My old mother did not ask them to do anything, except for checking their temperature from time to time, asking them about their physical condition, and sending water, food, medicine and greetings at designated points.
When they were almost recovered, the house became lively, and the two of them got out of bed and began to pretend: to watch TV, to play games, to go down and ride.
Now that their daily quarrel mode has also restarted, I will tell you the truth, I am still a little worried about their homework.
At dinner, I tentatively asked them to read the information about homework posted in the group. To my surprise, the two children went back to the house and took out their books and started to do their homework!
I was touched by the two of them, why are they so good, why are they so conscious?So I hurriedly followed the rainbow boast in the past, who knew that Dabao came to say: Hehe, if you don't write now, you don't know how much you have to make up when you go to school tomorrow?
Erbao also followed with a sentence, that is!
The smile on my face was a little stiff. Anyway, a child is always a child, and it's always good for her to know that learning Xi is her own thing. It can also be seen that the children's academic pressure is really great, and it has penetrated into their subconscious.
This is reminiscent of a talk show, when children are asked: You didn't get into such and such a school, or your grades are not good, do you feel sorry for your parents?Many children will cry and acquiesce.
Parents don't understand, we have done everything for you, we have treated you as cattle and horses, and we have not asked you to do anything, why are you crying?
In fact, this is typical of parents who do not really understand their children:
Children are very sensitive, they can feel the expectation behind your anxiety from you, and they can detect from your words whether your words are from the heart
Children are born to be grateful, if you are good to him, he will be good to you, for example, when he is very young, he will say to you, Mom, I will buy you a necklace when I grow up!
And as he grew up, he found that you don't need a necklace at all, you don't need any gifts he bought you, but you need his grades, you need him to perform well, and when he works hard and it is difficult for you to be satisfied, he will unconsciously produce aFeelings of guilt and powerlessness
So this of the parentsHeavy love becomes a burden, a hurt, so overwhelming that they can't breathe!So it was further deduced as: The person I love the most, but it hurts me the most!
Those who know me well know that I don't usually have chickens, I don't want their childhood to be depressed, and I focus on creating a relaxed family atmosphere for them. I remind myself all the time:
1. Don't be a 100% mother, don't be a superhuman mother!I have to have a sense of relaxation in my life, and I want to be a relaxed person, after all, I am now middle-aged, and my energy is limited in all aspects, if I ask for perfection everywhere, it must be a price, and I don't want to carry the burden and resentment forward.
2. Don't be overly anxious about the parent-child relationship!Although the parent-child relationship is very important, due to various practical reasons such as the original family, do not overly demand, and the non-forced relationship should be in place in one step, etc., tell yourself: I am also a mother for the first time, I have no experience, take my time to study this matter, as long as it gets better every day.
3. Children are coming with their mission, we don't have to worry too much about what they are doing now and in the future, it's useless to be anxious about them, just grow him at his natural speed, we just nourish them unconditionally like sunshine and rain!
Sorry to digress again, back to the point:
Yesterday I didn't interrupt Dabao's chat with her classmates, and I didn't care about the progress of their homework, I was only responsible for my "nourishment" work.
What surprised me was that after Erbao got up in the morning today, he first ran to take out the book and start drawing words.
In fact, he had already made up a lot of homework last night, after all, he was young, and he kept writing stroke by stroke, and his hands were indeed a little tired. So when he asked, don't write, okay?I said, "No problem." You're already great!So much to make up!）
I was touched by him without warning, "My son is sick and still insists on doing his homework, and it is purely spontaneous, it is worth recording" I want to post a circle of friends. Seeing this, Erbao wrote more seriously.
Seeing this, Dabao explained, "Mom, I didn't finish my homework because I didn't bring it back at school!."”
It doesn't matter, the reason why I didn't go to school to get your homework is because, first, I think that the body is the most important, and you have a good body, which is what your mother wants to see the most;Second, we have only taken two or three days off, and we will not miss many classes, and I believe that you can make up for it when you go to school. ”
Dabao pounced on me and gave me a hug!
Follow-up:
Today, the two babies have recovered and gone to school normally, and I can also breathe a sigh of relief from the old mother, and after sending the child, I found that the sun was very good and warm on my body.
It's not just the sunshine that warms me, it's the lovely children!
I hope that every child is healthy and healthy, I hope that our love can warm the children, and I hope that every family is the warmest harbor for children!Finally, I hope we can all be treated gently!
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