Now in the blind date market, the social security and pension of both parents are the hardest indicators
In recent years, there has been an unusual trend in the blind date market: both men and women place the social security and pension status of their parents in the first place in the conditions of the matchmaking, while the other conditions of the individual are relatively secondary. This phenomenon has put many young men and women from rural areas in a disadvantageous situation in the blind date market, because farmers do not have social security for workers and cannot enjoy retirement pensions in the future, which will inevitably burden the family pension in the future.
Especially for post-95 boys from rural areas, this is particularly unfair. After a long period Xi of hard study, they finally found a job on their own, and they could afford a mortgage and car loan for 30 years, hoping to meet the girls' demands, but the reality has changed dramatically, and owning a house and a car is no longer enough to win the hearts of the girls.
However, a person's origin is not an individual choice, which seems to be an unfair fate for these boys. I once asked a girl why the most important criterion is whether the man's parents have employees' social security and retirement pensions
She replied that if the man's parents have employee social security and pension, they can have a pension of at least 3,000 yuan, and the length of service may even reach more than 6,000 yuan. With this money, seniors can provide strong financial support for small families. Having social security means enjoying lifelong medical insurance, most of the medical expenses can be reimbursed, and there is basically no pressure on the individual. If you don't have health insurance, you have to pay the full amount out of pocket, and a serious illness can put the whole family in trouble. If the elderly do not have a pension, they need to spend the savings of the younger couple to see a doctor, so that the gap in family economy is highlighted!Nowadays, it is not easy to make money, and young people are burdened with mortgages, car loans, and children's education
She also mentioned that the man's parents had a longer number of years of social security contributions, indicating that the man's parents had a higher education when they were young and were likely to be university students. At that time, college students were regarded as one in a hundred talents, and their gold content was higher than now, and they were the elite group of society. After graduating, they are assigned jobs by the state and enter the system. At the moment, they are still the most privileged in the system, they own several properties and a few cars, and they usually buy them in full and without any debt. The couple's children were usually only children, as family planning policies were so strict at the time that having more than one child could lead to dismissal from the workplace. The advantage of a one-child family is that the economic conditions are better, and the interpersonal relationships of the family in the future are relatively simple. Only children are usually able to control their emotions well due to their superior conditions and stable personality, and they are not easy to go to extremes and are easier to get along with. They will bring the happiness of their original family into their own small family, and since they have no siblings, the property of the elderly will be passed on to their small family in the future.
After hearing these words, I suddenly became enlightened. By analyzing the people and things around me, I found that this girl's point of view is very accurate!
The people around me who have more than 30 years of social security contributions are basically college students in the 80s, and I myself am among them. After graduation, these college students were assigned to jobs by the state, became national civil servants, entered the system smoothly, and have paid social security for more than 30 years
People who have not had social security for more than 30 years are basically outside the system, or those who have been laid off from state-owned enterprises and are unemployed. Of course, due to their lower pension levels and poor economic conditions, there is a gap compared to those in the system.
People who do not have social security at all are usually self-employed or self-employed when they are young, or farmers. Self-employed people may have earned a lot of money at the beginning, but with the further development of the economy, self-employed people began to decline, serious involution, many self-employed went bankrupt, and the proportion of self-employed people who recorded bankruptcy information in the credit information system was not small. The economic base of the peasants is even weaker, with the exception of those in urban villages.
Those who have more than 30 years of social security contributions, whose family financial situation is generally better, have two or three full-payment houses, two or three cars, which is quite common in my observation. The children of these people usually live happily and have a high quality of life, and most of them are a child who lives a sunny life without extreme situations. The main reason is that these families do not have any debts, and while the salary level may not be very high, their quality of life is very high due to the fact that they do not have to pay loans and debts!
Out of curiosity, I further investigated the backgrounds of some of their parents and found that my guess was not correct at all!
Most of these people had parents who were workers, but a few were university students who later entered state-owned enterprises and became working-class. Modern young people may be confused when the working class is mentioned, because in the fifties and sixties, the social status of workers was the most exalted, much higher than that of civil servants. At that time, the term civil servant was not very popular, but the family life of two dual-income families was heaven and earth at that time!There is a worker's family, and life is much better than that of a peasant.
