Article First Challenge The first recitation PK competition of the class is over, which should be a happy result, but because of the participation of parents, it has made a mess.
Some parents come to the teacher to intercede because their children have not been selectedSome parents are upset because their children did not enter the semi-finals, and some parents even want the school to ask for an explanation because their children were temporarily taken down.
It was originally an activity for children to cultivate a collective concept and learn to be serious and diligent, but in the end it became a conflict between home and school, and the outbreak of family conflicts
Is it because of the fear that the child will be bullied?Or do you want to make decisions for your child?Or is it just to assert one's authority?Either way, it's an over-intervention and over-protection of the child.
This kind of hurting children in the name of love is another form of mental abuse of children.
It seems that parents rush to the front line to protect their children, but in fact, they deprive their children of the opportunity to face problems and solve problems, hindering their children's growth, and they are standard "** parents".
The so-called "** parents" refer to parents who interfere excessively in their children's lives, and they hover around their children all the time like *** and supervise their children's every move.
They often focus too much on their children's academic performance, and a small practice can make them anxious for a long time and think a lotIt will interfere with the child's social and daily activities, and once the child has negative emotions, it will be like a great enemy, constantly amplifying, and the child will fall into a breakdown;They will overly interfere with their children's decision-making and behavior, and feel that their children's handling style is immature and they have to make their own decisions.
It seems that they want to eliminate all difficulties and setbacks for their children and achieve the goals they have set, but in fact, children who have not experienced setbacks and difficulties cannot really grow up.
So in this sense, from the "** parent" is depriving the child of the opportunity to grow, breaking the child's wings to fly to the blue sky, will have very bad consequences for the child's future development.
Children who have been overly intervened and protected by their parents for a long time often lose their autonomy and independence, and it is difficult for them to make decisions on their own even when they grow up;In the face of life's challenges, they often choose to escape and cannot cope;Some also fall into chronic anxiety, struggle under pressure, and eventually choose to give up on their growth.
To change all this, we need to do the following:
Every problem a child faces is an opportunity for the child to make decisions and solve problems.
Only by seizing these opportunities can children grow, even if they will feel aggrieved, regretful and even painful in the process. These are the experiences of life, the exploration of the child's inner spiritual world, and the experience of these children will evolve and transform.
Parents can provide guidance and support when their children need help, but don't take the place of them.
For example, when a child has negative emotions due to a loss in a game, parents should help them transform their emotions instead of amplifying them, or go directly to the teacher to change the rules.
Each child has their own unique interests and talents, and parents should respect and support their choices.
Encourage children to participate in a variety of activities, such as sports, arts, etc., so that they have the opportunity to develop their strengths and interests. Parents can provide the necessary resources and support, but don't interfere unduly or force their children to pursue things they are not interested in.
For example, some children like to recite, but parents feel that it is a waste of time, in order to give their children one more chance, they force their children to learn sketching, so that children can not feel the joy of learning.
Involving children in household matters, such as housework, financial management, etc., can foster a sense of responsibility and independence.
Parents can discuss with their children ways to share family responsibilities and give them decision-making power accordingly. This allows children to feel important and valued while fostering their autonomy and self-confidence.
Children need understanding, encouragement, and comfort from their parents.
When they face difficulties or setbacks, parents should give them emotional support and develop their ability to face failure bravely instead of being overly interfering or blaming.
By building a good emotional connection with their children, parents can be their supporters and confidants, helping them build positive emotional regulation.
In conclusion, parents who truly love their children are only those who are given appropriate autonomy and room for development, respect their choices and decisions, and provide the necessary support and guidance.
Give up being a "** airplane", pay attention to the hearts of children, and let every child grow up happily and freely!
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