good news, and I praised her and told her, "The reason why you can win the award is the result of your own hard work, you can only play one at the beginning and now you can play four or five, because you keep practicing every day Xi If the children in your class insist on kicking, they can also kick very well, but many of them don't insist on kicking, in fact, it's not difficult to stick to kicking shuttlecock every day, right?The child thought about it and nodded!
After the game, the teacher did not ask the child to punch in and kick the shuttlecock, and the child still insisted on kicking the shuttlecock for a short time every day, and the number of continuous shuttlecock kicking was increasing, and the progress was obvious.
From the fact that the child kicks the shuttlecock, I have been inspired, we are always anxious, we have high requirements for the child, I want the child to know everything at once, add a lot of burden to them, add a lot of homework, and when we see the child's bad grades, we will vent our bad emotions on the child, which is not right. The child is psychologically uncomfortable, stressed, and unable to learn.
I reflect that I shouldn't be too my children. If the child's receptivity is poor, when we tutor the child, the requirements are not too high, every day to understand a wrong question, to understand a knowledge point is progress, over time, the foundation is solid, the child's grades will naturally improve.
We accompany the children and make Xi plans with them. Every day, the child insists on pre-Xi and re-Xi, completes the homework assigned by the teacher, analyzes the wrong questions, and reads extracurricular books for half an hour. Let's calm down and be Buddhist parents, children learn to make a mistake and understand a knowledge point is progress, if the child can understand, talk a little more!Also, be sure to let your child go to bed before 9 p.m.!
Learning Xi is a long-term process, even if children only understand one knowledge point every day, there will be a qualitative leap over time!We must adjust our mentality, accompany our children, and wait for the flowers to bloom!