In those days, it was easy to find a partner as long as you were a worker. I once saw a man who was only 160 cm tall, in his 30s, but married a beautiful woman in the countryside who was 170 cm tall, only in his 20s, and the two had a group of children, and the children were also very tall, inherited their mother's height, and the family lived very happily!
It is the hard work of generations of people who have made these only children in today's cities possible, so that they can have no worries about food and clothing. Sometimes I think that it is indeed impossible to ignore the noble son who is difficult to come out of a poor family nowadays. Because the ancestors of those poor families did not struggle in the cities, failed to seize the opportunity of rapid urbanization at the time of the founding of the People's Republic of China, and did not go through the efforts of generation after generation, this led to the relative poverty of future generations. The sentence "Why did the struggle of several generations of people lose to you for ten years of hard work" is deeply reasonable. Because the dividends of the times are not something that one generation can fully enjoy.
I have a colleague who was born in 1940 in a rural area and has only attended school for a few years, claiming to have only studied two books of primary school. When he was 15 years old, he came to Beijing with his relatives. There was a shortage of people everywhere in Beijing, so he was accepted into the Capital Iron and Steel Works, which helped him with cultural Xi and fitter skills, and he became an apprentice. Later, the factory applied for a Beijing household registration for him, and he also became an eighth-level fitter!
If this were to happen now, it would be difficult for even PhDs to obtain a Beijing hukou in two years, let alone a hukou in the core area, but just an ordinary suburban hukou. This is the dividend of the development of the times, which appeared only in the short period of the fifties, and whether you can catch it or not will determine the fate of you and your descendants!
Therefore, we can draw a conclusion: catching up with the development dividends of the times is not the work of one generation, but requires multiple generations of continuous struggle to be able to enjoy the dividends of these times and ultimately benefit future generations.
Back to the topic of social security and pensions. Those with high pensions are living a wonderful life at the moment. Nowhere happier are there than in cities where there are families with pensions for three generations. Their descendants are all only children in the city, and they are supported by four retired elderly people in the system, so it can be said that they have no worries about food and clothing. Although they may not be rich, they never worry about making a living. After the only child in these cities gets married, through strong alliances, even if they have two or three children, they don't have to pay a penny out of their own pockets, and a few elderly people can afford it. The old people are also willing to spend money on it, because it is their way of enjoying their families.
On the contrary, for rural families without pensions, life for future generations is unimaginably difficult. Even after ten years of hard study, they were admitted to the university, due to the large number of college students, their value decreased, and the state no longer allocated them after graduation, and they could not enter the system. In the fierce competition, it is difficult to find a formal job, and you can only choose to work outside the system, with low wages, being far away from home, and maintaining your own livelihood are all major problems.
Coupled with the high housing prices, it is difficult to talk about marriage without a house. As a result, the family had to borrow money to make a down payment and take on a 30-year mortgage. Worst of all, there may also be the threat of job loss and credit history. Even if they finally marry their wives, their parents are getting older and have more health problems, and there is no medical insurance and pension, and once they are hospitalized, all the expenses have to be borne by the young couple themselves. The economic pressure is not small, and rural people often insist on having a second or third child, and in the face of various loans and the pressure of raising multiple children, the life of young people has become breathless. At this time, once the parents were hospitalized, it became the last straw that broke the camel's back, destroying this small family that had been difficult to establish.
There are too many such examples in real life, which can be confirmed by both positive and negative examples. Overall, families with high pensions are relatively happier.
In today's blind date market, if there is no social security, there must be strong financial resources to offset this defect, otherwise it is difficult to succeed in blind date. In the past, the same was true, at that time, more attention was paid to the hukou, and I didn't like the rural hukou, and what I could make do was a single-income family, preferably a dual-income family. Since ancient times, marriage has never been a simple matter of love, but a trade-off of various interests.
Therefore, it is completely understandable that girls now regard the pension of the man's parents as the hardest indicator in the blind date market. After all, everyone wants to marry into a good family