Recently, Beijing ophthalmologist Tao Yong asked his daughter to wash dishes on her 12th birthday, causing heated discussions. On December 26th, @北京眼科医生陶勇 responded: Hello everyone, two days ago on my daughter's birthday, the child was 12 years old, and I wanted to share, just like usual, I wrote a small essay record, but I didn't expect the child to wash the dishes This caused a storm on the Internet, and there are some untrue news spreading, so I will respond here.
My parents have a good relationship, they respect each other equally, I am the only child in the family, and the family is not poor. My wife and I grew up in a harmonious and free family atmosphere, and we always wanted our only daughter to grow up in a balanced and free way. We try not to put pressure on her grades, but the important thing is that she is healthy, optimistic, brave and confident, and has the ability to take care of herself and others. At the birthday party, I asked her to pick up vegetables for the elders and wash the dishes after dinner, which was intended to let her know that she was a year older and had to learn to take on more responsibilities at home, but I ignored the feelings of the little birthday star. I thought that the humorous words and ** caused a storm and also made me reflect. On the child's birthday, it is indeed inappropriate to deliberately create this so-called "sense of growth ritual" and make ridicule. The education of children is not only in terms of concept, but also in whether every communication and behavior is effective and appropriate.
In a family life full of fireworks, everyone is alive. There is no 100% experience of parents, and there is no standard family model to refer to. My family and I are also exploring a suitable parent-child education path and relationship mode, but no matter which path it is, it is accompanied by love. Netizens suggested that I buy a dishwasher, I think it's very good, welcome to recommend. Thank you again for your attention and suggestions, I will continue to revise and strive for improvement.
Previously reported: A well-known doctor was scolded on the hot search!On his daughter's birthday, he insisted on doing one thing, and netizens quarreled.
Everyone remembers.
Affiliated with Capital Medical University.
Tao Yong, ophthalmologist at Beijing Chaoyang Hospital?
On January 20, 2020, there was a violent injury to a doctor in the ophthalmology department of Chaoyang Hospital, when a man suddenly entered the consultation room with a knife and slashed Tao Yong. Tao Yong suffered a fracture of his left hand, a neuromuscular blood vessel rupture, a head injury, and a fracture of the occipital bone, and was out of danger after two weeks.
On May 13, Tao Yong resumed his visit. In August, Tao Yong won the 12th "Chinese Physician Award" and was deeply loved by netizens and patients.
Recently, though. Dr. Tao Yong once again attracted the attention of netizens.
Not because of medicine, but because of his Weibo.
was criticized for being "full of daddy".
Related discussions even rushed to the hot search.
What the hell is going on?
Originally. Dr. Tao Yong on December 23.
Shared on Weibo.
Everyday life with my 12-year-old daughter.
In the article, it was mentioned that on her birthday, her daughter did not cooperate with the photo.
After asking his daughter to serve food to her elders, Tao Yong also hoped that her daughter could wash the dishes. After being dissuaded by his family, Tao Yong still said that he moved his daughter to wash the dishes.
Tao Yong was happy about this.
So I posted a post to share this matter.
It was supposed to be a very small thing.
After it was sent.
It has been criticized by a large number of netizens.
Criticism and controversy.
Probably from several aspects.
Should a child's birthday be based on the child's mood?
Should dishwashing be a must-have skill for girls?
Does a girl have to be a lady?
And the wording in Tao Yong's sharing.
Let netizens think.
Tao Yong is using a set.
Patriarchal didactic education.
Too much interference and education on the child's birthday.
In order to let the little girl who does not cooperate.
Become a lady. 
Dr. Tao Yong's Weibo.
There were thousands of comments, and then the Weibo was deleted.
The doctor sent a long article to support Tao Yong.
Late at night on December 24th.
has more than 3.3 million followers.
Doctor big V "Ophthalmology Superman Lao Liang".
sent a long article to support Tao Yong.
called him his own senior brother.
It's not a daddy man.
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Laughing to death. Netizens amplified and substituted themselves. Tao Yong, my senior brother, is not a fatherly man.
His brain is extremely intelligent, except for the lack of a worldly string. Therefore, when others reach middle age, they are still youthful. A simple intellectual, thinking about the world too simply.
He loves ophthalmology, which is why he wipes the buttocks of his peers and performs the last surgery on patients who have failed many surgeries, so he becomes the object of hatred of patients, being chased by kitchen knives and splashed with blood in the clinic. He could have left it alone.
He is not so good at mundane complex emotions, so expressing emotions is direct. I am too busy at work to see my family a few times a week. He lives near the hospital, his parents live in Beijing's North Fifth Ring Road, and his wife and daughter live in Beijing's South Fifth Ring Road. Taking advantage of his daughter's birthday, he may want to show his daughter's sensible and caring in front of relatives and friends, but it turns out that he forces his daughter to "serve rice" to her grandparents, make "roast duck rolls" for her uncle and aunt, and "pick vegetables" for her mother. Well, I think he swooped out and overturned.
His daughter, Tao Tao, is a girl with a personality. As the daughter of a Xueba doctor, Tao Tao did not suffer from childhood. Dr. Tao is not a chicken baby at all, and he has no interest in cultivating another scholar. He respects children's talents, and Tao Tao's learning is entirely based on interest. How many doctors, lawyers, and teachers are not chickens, do not force children to study, and the parent-child relationship is not tense?
The so-called persecution of his daughter to "wash dishes and chopsticks", hoping that her daughter will not be so "obedient", these people can rest assured that he does not have a PUA child, but his little superstition. Because, most of his doctors, sisters, and female doctors he trained are not married. We are all too independent, not dependent on men, intelligent, high-minded, stubborn and arrogant. We often complained about our misogyny in front of him. So, Senior Brother Tao always thought it was his own reason, he was like an old father who was sincerely afraid, and he couldn't marry a room of daughters.
He was a materialist, and even passed by the temple to ask for marriage for us, and constantly helped the female doctors introduce partners. When the subject of our research is at a bottleneck, and he cries a handful of snot and tears in his office, he will sigh: Do you want to marry or not?Why bother to study for a Ph.D. to embarrass yourself.
Here's how I replied to him: A doctor's certificate is much more fragrant than a marriage certificate!
He also wanted me to be a "lady", a less cynical "perverse", and he had given up a long time ago and stopped nagging me.
He is a gentleman who respects women, he is a straight man, he wants to show his baby but overturns, and he wants his daughters around him to be happy. A post-80s elderly person may think that a woman's happiness needs a man. Because he also thought that all men could carry a piece of the sky like him.
There are also netizens who are the same as @OphthalmologyLittle Superman Lao Liang.
expressed support for Dr. Tao Yong.
Both boys and girls need to do proper housework".
Jade can't be cut into a tool".
Picture from @Beijing ophthalmologist Tao Yong.
Tao Yong, male, born in May 1980 in Nancheng County, Fuzhou City, Jiangxi Province, graduated from Peking University Health Science Center, Doctor of Medicine, doctoral supervisor and professor, chief physician of the Department of Ophthalmology of Beijing Chaoyang Hospital affiliated to Capital Medical University.
The controversy caused by Tao Yong's baby.
What do you think?**Comprehensive nine news, @眼科小超人老梁, @北京眼科医生陶勇, netizen comments.